Why Are Small Children Still Dying In Hot Cars? (Take Poll)
Lately there has been a rise not a decline in child deaths in hot cars. Children that were, for one reason or another, ‘forgotten’, or in one case in the news at least (I am certain) there was malice and intent to kill that poor child, Cooper Harris. He was only 22 months old.
In my opinion, this ‘hot car dad’ tried to make what he has seen some declare as an accident in past cases become one instead of facing a murder rap. Too bad they checked out your past and your computer history hot car dad. (I use the word dad loosely.) At least now cops can very clearly see that ‘OK, these are NOT always ‘accidents’ by forgetful people.’ If they are ever, it is a matter of your opinion. I will share mine.
1st off.. a child isn’t a handbag, a pair of sunglasses, or a bag of groceries. I can’t begin to fathom leaving my child, my world, in a hot car, or any car at any time of the year, no matter how busy or even mentally frazzled I might be, in the case of having something stressful on my mind. I just can’t. I would realize super fast that something extremely important was missing from my day-to-day life. Most of hese people go for HOURS not noticing. HOW?
Now I would think that this would go for most people that IF you did become preoccupied somehow and shut the car door and then locked it, walking away. (I know you and I wouldn’t. Not beyond one second if we did.) But wouldn’t this next statement ring true for you? If it were a newborn or infant I would realize ”Ok, my arm isn’t being weighed down by a car seat carrier, why not?” ”Why am I going in and out of stores so easily?” ”It’s quiet, doesn’t somebody need to get a bottle soon?” Then quickly you would know.. ”OH NO! I need to go and get my child.” It would never take as much time as it does to kill the child, which in some cases, isn’t very long.
Toddlers.. they usually make enough noise to know they’re inside of the car. (Mine are never really very quiet and hardly ever napped in there), but even if it’s just a grunt or a flash in the rearview mirror of the carseat..come on. It doesn’t take much to jog that memory. But if I did leave the car, within seconds I would realize that, and I have had 5 of them. I’d know a toddler’s mouth was missing from my life. There’d was too much peace and quiet. Something is very wrong, and I mean that would take seconds not minutes. ”How am I taking a pee alone in peace?” ”Why don’t I hear thunderous running down halls or through store aisles?” I just can’t understand how it takes more than seconds of walking away from a hot, locked car to get a light bulb over the head and turn back around.
It just seems impossible to me to walk away and leave for hours, in some cases 6-8 hours without your child to realize this. How could that child be missing from your life for so long? I mean if you have a small child you know their lives are based on a schedule. Feedings, napping, constant care.
Some say they drove to work forgetting the child was in the backseat. I can understanding rushing. Here in NY we do it everyday, but I can’t understand forgetting to bring my child to the sitter and heading into work without a thought. Maybe one or two cases are legit, but they must be insanely rare. I know I couldn’t live after something so horrific. I wouldn’t feel deserving of life if I was in any way responsible for my child’s demise. Moving on would be impossible.
Could more of these ‘accidental cases’ be on purpose? It’s sick to think that any mom or dad would wish for their child to die in general, much less through the horrible, prolonged death of over-heating, but I believe..yes. And in hearing this all over the news, why is this still happening? Shouldn’t it be jogging brains and spreading awareness?
If I could print up 10 million stickers for every family vehicle that says check your backseats for kids before leaving this car, and put the sticker on their steering wheels I would. I think something like that is needed for those few and far between people who maybe need that memory jogging, Might that help? Well, people never forget to take their keys out of the ignition, right? Looking in that area would show them that sticker and maybe then little lives would be saved. That is what I am thinking.
Something like this, say on the steering wheel might help, no?
But me? I even walk around the perimeter of my car with my kids next to me, just to remember to check and make sure that all of the lights are out. (Sometimes they push one or more buttons, which in turn can kill the battery if I leave the car like that.) If I can remember to do something like that as part of a daily process, I mean come on.. make it practice to check for your kids! It’s just so hard to swallow.
I also think whether accident or not, and I pray that more of these cases are true accidents than malice, it’s just so hard to believe, but I hope these deaths will be on the decline now. Regardless, hot car dad should spend his life in prison. There was clear pre-meditation through his horrific Internet searches and surveillance videos. It was MURDER 1, nothing less.
But, in my opinion, anybody who does this, they deserve some form of punishment. A statement needs to be made to the public that this is not OK, and it needs to stop. This is a criminal action of child neglect, criminal negligence, endangering the welfare of a child at the VERY, very least. Still every case needs to be thoroughly investigated to decide whether more charges need be filed. Even if it is a charge of whatever they call unintentional homicide/ manslaughter. In some cases, like the one all over the news right now with father of the year, murder 1 is absolutely appropriate.
That is my opinion on the subject, tell me what you guys think?
It’s hard for me personally to understand this happening to a normal person without say dementia or something. My mom has major problems with memory and such. I wouldn’t trust her to take my children anywhere at this point in life. Sad but true. Mom and dad are responsible in knowing who is caring for their child, if the child is one that died outside of their custody like baby Aurora, a recent news story. If there are any doubts about grandpa DON’T LET HIM TAKE YOUR BABY!
I don’t blame this mom criminally, and I do feel bad for her, but intelligence wise it was a super poor choice since she did state he had forgetful spells with the child and in general before ,and he was knowingly taking medication.
These stories lately are just so heartbreaking. You can see a dramatization below. Caution, even the strongest of people, parent or not, will likely find themselves in tears. Thankfully, this boy is alright, but it shows what they go through during such a horrible death. I find myself looking in people’s back seat windows lately just ‘in case’. I’d break a window in 1/2 a heartbeat if I saw something. As you will see in the video (and in real life) that sadly, not all people take action. It’s beyond tragic.
”Infants and toddlers are completely defenseless… WE are not. Stop the horror – spread awareness! – Mama P.