Toddler & Twin Milestones At 35-40 Months Of Age
Toddler & Twin Milestones At 35-40 Months Of Age
My little smartypants are 3 years, 4 months, 3 weeks, and 2 days old. Bub-to-be is appox. 8 weeks old.
Its been awhile. How is everybody holding up?
You have been with me on this journey for 3 years now, and your baby turned toddler (or toddler twins) have reached so many milestones that you couldn’t even count them all if you tried. There are no exceptions now.
From the period of 35-40 months your wee one(s) are still growing and changing, even if the changes seem a bit slower and less dramatic. Surely, if you look at them closely at just before 3 and then at them again at 40 months, you can see the obvious differences in more than just their height and weight.
3 year olds are certainly cute, little people now. Constantly exploring the world in a more cautious way, which makes life on mom and dad a wee bit easier in certain respects. Danger is well-known. At least ones they have come to know over the past few years and some that they just become instantly aware of on their own.
You may notice a huge spike in independence levels. They really feel proud of themselves for doing things all on their own, and they should be. Be sure to praise them for every positive thing that they do. They also clearly understand what is ‘naughty’ and not acceptable behavior. It doesn’t mean they don’t act on impulse sometimes 😀 . (Don’t we?)
At this age they ‘get’ that naughty things that they do have their consequences. And disciplining a 3 year old is far easier and more effective than a year ago. They understand much more.
You may even notice a change for the better in their behavior over all. Not that everything is all sugar and spice, of course. Some three year olds can be quite headstrong, even defiant. Take each phase and stage as it comes along as a blessing, I say. Believe it or not you will miss it ALL. (Coming from a mom of an almost 17 year old child.)
Some milestones your toddler or twins should be reaching around this time period are….
1) Behavioral understanding
There’s a much clearer understanding of what is expected of them, what is frowned upon, and consequences of bad behavior. Just as I stated above. This truly is a good thing. They may push the limits sometimes, but that is just childhood in general. Don’t expect that to change until they move away to college 😆 .
2) Speech is booming. Hey there blabber mouth!
You may wonder, ‘who is this child?’ So much has changed. Their vocabulary may at times seem nearly as good as your own as they springboard onto and then into the big 03! At times this is something that you just get blown away by. And sometimes, especially in the car on long rides, you may wish you had some ear plugs in hand. But you definitely notice that the speech development has been INSANE between the 2nd and 3rd year of life.
Their sentences are longer and more difficult. The human comprehension of the things that they say is much more ‘there’ than once was. You can really communicate back and forth with your tyke. If you have twins they definitely are interacting with one another in a big way now. Though some may still be in fight-mode part of the time since they understand one another so much better. This is surely a big time where you should witness a definite friendship developing.
While there may always be rivalry among friends, classmates, siblings, etc., there is also comradery like never before. Over the next year to come this will increase dramatically, as toddlers become increasingly more and more social.
At 40 months I am really enjoying this language BOOM personally. For me, year #3 has been easier than 2 in lots of ways with my duo. One reason IS because of them being easily able to express themselves. (Both to me and to each other.)
3) They are more social than ever before
Your tot knows how to take turns, say please and thank you properly (if taught this behavior.) They share things with one another, though some are a bit less willing to than others.. they truly ‘get it’. Their problem solving skills are greatly improved, and periods of separation with mom and dad should be easier then they were in the past.
They make friends more quickly. (A bit harder for twins as they tend to stick closely together at this age.) They show affection much more so now, and may seem like mini adults though they still have a lot of growing and learning left to do yet.
4) Other language milestones
Your toddler speaks much more clearly now. You likely won’t be asking them to repeat themselves much if at all by the 40th month of life. They can tell people their name and age, use sentences that contain 4-6 words. They may even be able to tell you short stories using their ever-growing minds.
They should be able to answer simple questions like ”What’s this color?” ”What is your name?” ”Where is daddy?” ”What would you like to eat?” Etc. Of course, this ability and understanding only increases as the months go by.
You will also notice that they will be asking YOU many questions. ”What is that mom?” is very common. They want to know and understand everything that they can. They know you know all and will desire your input. If they don’t need any help they are very proud. But if they do need help, and they will, they will expect an immediate answer. Maybe even demand it.
5) Cognitive development on the rise
Their young brains are developing at a lightning fast rate. They soak up knowledge like a sponge. All that you have taught them over the past 3 years is definitely paying off now.
a) Your child easily understands his or her basic colors.
b) Can stack blocks quite high and enjoy watching them fall to the floor and then rebuild.
c) Many by 40 months can sort various shapes and colors.
d) Age appropriate puzzles become interesting to them, though even the simple ones can still be a challenge for many. They enjoy trying and eventually succeeding.
e) Memory is greatly developed. They can recall things said and learned quite awhile after they have happened.
f) They likely can count to 10. Some can count further and some may be slightly behind and skip a number or two. (Still normal). Same with the alphabet. My twins have known numbers and ABC’S for some time now, while others may still be working on theirs. It won’t be long.
g) Imagination is booming. They have quite the little fantasy life which only increases in complexity over time. Some children are more prone to this and start earlier than others. But you should notice your tot getting quite imaginative at this point in time. Mine love to play newborn and mommy with one another. Not only with dolls but with themselves. It’s so cute!
6) Movement is becoming more flawless and is always being challenged
They can run up stairs and safely walk back down them. (Running down may be attempted but is never recommended.) Teach them to walk slowly. Most especially down stairways. Most tots around this time can walk backwards even, if only for just a couple of steps. Balance is ever-increasing.
They can bend over easily without losing any balance and can throw a ball with ease, both underhand and most of the time overhand as well. They can catch balls with less ease than throwing, but by 40 months they should be able to catch a larger-sized ball, at least some of the time, in their hands and arms.
Some tots can even stand and hop on one foot for several seconds. This advanced balance may still take a bit of time, but some toddlers will be doing this by the 40 month mark.
7) Potty training gets licked
Most toddlers will be potty trained by 40 months of age. (Even boys who tend to train slower.) The average age for girls is 35 months. For boys it is 38 months. These stats do seem high, but I did research this topic in the past. So while many may be trained before this, know you are not alone if your child has not yet. Your days of buying diapers are almost over.
Its been so exciting for me to get to share this incredible ride along with you. I will look back on these again when my new baby arrives, so I am very glad I wrote monthly milestones out to look back on. Not just for me, but for whomever will continue to view these milestones for years and years to come.
The ride isn’t over. I will be back again to share more real soon. Time simply FLIES 😥 !
Enjoy your little one or twins. I hope you are forever being amazed and entertained by their ever-changing personalities and increased overall development and abilities.
Of course, if you feel your child might be delayed in any way, shape, or form, talk with his or her doctor to help ease any fears you may have. It may be nothing to worry about, and it certainly does not hurt.
Happy toddling on through toddler-hood!