When Does It Get Easier With Twins. The Polls Are In. (Poem Included.)
(You get to vote to, so don’t forget to do so below!)
I have written about the topic before, but not at the point I am at NOW, and also not after polling twin moms that I meet in real life specifically, to get the answers or at least AN answer for you all who are dying to know. Unfortunately, the consensus is extremely mixed with answers.
12 moms were included in this poll. Well 12 gave a numerical answer. 19 were polled in actuality. 7 out of the 12 said the 1st year was definitely the hardest, with the first several months being the biggest adjustment period, and overall challenge.
I disagree personally with my own set, but I don’t think anybody is lying, it depends on your twins. Just like every baby is different, so is every duo, and every child inside of that duo. But I always do ask, and nowadays I see twin moms and dads wherever I go. Sometimes in a few hours I come across 3 or 4 of them. I felt so alone while pregnant. Where was everybody hiding out ?
Ok..2 out of 12 say the 2′s & 3′s are the hardest. (Only 2?) I’m buckling up my seat belt for that ride. Only 2 people mentioned the stage in between 1 and 2 saying, ‘Where you are at right now is the toughest time.’ (Meaning me.) I find the 18+ month stage to be most insane ever, but at the same time the most wondrous. I don’t have anything further to compare it to yet though.
I think because my twins fight so much I am having a harder time then the moms who tell me their twins fought a much more minimal amount of the time, and played together more, being ‘good pals’. Some say it took their duos longer, but they eventually grew very close. I’m banking on it. One person said that school-aged twins were the toughest. Ages 5-9 specifically.
The other 7 all said what I feel really. That there is no real ‘easy’ stage. It just gets ‘different’. Very different. Certain things you once worried about dissipate while new hardships and situations arise. Each stage and phase brings with it new challenges and adventures.
You can listen to people who tell you, ‘Oh yeah, for certain newborn twins are toughest.’ Or, ‘Toddler twins..that was crazy and definitely the worst time for twins.’ Or, ‘When they were teenagers for sure.’ However, truth be told.. no matter what, you are going to find out for yourself, regardless. That is a guarantee. It might go along with the majority vote and it might not.
It’s a crazy ride, but I assure you, despite everything.. I don’t know one twin mom including myself who would have it any other way when push comes to shove. Here’s a little poem I wrote for your viewing pleasure.
The Truth About Twins
Some twins are more calm then others.
Some twins they seem quite insane;
Some twins will listen to your words,
While others they like to play games;
Some twins will sleep through the night,
While others say it’s time to party;
Some are tame like the Olsen twins,
While others more like Laurel and Hardy;
Some twins will play rather peacefully,
While others will fling all their toys;
Some twins bite and hit a lot,
While some this behavior they avoid;
Every ‘twin’ is unique, it’s true.
You really can not choose, it’s fate;
There’s phases, you just ride them out.
You’ll always make it through the day;
In the end you’ll feel so fortunate,
For the blessings God has sent your way;
So when you are pulling out your hair,
Remember tomorrow’s a brand new day!
Copyright Shelly @ Twinpossible 2012
(I don’t claim to know the Olsen twins personally, but I’m referring to the Full House days, and how they just seem . )
In conclusion, you may have one super sweet twin and one crazy one, just like you may have 1 really sweet singleton and 1 crazy one. It’s twindivudality. They can look alike, but it doesn’t mean they will BE alike. You may find they can switch roles quite frequently.
Truth be told, nobody really knows what is the hardest stage, if one could ever say that it even exists. There are simply just changes, and you will conform yourself to change along with them, I assure you. Good luck on your double journey!
‘Remember, as goes most things in life, one day you will be miles away from the journey of young twins and will have forgotten most of the hardships and only the good will stand out. That’s when you’ll say to yourself, it really wasn’t that bad.’- Mama P.