The 4 Things That Annoy Me About Having Twins! (NOT The Actual Babies Themselves!)
The 4 Things That Annoy Me About Having Twins! (NOT The Actual Babies Themselves!)
Only 9 days away from the twinkies 1st birthday! Holy smokes 😯
Are you for real?
This list is something I will really have to think about, because most everything about having twins is quite the opposite. But like everything in life, if we try really hard, we can still find something to complain about, can’t we?
This isn’t about THE babies themselves. (Let me clarify that before the lynch mobs with pitch forks come at me. 😆 .) It’s about life with twins and the things that can go along with it, that aren’t always double the pleasure. Like I said this was hard!
Yesterday I was in Babies-R-us for the second day in a row. (Clearance clothing items ladies…buy 1 get one for $.50. You ain’t beating that one, twins or no twins. So get your hiney on down there!)
#1) What I found annoying in that moment, and I have found annoying so many times before, is the clothing situation with multiples. I can’t imagine if I was trying to hunt down bargains for same sex triplets or more. I’d lose my mind! There it is, the most adorable outfit known to man.
You just have got to have it, but as you search and search you find one annoying little problem. There is only one outfit in that size! No matter how great of a deal and how cute it looks, you are forced to hang it back on the shelf, and hang your head, feeling defeated.
I found this adorable dress set. I bought both the dresses in size 18 months, the last two..YAY, and the matching jacket? Only 1 left. Where oh where is the justice dear Lord? I must have circled those clearance racks 2 dozen times being completely sure I wasn’t missing something, but praying that I was. Please, with the buy 1 get one for $.50 who is the idiot who wouldn’t buy their items in all even amounts? What am I, an idiot? $.50 more? Come now.
I ended up buying the one jacket along with something else to give to someone because I don’t have two of them now. (Another little annoying thing that happens with these sales. that odd item out does me no good…I need two!) I only bought the one in high hopes of tracking another down elsewhere, at another location, or online someway, somehow. We’ll see how it goes. It was just too cute.
If you see this jacket in size 18mo. anywhere..contact me, IMMEDIATELY!😆
#2) I don’t have the kind of vehicle a mom of multiples should have. Funny story actually. We were trying to conceive, so we knew we needed an SUV, but it didn’t have to be huge. 3 children can fit into most any size comfortably, so we didn’t feel the need to become mini van people, AT THAT TIME. My how things have changed.
Our lease was up on a Mountaineer, and the hubster had been drooling over a Lexus for some time. I had just found out I was newly pregnant at this time, and there was zero reason to be concerned with multiples. The thought had never entered my mind. It’s ironic in two ways really.
A) He takes on a 4 year lease on a ‘too small for our new family 1 week later’, vehicle. ‘It’s twins’ was not only a shocker, but where on Earth do we put the extra baby now? Does ‘ol mom get strapped to the roof like a Christmas tree?
B) The payment was more then he thought we should take on, but when he questioned me on what I’d do, my theory was this. He worked hard his whole life, he deserved to finally have something nice that he wants, so I told him go for it. Of course, I didn’t realize I had two buns in my oven.
So ironically, he takes on this new higher car payment, then gets a $15k pay cut within 2 months of signing the deal, and finds out a week after signing, that it’s 2 babies not 1. God was having a big ‘ol laugh there! Should have stuck with the Mountaineer! Who knew?
We have to figure out a way to get a mini van soon because:
A) The entire family can’t go anywhere at once without using two separate vehicles which is ridiculous.
B) How he even wedged the 3 seats in the back row was miraculous, but there is zero space. Once they are out of the convertible seats, which is coming up soon…BIG trouble, because the other seats will never all fit in.
C) This $50,000 vehicle is worth about $20,000 now during the course of only a year +. It’s getting destroyed by the kids. Poor, poor hubby! I foresee a large bill coming once this is finally brought back into the lot, nearly 3 years from now.
All I can say now is ‘Sorry for my advice.’ I’m more of an impulse shopper myself. No one should ever listen to me! Of course, now we can’t afford another car payment or a used van even, so I hope God provides us with a miracle somehow in this situation, and fast! The dealership could not have cared less about our predicament, sadly.
That brings me to #2 on my list of annoying things with twins.
#2) Parking and getting them in/out of the car. It happens nearly every single day I’m out. You park the car with ample space around you, you come back to the car and somebody on one side is parking too near to open the door fully and get one of the babies back into their seats. I have patience. I don’t mind taking extra time to dress my kids up to leave home, or unpacking them and re-packing them up wherever I go, I don’t mind that at all.
But I can’t wait 2 hours for Mr. Smith to come out of the department store, and move his damn car over so I can get one of my twinkies into their seat. Even worse before when they were in the snap and go, getting the entire seat in and out of the doors. Sometimes…IMPOSSIBLE!
I’m going to invent some signs for multiple mamas to hang up in their van and SUV windows. ‘Be sure to not park near, I got twins in here.’ ‘Twins on board. Park far away, or suffer the consequences.’ But seriously… I can’t wait to have a van now, nor can my children. It’s my pipe dream.
A van with sliding doors. No more worrying about hitting into the car that is parked too near to me. Two large rows of seats, even bucket seats in back. Somebody pinch me. No more screaming, ‘I can’t take it anymore mom, make her shut up!’ Ok, so it’s a ways away from the red Mercedes convertible I have dreamt about the past 2 decades of my life, but there’s always time for that in my golden years hey? I can drive it to and from ‘the home.’ 😆
#3) The third thing that annoys me about having twins are other just people. ‘Oh do twins run in my family?’ ‘Oh, I always wanted twins.’ Do you want them now? JUST KIDDING! They are my world, but it’s funny that some people aspire to have multiples. I don’t get that. ‘Oh, my aunt, cousin, sister, brother has twins.’ Do I know them? So what do I care really? It’s amazing how many people actually do think that you care!
Someone took out their IPhone yesterday and no joke made me sit through a 50 photo slide show of her 8 month old twin grandsons. I did it because I actually envy those who have such proud parents who are like that with their grand kids, but let’s just say you can’t ‘get up and just go’ like you used to. Allow yourself a bit of extra time for commenting and story telling on both ends.
What will always annoy me most are the: ‘double trouble’, ‘two for the price of one’, ‘got your hands full’, ‘OMG did you plan this’, ‘are they natural’, ‘are they boys’, ‘hope you have a lot of help’, ‘I don’t envy you’, comments. I know twin moms know what I’m talking about there.
#4) The only one of these things that actually involve the twins themselves, but would be the same with any two babies of the same age, not THEM in particular, is picture taking of a duo. I love taking pictures and if I didn’t capture each and every occasion I think I’d go crazy.
I’m the mom always with camera in hand. A total ‘camera mom’. The one you have to duck out of the way from, and say ‘Oh I’m sorry…excuse me.’ However, even for the most seasoned of camera moms, trying to capture crazy, crawling, and walking twins is VERY hard work! I don’t envy photographers who photograph multiples at this age, but then again, they are getting paid for it.. so maybe I do envy them. 😀
Capturing that perfect moment in time is not twice as hard. I think it’s about 3 or 4x’s as hard with multiples. Getting two perfect smiles and two perfect poses, is nearly impossible. I photographed the girls one at a time last night with MUCH easier & far better results, and ZERO sweating.
Yes, it is an absolute workout photographing twins. You will perspire. They will be back to sitting and posing before I know it, but during this phase, my is it hard work getting those pretty pictures. Sometimes you have just got to settle. (Pics to be shared tomorrow since we are on the subject, so check back to see!)
Well, that is all I can really come up with. Most everything about having twins has been wonderful, in all honesty! I’m not saying there aren’t those hair pulling moments, but there are ‘those moments’ with any singleton child as well. There’s no such thing as ‘perfect’ in parenthood. Not on either side. Thanks for stopping by.