Romina Garcia Encourages Domestic Violence: Are You Buying What She Is Selling & My Thoughts And Message To The Women Of The World
My beautiful girls who will NEVER be abuse victims (unless over me and hub’s dead body) are 5 years, 2 months and 1 day old.
Trying to get attention in more than one way.
Look at her pose & boobs hanging out!
You know the old saying that ‘love shouldn’t hurt?’ Well not if you ask 18 year old Romina Garcia. She claims to be a domestic violence victim and encourages women to stay in abusive relationships because if a man is to hurt you physically that means that he loves you. ”Risking jail time.. that is love.” Somebody get out the shovel because she is full of BEEP 😳 I’m sorry.
Not only are her messages to women very untrue, but I believe the reasons behind her words are far less truthful than she is letting on. I’m not buying any of what she is selling, to be honest with you. I guess if a predator sexually assaults a child and risks jail time, they must love the child? Someone kills a random stranger, they must love the person? Bogus B.S.!
As a domestic violence survivor myself she comes across with absolutely zero empathy for women who are in her ‘alleged’ former situation. She even admits that she would go back to her former abuser should he want her back, though she was the one who supposedly dumped him at the same time. (???) Some things she says just don’t add up. There are a lot of things that conflict against her own statements, and what you would expect to see and hear from a so-called abuse victim is not what you are seeing and hearing. This woman has total lack of empathy, zero connection to her ‘trauma’ in her behavior in her body language, in the way she acts and speaks. She has a smirk on her face when she is on TV speaking of the subject matter. Just very a-typical and non-believable response.
I know not everybody responds to things in the same way. I’m not saying, ”why isn’t she breaking down into tears” as I hold up very well myself. I’m saying, ”why does she look like she is lying and promoting violence if she actually already experienced it. Shouldn’t she be rallying against it like other victims do? Shouldn’t she not look like she is smiling and reading from a script?” It makes no sense!
The vast majority of women who escape abusive relationships (like myself) and are out of the spell of their abuser quickly gain perspective and develop hindsight. They start seeing the person for what they truly were, and that it wasn’t ‘normal’, even if self-esteem is still very low and not built back up yet. Women in this situation are totally brainwashed while with their abuser. Once that brainwashing ends and light gets shed on things, based on my own experience and the experiences of others I have spoken to over the years who have actually had an abusive relationship, most always these people feel a huge sense of freedom once they get away. They may feel lonely and still connected emotionally to the person for a short while, but they wouldn’t normally dare go back once they made it that far, unless they were say hunted down, threatened and very fearful for their life and/or the life of others they love. That happened to me, but when I eventually escaped for good I never felt more free. She’s out now and should have that hindsight, yet admits she would go back IF he hit her harder? That’s why she dumped him she says. That statement alone proves she is full of it. No woman in a relationship craves physical or emotional pain. They may tolerate it yes, but it never starts out that way, and they do not seek it out like she is basically saying she was doing for herself. That’s just too crazy to dare believe!
Many women like myself were moving from place to place, looking over their shoulder like I did for many years. At this moment in time I can clearly and honestly say I A M NOT LONGER AFRAID. If I saw my ex on the street right now I’d have no fear only hatred. But people who were abused are private people looking to stay on the down-low, especially since her experience was not a decade ago or anything. She goes on public TV and all over the Internet airing her dirty laundry about this guy, and normally abuse victims are still frightened of their abuser at this point. They wouldn’t dare do something so brazen. It just doesn’t add up, sorry. Just another red flag for lying, Romina. She is demeaning and insulting us real victims with her words, her videos. It’s all to gain attention for her, nothing more.
I saw her on Dr. Drew (via phone) and Dr. Phil (on air.) Part of it anyway. Enough in my opinion. On Dr. Drew you know what, some of the panel believed her story, some did not AT ALL, calling this all a huge publicity stunt. I could not agree more with the latter. She lacks complete emotion. She is just blank… even heartless when telling other women to accept such behavior and take it as a sign of love and not the opposite. She even smiles like it’s an amusing topic of conversation. It’s all a big joke to her. One I do not find funny.
Unless she is a flat out sociopath, her normal isn’t normal AT ALL. Her words are senseless, she changes pages and shifts stories around enough for me to be able to spot the lack of integrity in her words. Does she believe what she is saying to women? No. But do other people who are maybe very vulnerable, young girls who watch her junk and are already involved in a bad relationship possibly affected by this girl’s words? That is absolutely possible. That is my biggest fear and why I am writing about this to begin with.
She posted on Instagram, when announcing that she had become single: “he wasn’t hitting me hard enough so I had to call it quits.”
Who is buying this? Not hitting her hard enough 👿 ? She’s making a mockery of me and every other current or former abuse victim. REAL victims!
An obvious narcissist. And no I’m not jealous. She is a fairly attractive ‘kid’, but she is also DEEPLY troubled!
I certainly can’t envy someone so sick in the head that she would promote something that could potentially take lives. How could she be so callous to not realize the dangers of her own actions here?
Now Dr. Drew said maybe her father/ daughter relationship growing up was bad. Um, my dad saw my abuser hitting me and never stepped in to stop him or help me in any way. My dad allowed me to be abused and seemingly didn’t care about me at all growing up. He belted us to. I had two parents I never really ever thought cared about me, and I was raped, abused, held at knife point, strangled, tortured, bullied etc. in my life, and I don’t condone violence, yet I lived through much of it. In fact, quite the opposite. I now rally against it. And I don’t know a one domestic violence survivor who would speak this way about the subject EXCEPT her. She has never known abuse in my personal opinion.
My bad home life and lack of attention there may have helped lean me towards these abusive types. I was an easy target for it with my zero self-esteem, but do I think she is the same type of person? No. If it were around I surely would not have been posting myself all over the Internet, taking selfies, etc. It’s not typical low-self esteem behavior, what she is doing. I know some people want validation from others, but it usually isn’t done the way she is doing things. No matter her history, set that aside for a moment, her words are all rubbish. Please, if you are out there reading this do not believe any of her words are true, whether you feel they are genuine to her or not. Nobody should ever hurt you. Know that you are smarter, more beautiful, more incredible and possess more strength than you know. Nobody should ever make you feel like you are anything less than the best. And real love, it does NOT hurt.. whether it is with words or with fists. Both are damaging, and nobody who damages you like that loves you at all 😥 .
Getting away from an abusive relationship (and I mean even one that is just verbally abusive, as words can REALLY hurt), giving yourself time to heal and building up self-esteem is so important to break the cycle, turn things around and finally allow yourself to attract the right type of guy. To let the ‘good guy’ finally be the type of man who can win your heart and appreciate your love and give it back in return. I well know my head was messed up for a long, long time, and the good guys were not what I was attracted to until I got myself together and truly believed I was worth more than that. It took time alone to do this and some counseling even. (It helps to talk to somebody who truly gets it and is trained to help you in that arena.) It is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of, that is for certain.
Those changes in mind-set happened for me, and it will happen for you to, whether you can see it now or not. I never could see it myself before, but years later I am alive (thankfully) and married to a great man now who aims to prove his love to me daily (and he does) through positive words and actions. I never thought this would EVER happen to me. In hindsight now I completely know that I would never accept anything less than what I have now.
The other guy, he said he loved me, but I know now for certain that he never, ever did! I would no longer EVER allow a man to hurt me in ANY way. Cheat on me, tell lies, steal from me, use hurtful words and physically touch me in any type of way that was abusive or even unkind. My tolerance is super low now. Other survivors will say that after the spell is broken they start to feel the exact same way. I meet women like me all the time, I know. This woman isn’t responding normally as a supposed ‘victim’ herself. Stop promoting violence against women, and go and get yourself some help for God’s sake!
Romina, I feel bad for you because you are obviously very desperate for attention and it’s pretty sad. There are some who believe you, but there are many like me who do not. What you are doing is wrong, wrong, wrong, and you need to recant your words with a new video and apologize to girls and women all over the world. What you are doing here is insulting to me and others like me, and your message is clearly bogus, yet potentially very harmful. Trying to get attention in any way you can get it – positive or negative, in this particular way, could actually cause some vulnerable woman out there her life if she buys into your lies and stays in an abusive relationship because of them. How could you live with yourself just knowing those possibilities? I mean you don’t impact me at all in that way, you honestly just enrage me. But I am certain some people might heed your words as actual truth and stay in or possibly return to these potentially lethal relationships. You should encourage them to break it off and that if he hurts you he does not love you because that is the truth.
Risking jail time by beating you is not a sign of love. Abuse is an act of rage. They aren’t thinking about jail time. And unless you press charges (which we rarely ever do) or stick with them (IF you do) there is no jail time for most men in this situation, as we fear them. So your statement doesn’t make sense there either. But like one of the panel members on The Dr. Drew Show said, ”Ok, so if by hitting you it means that he loves you, then I guess that beating you to death means he loves you even more because then he’s going to jail for murder”, or something to that effect, but the words were quite powerful. I don’t even remember her response to that one, but she didn’t really know what to say. She kind of skated around everything, and she seemed cold as ice and emotionless the whole while. Her tone and words, sometimes lack thereof, was speaking volumes to me as a true blue domestic violence victim turned survivor. I’m sure it did to many others like me also with hindsight and newfound self-esteem on their side.. flat out made them angry. This woman is clearly not right in the cabeza 🙄 .
She admits that her idol is one of the most self-indulged ‘look at me’ women in the world, Kim Kardashian. Kim loves to create controversy and is an attention whore (pardon my French). But we know that it is true. It seems to me like Romina and her have that in common, and I think Romina is just following Kim’s lead on a lesser scale as she doesn’t have Kim’s kind of influence, but I think she is trying though. I think she wants to be as much like her idol as she possibly can be. But alas, even Kim wouldn’t say such moronic things to women.
This is a scam (I believe) to create controversy the best she can to be more like her idol, so I honestly do NOT applaud Dr. Drew or Dr. Phil or any of the shows that may have invited her on for having her as a guest and contributing to giving her those 15 minutes. Whether it be positive or negative she clearly doesn’t care. She’s loving every second of it.
Romina claims she doesn’t care about her following, etc. Bull!!! She adores Kim K. and then goes and starts up with something like this. It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure out that this was all in her plans to shock people and gain attention and followers. Shocked am I? Yes. But would I follow her? Nope. If I was before this happened I would be unfollowing her now. I’m only discussing her here on my blog now to tell women NOT TO LISTEN TO THIS WOMAN! Do not let her words affect your life. Believe that love is kind and not painful, please. You deserve the very best in life and in love. Don’t settle for anything less than that!
”Domestic violence is not a sign of passion, it is a sign of violence.”
What do you make of Romina Garcia and her message to the women of the world? And do you think she is being honest about her TRUE feelings or is it all just hot air? Do you even think she is a victim herself? I mean she shows a doll with a black eye, not on her own face. Who knows, but she clearly isn’t very stable of a person, but should she recant her words? I believe so. Tell us how you feel below, and take the poll below. If you feel strongly about it and a poll answer is not enough, do comment.