Pregnancy & Childbirth Facts You May Have Never Heard About Before Pt. 2
Pregnancy & Childbirth Facts You May Have Never Heard About Before Pt. 2
My tiny tots are 3 years, 11 months, 3 weeks & 2 days old.
As promised, here is….
1) Wives’ tales can predict the sex of your child?
While it may seem spot on sometimes, the Chinese gender chart, the heart rate of your unborn child, the way you are carrying, the ring over the belly test, online quizzes etc. etc cannot properly tell you if you will be having a boy or a girl. They may seem to be spot on, but with a 50% chance of accuracy that was bound to happen. It is fun to wonder and try to predict. Visit my gender prediction page here (and other fun pregnancy tools) to pass the time away until your ultrasound. If nothing more, it is entertaining.
Ultrasound is the most accurate prenatal way to reveal a baby’s sex before birth. Birth is 100% (naturally), and as you go further along in your pregnancy combined with the advances in ultrasound equipment, most times you can be sure you are having the sex that they tell you. Especially if it is confirmed more than one time. Mistakes are still made occasionally, but nothing like in past decades gone by.
2) If the pregnancy test turns positive early and is dark you are carrying multiples?
This is a doozy because I have been there, and in all honesty it was very true for me. I got an early positive test at only 9 days post ovulation, and much darker tests than with my singleton children. Many others I know who had multiples had a similar experience. So while this is not a definite, as there have been people who have had this happen and their suspicions unconfirmed upon ultrasound. However, it is something to think about.
Multiples do tend to produce higher amounts of HCG in the blood, which makes sense. Don’t go out buying two of anything until you see your doctor though. You might just have one really sticky bean.
3) Pregnancy dreams seem more frequent, odd and vivid. (And bad pregnancy dreams – a warning!)
True. Even if you are not normally an avid dreamer/ remember-er since we all DO dream, you will likely notice that you have some frequent and unusually bizarre and vivid dreams during pregnancy. Why this is I have no idea, but it does tend to happen. I had dreams of pushing a rabbit (my baby) in a stroller through a movie theatre. It was totally normal in the dream. I had a dream that I gave birth to a 4 foot long hero and then instead of a placenta, I delivered a 2 liter bottle of Coke. Beat that for strange, ha 😛 !
Even though some pregnancy dreams are wacky and memorable, they sometimes can be scary to. Please remember that pregnancy dreams are just that…dreams. Not predictors of the future. Many times I had dreams of losing my pregnancy, losing the baby after birth and all kinds of scary things. It is pretty common to have these scary dreams since the pregnant woman’s mind is insanely worried for her unborn child. Relax and realize that they are just dreams and are not uncommon ones. They are not signs of any bad things to come.
4) If my baby is head down towards the end of the 3rd trimester he or she will be unable to turn?
Until your baby drops, which means it settles down into your pelvis and becomes what doctors refer to as ‘engaged’, your baby can still move around and trick you. My second son did a last minute flip and ended up a VERY unexpected breech birth at 3 days shy of 38 weeks. We were all clueless and completely shocked while I was in the pushing phase of labor and no head was being found down there. (Imagine that 😯 ?)
So while it is very true that if your baby is head down in the last leg of the pregnancy, he or she is more than likely to stay that way. However, don’t rule out the possibility of a surprise turn. Most babies normally wish to settle down into the correct position for birth instinctively. But others, like my son, can decide to be a pain in the butt.. so to speak 😆 .
5) I can have a vaginal twin delivery with a breech baby?
Yes and no. You CANNOT have a vaginal birth if baby A (the first baby) is breech. That calls for a c-section automatically, as the risks are too high for the babies. However, if there are no pregnancy complications or unexpected emergencies present, there is no reason you should not be allowed to attempt a vaginal birth with a breech twin b. I did exactly that. It was a wonderful experience. You just have to remember that doctors are less trained in breech births nowadays and are quick to recommend c-sections.
C-sections, in my opinion, are far overdone today. When need be they save lives, but there are many performed unnecessarily. You need to find a doctor who is experienced in breech deliveries and will consent to work with you and making your birth plan a reality. Anything can happen with twins, but there are many twins born vaginally that do just fine, even breech. So, if your doctor is a c-section pusher do find out sooner than later and seek out another doctor. They are out there, you just have to look for them.
6) Episiotomies are necessary during delivery?
Not always. Usually with your 1st child, since your pelvic floor muscles have yet to have any memory of ever having birthed a child, this is more common than not. When the baby starts crowning it can cause a tear in the vagina. These can be small or large tears. The bigger the baby, the bigger the risk of that happening. I personally would take an episiotomy over a tear any day of the week.
With my 1st two I was cut, and with my 8 year old and my twins (all my smallest babies) I did not need one. Either way, recovery is far better and less painful than for a c-section birth. Episiotomies make you a little sore down under for a short while, but sometimes you do need it. It isn’t that bad. I put my trust in the doctor’s hands. If I need it fine, if not and I’m not looking like I will tear down there then OK, no need for it. Some (especially younger) doctors are anxious to cut straight away. If you do not wish for this, again..make it part of your birth plan. No episiotomy unless totally necessary.
Midwives are usually very helpful in this arena. They always try and make your birth plan a reality, and they can massage the perineum to allow for a decreased chance for the need of an episiotomy or any unsavory tearing. It can be done at home or in office during the weeks prior to labor for extra benefits.
7) My partner can have a sympathetic and symptomatic pregnancy?
Yes. Not all men do, but some men will. Just like sympathy pains, I call this phenomenon a sympathetic pregnancy. There are varying degrees of this, but I know that my man gained weight right along with me. The only thing is that I lost mine (HA, HA 😆 ). There have been reports of men having pregnancy-related symptoms with their wives such as: heartburn, constipation, vivid dreams, fatigue, nausea, even sometimes nesting. Why this happens for some and not for others who knows?
I think some men maybe get into their wives’ pregnancy more, and are perhaps extremely emotionally connected to their unborn child. But in some cases this can even be caused by jealousy or even ambivalence about fatherhood. It’s obviously short-term no matter the cause. If your husband doesn’t have any signs of this, it does NOT mean that he doesn’t love you or isn’t into you and his baby-to-be. I just personally believe that some men are innately more sensitive and empathetic by nature, which can bring out the more easily influenced side of him that is totally psychosomatic. Obviously, his oven is completely bare. No worries there 😉 .
For round 1 of this article (more questions & answers) click on the pink link.