When Will I Really Know My Twins Personalities?
When Will I Really Know My Twins Personalities?
My crazy little ladies are 5 years, 3 months, 1 week & 5 days old.
Answer- Their FINAL personality? Not for awhile. Don’t act so convinced 😛 . Read all about it.
Not long after newborns turn into infants we notice definite personality traits emerge behind their little faces and bodies. First through simple mannerisms, and then through more noticeable and more defined behaviors.
When you have two babies at one time it is easy to see the differences and unique traits of each child. One twin may be more ornery, cry more, fuss, like to sleep more or less, is not laid back, is hyper and active even before crawling ever comes into play. One of my twins was always going with the arms and the legs with super alert ‘bug eyes’ we used to call them. And oh was she a cranker starting at about 4 months on for some time, but even earlier she was displeased about SOMETHING we never could figure out. She had a great smile, but she had one heck of a cry that we heard often.
My other twin (Allie) at this same ‘after newborn’ time was very chill, a very good sleeper, a ‘go with the flow’ relaxed attitude kind of child. She cried less, smiled more. She was very easily contented. (I laugh at that now. Now she’s diva queen Allie 😯 , but I digress. The point is that they were definitely never alike from their looks on in. (Except as brand new newborns when they slept all day long. This was a very short time period in the scope of twin life. In looks they were NEVER alike at all.)
Twin moms (and twin mamas-to-be) I will say that even if you notice certain traits along the way, as I was warned once also, things can and will change. The tables WILL turn. When my twins were walking everything was still pretty much the same come age 1 and even beyond for awhile. My chill twin was still my sweetie and better sleeper, peacemaker, less hyper child. It was no surprise to me when she became the most usual bully victim of her co-twin the vast majority of the time.
Bully baby going in for the hair pull.
I always coddled and protected my meek, little Allie and thought she could do no wrong. HA, HA, HA! Those mothers were not lying. I swore this could never, would never change, but it reversed itself drastically. More so than I ever could have ever imagined. My chill twin would now party all night if you’d let her, she hates sleep. My other twin goes down when she feels like she is very tired. My once bullied twin is now definitely more of the bullier of her co-twin and is such a handful. Her sweet, little ways are no longer, but I still hold on to those days and the memory of my sweetie pie :lol:. She’s much more demanding, and she IS less affectionate. That was the opposite way back when. They are both equally active I suppose, but she may be more hyper if I had to pick between the two, though again, they both are energizer bunnies.
My crazy, ‘bully twin’ has become the peacemaker and does what she can to avoid conflict and smooth things over. She will give up something of her own to make her co-twin happy. I wish this worked both ways! She shows affection to her co-twin much more than the other way around and worries for her so. If she thinks she may be in danger she will cry out for her. It’s really sweet. I never would have predicted things turning out that way. Not in a million years.
Annie would kiss and hug Allie all day long NOW, if only she’d let her.
(How it was ‘back in the day’. Allie was all over her sissy.)
My how the tides change.
(Allie is the hairier twin. This was at like 2.5- 2.75 years old. This is before she started swatting her twin away completely at least, but she’s no longer the affection initiator EVER.)
She’d no longer be smiling like here either.
So twins do develop personalities very early, as does any singleton child. And even if you have identical twins not too far in you should be able to tell them apart by learning their behavior patterns and actions- no matter how big or small. One will stand out from the other as no two people are ever the same, despite their looks.
Looks are only skin deep. Identical twins do NOT have identical personalities.
It is incredible to watch twins grow and flourish, but don’t be convinced that their personalities are set at one or even two years of age. It can take longer than that for the ‘forever personality’ to truly take shape and show itself off. I wish I could tell you exactly when this point is, but I think that it may be a little bit different for different twin pairs, but if I had to guess by 3 (or around that age 3 time) my twins personality traits reversed to pretty much what they are now and stuck. They have only grown and flourished into more animated, ‘real’, little human beings that truly started interacting with FAR less blood shed at this point for certain. (We are 5 now.) I used to play referee more so than mom.
There is certainly more interaction that I can actually enjoy watching. Now I will say that my twins are friends, but are they the same people they once seemed like they were destined to be long ago? NO, not at all! My mommy crystal ball never predicted how things turned out. Now their personalities are just further developing, in the way they are and not really changing but growing and deepening.. maturing. Things seem to be pretty much set in stone now. I don’t believe at this point we will flip-flop again between them, but only twin moms who have made it passed the point I am at now could really tell you for sure.
When did you start seeing your twin’s unique personality traits? Did they change? If so, at what age do you remember some changes in their personalities taking place, and did they totally switch, partially switch? I’m sure there are twin moms of newborns and twin moms-to-be right now who’d be interested in reading your comments.