Toddler or Twins 41-48 Month Milestones (3.5-4 Years Old)
Toddler or Twins 41-48 Month Milestones (3.5-4 Years Old)
The crazy twins are 3 years, 9 months, 2 weeks & 4 days old.
Time has passed again, and look at how far we’ve all come. Seems like only yesterday we were discussing sleeping through the night, baby’s 1st milestones, 1st words and potty training. We have a lot under our belts and may feel like true pros by now. But as with every stage and phase in life there are always changes.
Our children have been rapidly growing both in body and brain development. Their personalities are pretty darn set, and if you have twins this may be an easier time for you OR a more challenging one, as you battle with two super savvy, headstrong children. (That’s the case here anyway.)
So what should you expect from 3.5 years of age until your child or twins’ 4th birthday?
1) Social skills are apparent
Do you have a shy child? One that sits more on the side lines, or one that just oozes confidence and is a true leader? By now you should know. I have one very headstrong almost brutish twin who angers easily, while the other does get angry to, but it takes more to get her there. She has a VERY caring, compassionate, and even a maternal side towards people..especially her twin. Not that her twin reciprocates this behavior. It’s actually sad. In social situations one is more spirited than the other, but with twins it’s harder because even if they fight like animals at home, socially you will notice that they do tend to stick together.
Singleton children are forced to socialize more and make friends on their own. Some kids are naturally prone to jumping in with the crowd while others may still be standing by your side. Either way, it’s normal. They all will be going to school, making friends and will be fine. You just can really see their little personalities shine through both at home and in public, which may completely seem different from one sibling to another, or might seem very much the same.
2) Their language skills are amazing
You can expect your child or twins in this age group to be saying upwards of 250-500 words. Though you will never be counting them, some kids may say even more. They will be able to ask simple questions, will wait for your answers, and they will be able to respond in a way that you can now clearly understand. There is no guesswork involved like earlier on. By 48 months, many to most children will be able to talk in multiple, complete sentences in a row. Like a real conversation.
At 3.5 their phrases will usually consist of 4-6 words, though some will speak in longer sentences at this time. They also can tell their share of stories to you and other people. There are very few secrets that can be kept away from your tot or twins now. Watch what you say because they will gossip. I miss the days of saying what I wanted to and it NOT being repeated..ha, ha.
They will be able to recite things from memory. They love to sing and will remember their fave tunes like Itsy Bitsy Spider, Row Your Boat, London Bridges and my girls sing Call me Maybe and other radio tunes. Some have quicker and better memories than others. One of my twins is like I was. She hears something once or twice and can basically sing it all. Or can go follow the music by the note and sing along, figuring the words out with the artist as he or she goes on. Not all tots can do this, so don’t sorry if he or she can not. My other is not quite as gifted in that department but is in others. Some kids are more musically inclined than other children are, some more gifted in other arenas.
3) Their imaginations are apparent through pretend play
Kids of this age group start to play make believe with themselves and with other children. One of my twins always plays a doggy being walked through the park while the other pretends she is the owner. Guess which twin is holding the imaginary leash? You guessed it. The same twin that rules the roost and is less compassionate towards her twin.. Alessandra.
They also will pretend they are mamas with their baby dolls and diaper, feed them, etc. Imaginary tea parties and more may also emerge around this time period. Boys may have fantasies about racing their little cars in a race, etc. This is all a normal part of childhood development and is actually very fun to watch!
4) They achieve certain cognitive milestones
a) They can put together simple puzzles, though some kids are better at this feat than others, just as some adults are.
b) They can recognize and name familiar colors and shapes to you and other people.
c) They can state their name and age. Mine know their hair and eye color, and both note the differences in appearance between them and their twin. They may be able to show their age using the fingers on their hand.
d) They can remember and recite parts of a story told or read to them.
e) They clearly know bad behavior from good behavior, but that does not mean they will always choose to be good. They are just aware. Of course, they still may be naive about certain things for some time, you can see the wicked look in their eye before defying you. It’s like they sometimes enjoy simply getting a reaction.
With twins, or if you have a new baby and a tot, if this behavior is sudden or constant, it can be a plea for attention. Although all children do things that are quote un quote ‘bad’ or better said, ‘unsavory’. Right and wrong is a choice, but we all went wrong at one time or another. This will occur even into adulthood 😳 .
f) They clearly understand choices and will choose the one that most appeals to them.
g) They can count to 10 or more. Mine count to 20, but they usually miss or mess one up, sometimes two, along the way. In the teens most usually. 1-10 is always very solid. They understand the concept of counting.
h) By 4, the vast majority of children who have been taught the alphabet will be able to recite it. Of course, if you haven’t worked on it with them in the past they may still have some trouble. That wouldn’t be bizarre. The song always helps make it easier. Most will be saying the ABC’S through song only, as my twins have been doing for awhile now. We started early on that though.
5) Their motor skills have developed greatly, and they will continue to
a) They can throw a ball with ease and should be able to catch one at least some of the time. (Just like all of us..ha, ha.)
b) They can balance quite well and can walk backwards with some grace for at least a few steps.
c) They can kick a ball and hit it well with their foot. They used to kick and miss at times, but now they usually nail every time.
d) They can run with complete confidence. The days of the ‘wobbly toddler’ is no more. That was very scary when they 1st started walking and those 1st months in. Now they are like speeding bullets!
e) They can ride a tricycle or small bike, and they learn the concept of turning when need be. Though it will be awhile before they understand the terms left and right.
All children are different. It is important to NOT compare one to the other, especially when you have twins, which is very easy to do. If your child reaches the high end of this age group and you feel that he or she hasn’t met many of the milestones listed above, it may be something, but it may be nothing. You can always check with his or her pediatrician for added assurance.
Thanks for stopping by! Its been an incredible ride. I will see you again at 4+!