Update On My Twin’s 6 (Nearly 7) Month, Well-Baby Check up!
The Twin’s Doctor Visit
Well, this is how it all went down. I was happy that I finally wrote all of my questions down, so I didn’t forget anything, in the heat of the moment. We all know those ‘After the fact’ regrets, of wishing we had asked a certain question or two, and completely having forgotten it, when we go and visit the doctor, for ourselves, or for our children. So for that I was glad.
Alessandra Nicolette, weighed in at a solid 13 lbs. 12 oz, and 24.5 inches long. You have to remember, this would be small for a single baby, but these are twins, so they started out smaller, despite being term. This 13 lbs 12 oz, is up from 5 lbs 13.4 oz at birth. She has way more then doubled her weight, since birth. Her length has increased a lot to.
The birth certificates say my girls were both 16.5 inches long at birth, which is 2 inches shorter, then my shortest baby (Mikayla was 18.5, and both of my boys were 20.5). Me and hub don’t believe this measurement was taken correctly, because when they were 5 days old, when we first went to the Doctor, and they were up to 18, or 18.5 inches already? Seems impossible.
Anyhow, always the tiny, Annaliese Violet, who started life, 3/4 of a pound lighter then her sister, at 5 lbs. 2.8 oz, which looked more like 2 or 3 lbs, as we went along, there was such a noticeable size discordance, well, not any longer. She is now up to 13 lbs. 10 oz,, only 2 oz. shy of her sister. The Dr. said, ‘This one we may have to put on weight watchers. She’s gaining fast!’ There was almost a 1 pound difference between them, a couple months ago, but no more! 2 small little ounces, separate the twinkies!
She loves her solids, and I’m so glad, she has caught up, and they look more ‘Twin like’ now. People used to wonder more, then they do at the present time, if they are twins or not. (Not that there could have ever been 9 months between the two of them, some people can be stupid 😆 )
She is 25 inches long, again we can’t be sure if it’s up from 16.5 inches truly, or 18, but I’d say the second likely. They weren’t THAT short. Funny, because this is the same pediatrician, who told us, when our daughter was this age, and even in the first 24 months or so of life, that she would be petite in life, and it seemed like we had gone back in time. He said the exact same thing on Tuesday, about these little girls.
He wasn’t so spot on with Mikayla though. After 2 years old, and then closer to 3, she had quite a spurt, and has been slightly above average in height ever since, so I hate when they even make these speculations. They will be, what they are, but I didn’t say to him, ‘Hey you were wrong when you said that about Mickey’, I just laughed it off inside my own head. Hey I want to keep them small, for as long as I possibly can!!
I don’t mind a petite girl. A petite boy, that is a different story, but at this age, being told that, even with a boy, I would not worry. My son is now several inches above my head, & just turned 14, so nothing to even think about there. Girls are fine being petite, however, I thoroughly believe NO doctor can make such statements, at this early stage in life.
Every child has his or her own growth spurts, at different times. It’s too soon to tell anything, as Mikayla has proven. Just like eye color. The doctor told me at a year old, Mikayla’s eye’s would definitely be staying blue at that point, HA….she has dark green, nearly hazel eyes, that turned after she was 2 years old. So much for theories.
Ok, so as I said before, I made sure I got all my questions out. He was about to put the girls on dairy (yogurt), until I told him, I think Annaliese, may be having tummy troubles, and gas trouble, because she screams SO much in the day time, and evenings, that it’s hard to believe this just became her personality, in the last couple of months.
He said keep her off dairy, until we check things out, but Allie can have some yogurt. I don’t remember ever giving yogurt, until they were able to have true cow’s milk, but this is what he says, if anyone has their own ideas on this one, do tell.
He also said, they can have cheerio halves, and those meltable puffs. It seems so early for stuff like that? Remember my choking post, I’d be so afraid of something happening. Cheerios, at not even 7 months yet? I don’t know, maybe it’s normal, but it’s just moving along too fast for mommy here. S-L-O-W down a bit. This is making my head spin!
The doctor heard Annaliese scream in his face at one point, and I said to him ‘THAT cry, is what we hear for hours a day.’ I told him. It seems like late onset colic or something, which apparently, I was right, it doesn’t exist, and he said it Isn’t normal, and that the 1st three months, is when parents are usually pulling their hair out, and babies are screaming the most, and I said ‘No way, the 1st three months were incredible, compared to now. Allie is fine, but Annie? This cry happens every day, and a lot of the time, or so it can seem. I mean she smiles a lot, but it turns FAST’. Thank GOD, he took me seriously.
My friend’s baby, who did turn out fine, but had the same issue, she told me, her Doctor did nothing, because I guess some Dr’s just figure it’s a phase, or a cranky period, what have you, and brushed her off, I refused to be brushed off, because though she may have always been more vocal, she wasn’t screaming a large portion of her awake time. I had to get some answers for peace of mind sake, so he’s sending us to a Gastrointestinal Doctor. I’m hoping they can figure out what the problem is. (Finger’s crossed).
Yesterday I took her with me to my daughter’s dance class, and there are wall to wall mothers with babies everywhere, and she was inconsolable most of the time, even when I held her, it was terribly embarrassing. I know my baby being awnery, doesn’t make me a bad parent, but it does draw attention.
Oh, and when one woman said ‘Let me try and hold her, she’s so cute’, and basically took her from my arms, without permission. Granted. I had met her once before, and we talked a long while, but I would never touch some one’s baby or child without asking to hold him or her, am I wrong there? We weren’t long term pals, or buddies? Is it just me, or is that not kosher?
At any rate, as you can imagine now that the stranger anxiety has set in, that made the screaming 1 billion times worse! The woman was shaken by the intense cry, as I heard another mom belt out a little comment, ‘That one has a set of lungs on her’. I was turning red at this point.
I grabbed her back, and she was still traumatized enough to continue screaming, and I just was so happy at this point, I had only 60 seconds left, until dance class was over. If hub is home, and I can help it, NEVER AGAIN, in that tiny space like that! Torturous *sigh*. Obviously, it was a stressful situation for her. Allie can handle anything. She is chill like me:)
I do feel extremely guilty, looking into the carriage and seeing a set of sweet and adoring eyes, staring back up at me, and not being able to pick her up, and give her all my attention, because I’m always having to console the other. Anyone ever get that kind of guilt with your twins, when one is really good, and the other is cranky? Allie doesn’t complain about it, I just feel awful, and always wonder, what she is thinking.
Anyhow, let me move on to Alessandra’s prognosis, before I bore your brains out. Sorry if it’s too late for that! Allie pop, I have been slightly concerned about, with the lack of bearing weigh on the legs. She has started to, and gotten much better with it, which we are all so thrilled about, because better late then never, but I still knew in my heart of heart’s, that it’s not quite what it ‘Should be’. I know It’s easy to compare twins, because they are the same age, but I just knew there was more, having had 3 other single babies to compare to.
The girls are easy to compare, because they are the same age, chronologically, at the exact same moment, but twins should not be compared, because one could do one thing first, and then the other can follow, soon after, and vise versa. some things Annie did 1st, some things Allie did 1st. NEVER compare, or you’ll go CRAZY with worry.
But I did notice that even at 3 months, Annie was much stronger on her legs then Allie is now, at nearly 7, so I am still concerned, despite the fact that her mushy legs haven taken a turn for the better lately, she still is more floppy, and it warranted me to bring up the discussion.
He sat Allie up, and she slumped forward. She sits up ok on my lap, but obviously on a hard surface, she isn’t yet capable, which isn’t that unusual at this age, however, I guess her actions, showed him, overall maybe, that she just has some poor muscle tone, and could benefit from a bit of physical therapy, which me and my husband were dreading hearing, because we don’t have a penny extra, money wise, in fact, we are struggling like crazy right now, especially after his 20% pay cut less then 2 months back, however, we still wouldn’t qualify for any ‘help’ if you know what I mean, but the Doctor said, it’s paid for by your taxes. Early intervention, so of course that was a relief to hear. I have had to go before for myself (Back, hands, neck etc 😳 ), , and it always cost me $40 a session, co-pay, which we can’t afford, so this was good news, but sad news for any mother.
No mom, wants to have to feel like anything could be wrong with their little one, or little ones, since I don’t know what is ailing my Annie, BUT knowledge is power, and God is great, and He will see us through this. Annie will be fine, and hopefully extremely content again, and Allie will get some help, and be strong as ever, sitting up, and soon enough running right by me. It’s hard to take in, even when you feel it before the doctor confirms it, in your heart of hearts. Motherly instincts are never wrong.
It made me feel better to hear that he has seen this a lot, it wasn’t freakishly abnormal, and agreed that she may be ‘lazier’ then the other baby, like my mother said that I was. My mom claims I didn’t bear weight on my legs until 13 months, which sounds hard to believe, but this is what she says. Then I suddenly walked at 14 months, according to her, and was dancing ballet and tap at 18 months old.
She says I was just always a slower, calm, sleepy, lazy baby. Not slow in the way of mentally (DUH) 🙂 but just moved slowly, wasnt in any big rush, and simply laid back. I was chill, and very well behaved. Sounds like my Allie. The Doctor agreed this could be right, but why not do some exercises and get things moving, which of course we agreed. We work with her at home, but are NOT professionals.
He would be very concerned if say, she was staring out into space, and not reaching for toys, and responding to noises, and voices, but of course that is not the case. She is extremely bright, and alert, so it’s definitely not anything neurological, which Thank God for that. Things can always be worse. A little more exercise then what we have been doing at home, should do the trick.
I’ll let you know how things go, for the both of them, as things unfold, but for now they are doing well, gaining beautifully, and are lovely little ladies. I totally adore them, with all of my heart and soul, and couldn’t be more proud of them. Even through all the screaming. I always remember…This to shall pass. Savor every moment. My son was this small but a month ago it feels, and is a teenager now. Life is too short…ENJOY IT, and don’t blink..you may just miss a lot!
WOW! Look a the girls at their 5 day old Dr. visit. INCREDIBLE!
I wish I could re-live it all over again!
Talk later. Got to get ready for my own appointment. I hope every body out in cyber space is doing well today.