Pregnancy & Childbirth Facts You May Have Never Heard About Before Pt. 1
The twinkettes are 3 years, 11 months, 2 weeks & 4 days old.
Random facts about pregnancy and childbirth issues, and some myths proven or de-bunked, that may surprise and educate you.
1) If your male partner is over the age of 40 when you conceive, you are more likely to be welcoming a female child into your family.
Older dads tend to have an increase in female sperm, which means you are more likely to get pregnant with a girl if you have an older partner. There were all boys, no girls at all, born into my husband’s family for a long, LONG time. (Even he only had a brother.) I thought this meant for sure I’d only have boys with him. HA! We had our 1st when he was 43..GIRL. The twins at 48…TWO GIRLS. I believe in this totally!
(I had two boys FIRST as a young mother with a young dad. This combo seems to favor boys. Who knew?)
2) The older a woman gets, the greater her chance for having multiples becomes because of double ovulation.
This means the twinning rate and beyond increases (not decreases like I believe it should, ha ha) with age. This would explain why many women, like myself, have twins AFTER they have already had several, singleton children first.
They say having prior children also increases a woman’s chances for twins. But perhaps that also adds into the age factor, as an older woman is likelier to have more children. So your lowest chances of multiples is when you are younger (late teends, early 20’s-mid 20’s) and have had no previous children. Also, no fertility intervention makes it much less likely to. If it’s in your family (mom’s side) watch out though. Multiple ovulation has been found to be hereditary. (FACT!)
And for all of us, the older a woman gets, especially after 35 but even more so at 40+, multiple ovulation (releasing two eggs instead of one) becomes a much greater likelihood, which can result in two separate, fertilized eggs and fraternal twins. Just in case you didn’t know. Identical twins do not apply here.
3) The vagina is never the same (size-wise) after childbirth? I beg to differ.
This is most often a myth. I was very afraid of this with most every pregnancy 😳 . Stretch marks etc. never worried me at 19 and 20 years old with my 1st two. However, I did fear my vagina being stretched out because my ex and his friends would joke about that. (They were young and immature themselves. They knew nothing!) It isn’t true at all for the vast majority of women. Just like people, vaginas come in all sizes to start with. Who knew?
They are always tightest (naturally) upon a young woman losing her virginity. Then after regular sexual relations it settles into its normal-for-you size. It enlarges during penetration to accommodate your partner’s penis, and then the vaginal muscles go back to their regular state again. The same normally occurs after childbirth. Again, we are all different from the get go.
Remember that! Don’t stress..PLEASE! I have been there. It isn’t worth it!
My husband’s ex had a naturally loose pelvic floor without having had any children. I had 5 kids altogether, 2 prior to meeting my husband, and 3 with him. They were all vaginal births, and both before and after my 3 with him, he swears hers was by far less pleasureable and by far less taut. I was never even close to loose. She just was. In fact, he always raves about my tightness (TMI). I questioned him at LEAST a thousand times. Zero change he would swear it. And it shows oh his end (he, he).
A large tear that is unrepaired may impact vaginal tightness after childbirth. That is why I always said please give me the episiotomy..I’d much rather. But the twins were smaller and I didn’t need one. Many women do not with a good doctor or especially a midwife on their side. I worried about NOT getting cut & stitched, but it had zero impact on my vaginal tightness. No episiotomy and no tear does not lead to any looseness either..FYI. I researched it 😛 ! (And I lived it!) No cut is actually the BEST recovery you can have. You feel perfect! (Not that the cut is horrible. It isn’t.) I’d rather that then a tear HAND’S DOWN!
Just make sure your doctor stitches up any tear, if there is one. And don’t stress so much about the topic. Vaginas are made to stretch to accommodate babies. Like any other muscle it can be put through trauma and may feel bruised, but will return to its previous state over time (which usually is well accomplished by that 6 week appointment.) The baby only passes through the vagina for seconds to a couple of minutes TOPS! So worry less about this subject.
There are pelvic floor muscles designed for any women dealing with lack of sexual pleasure, incontinence issues, or childbirth trauma stemming usually from an unrepaired or poorly repaired tear. Sometimes these things just occur with age. You need to work out these muscles just like any other area of your body. (This means that there is hope all around. Don’t bug out!)
Check out my video for more on this and how to do your kegels.
PS- Do note that permanent changes in color of the vagina can happen after pregnancy and childbirth. I have always taken the mirror down there and ‘checked things out’ afterwards. (Sorry TMI.) I didn’t notice any changes in color until after my last pregnancy (the twins.) Some will, some won’t, and for others I guess like me, it can happen after numerous pregnancies. But it isn’t anything that affects the vagina itself. And it doesn’t look strange. It’s just like how nipples can darken permanently after pregnancy and childbirth. It’s just one of those things.
4) A women’s feet grow during pregnancy? Odd but TRUE!
I never believed this because I never noticed it before. However, I am a literal size 7.5 and always buy size 8 shoes. Perhaps, since the change is most of the time minute, that is why? Or maybe it isn’t as noticeable in some women as it is in others. Maybe those who gain more or who have flatter feet to start with, notice it more. (I have always had a very high, ballerina-like arched foot.) This is not a myth, however!
One study concluded that 60-70% of women had an increase in foot length and width, and that these changes are permanent. These changes tend to happen most in the 1st pregnancy. That would explain why I wouldn’t remember if they had. That was ages ago. Pregnancy weight can put added pressure on the foot and cause a woman’s foot arch to become more flattened.
In this particular study, women’s arch height and arch rigidity fell considerably from the first trimester to five months after their child was born. This resulted in the length of their feet increasing by between 2 mm and 10 mm. It’s a small amount yes, but many women will attest to this, and others like me might have no clue.
5) You can have an orgasm during childbirth
Most women would find this IMPOSSIBLE! (Even insane to think about.) There is personally nothing less sexually arousing to me than giving birth, however, it DOES happen to some women. Personally, I am glad in this one instance that I am not one of them. It’s the last place I’d like to have an orgasm, ha ha. It might be rare, but it is humanly possible to let loose more than expected on the delivery room table. Orgasms produce a natural pain-reliever. In this respect, while it lasts it is a good thing. But just how often does this phenomenon occur? Just read this article about orgasmic childbirth. WOWSER!
6) Your water will break before or while you are going into true labor…NOT ALWAYS TRUE!
For some yes, for others no. With my 1st two I was having some labor like contractions prior to my waters breaking. With my 1st, my bag broke when I was getting out of the car in the hospital parking lot. (My ex barfed. MEN! 😆 ) For number 2, I was picking up last minute things at Toys R Us for the baby with my aunt and yup..it broke right there. (That one was highly embarrassing.) That event usually is when the real dilation and more intense contractions start up (most of the time. With my twins I dilated a lot without this occurring.) However, that being said, these were my 2 longest labors, and I needed pitocin, eventhough going natural. (The 1st two. OUCH!) Nothing is ever set in stone.
My 3rd singleton and twin girl pregnancies, my bag of waters needed to be broken by the doctor and my labors were WAY shorter and more tolerable. Not that I am saying that had anything to do with it. (The bag of waters breaking early or later, I’m just showing that it doesn’t always happen on its own and doesn’t always mean your labor will be shorter if it does happen on its own either.)
Pregnant women are always waiting for the tell-tale signs of the mucus plus falling out in one big hunk and the bag of waters breaking on cue, but these events don’t always happen like we expect them to. Or in the order that we may expect them to. So don’t sit back and relax just waiting. If you are having regular contractions, go and get checked out. I was 7 centimeters dilated not knowing with my twins that it was true labor. Thank God I got to the hospital in time, but my bag of waters were still in tact. Only 1 in 10 women will have their bag of waters break in the hours before true labor begins. Just food for thought.