Oprah Winfrey’s Childless Choice. Her New Interview: “I Wasn’t Willing To make The Ultimate Sacrifice.” Your Thoughts? + Other Celebs Saying ‘No’ To Motherhood.

 

Oprah Winfrey’s Childless Choice.  Her New Interview:  “I Wasn’t Willing To make The Ultimate Sacrifice.”  Your Thoughts? + Other Celebs Saying ‘No’ To Motherhood.

4-7-2011

(Written 4-5)

My precious girls are 13 months & 4 days old.

 

 

I had wondered in the past, once or twice at BEST, as I think many have.  I mean it’s none of my business, but just had an inner curiosity of sorts about why Oprah Winfrey never had any children.  I always thought she would make a damn good mother.  Maybe she had infertility issues like myself perhaps, and just chose to keep it close to the vest, I thought. 

 

Or maybe like it turns out, she just was simply busy and happy with her life as is, and chose to NOT travel down that path on purpose.   ’I chose to NOT have children because it’s the ultimate sacrifice.  I never really seriously considered having children’, and basically it was a sacrifice that she wasn’t desiring to make.

 

This is to me, a very honest and brave thing for her to admit to in this day and age, where if you don’t have a child by your mid/upper 30′s, people are wondering what’s wrong with you?  I think that is wrong & needs to be changed.  She’s been questioned, (more like grilled) about this for years if not decades, and finally just released these new thoughts, and I hope now people will stop asking her questions and just let the poor lady live already. 

 

I don’t think she’s gay AT ALL.  People need to stop with that one to.  I hate that someone so sweet is being gossiped about so much.  I think she’s amazing, and just a fabulous role model for all women.  She’s a great advocate for victims of domestic violence like myself, and for so many other worthy causes, that she should be commended for.  Should anybody come down on her for making this very personal choice, we are all entitled to make in life?  I say hell NO!

 

She just happens to be one of the ones who chose her professional career over motherhood, and what is wrong with that at all?  It’s not like she had children and then said this, like ‘Geez ya know, I wish I had never had little Timmy.  It hindered my career.’  No, that never happened, so there is no harm, and everybody has the right to make their own choices in life.  This is hers, and I know I’m fine with it.  How about you? 

 

 

I think she should be applauded for being so incredibly candid about the topic.  Not all people are cut out for being, or even have a strong desire to be parents.  That seems odd to us who do have that great desire, which is likely everybody reading this post right now. (A mommy blog).  But why would anybody come down on Oprah over this, seriously? 

 

She didn’t abort a child, neglect one, and doesn’t have one that she’s regretting.  She responsibly avoided pregnancy, and chose to have a different lifestyle from what we consider to be ‘the norm’.  A lifestyle that works best for her.  I wish more people made such a mature choice before they ended up bringing an unwanted and unloved child into the world, that end up growing up paying the price for it.   Nothing is sadder then that. 

 

So, I really commend Oprah for answering this question, as I’m sure I am not the only one whose ever wondered this.  I mean it crossed my mind, I never really sat there and said, ‘Oh I just got to know,’ but she has decided to reveal herself completely, in a brave and honest way, and I think it’s a corageous thing. 

 

She didn’t owe us any explanation, yet she decided to give us one.  Bravo Oprah!   Is it right to simply go with ‘the norm’, if it isn’t the desire of your heart, for the sake of what people will think and say?  Of course not.  These are human lives at stake. 

 

I’m sure Oprah would have been an amazing mom, but for others, don’t ever do it because it seems like ’the thing to do’, as my mom told me about me and my brother.  ‘Back then you just had to.  It was expected.’  Nice huh?  Motherhood is a serious job which DOES require a lot of selflessness and personal sacrifice.

 

What is wrong with making the conscious decision to protect yourself from pregnancy, be responsible about it and the choices you make, and admitting that us moms do indeed make the ultimate sacrifice, which is true.  I mean, I for one can’t imagine not being a mother, but I totally respect anybody who has the opposite feelings.

 

I don’t think they are monsters or heartless human beings because of it.  Casey Anthony, now that is a monster and a heartless human being, who brought a child into the world only to kill her.  The hands-down most heinous act there is, but don’t even get me started on that b*ch! 

 

Oprah certainly isn’t bashing children, or mothers, or parenthood at all, just saying how she feels personally, and I have tremendous respect for her, as always.  I can’t see people getting up and arms over this.  It isn’t offensive, it’s honest.  She’s had a really hard life, and I’m glad she is happy in the place she is at now, and has found so much success in life.  What do you say about the subject? 

 

 

Do you think other moms will come down hard on Oprah and/or others, including celebrities, who choose to not go the parenthood route, for professional and personal reasons?  I don’t think anything about it is selfish, since there isn’t any child involved, to make it selfish.  The ‘children’ are non-existent.  If they weren’t, different story.  

 

(I’ll post the video with Oprah when it comes public online.  IF it becomes public online.  She’s very open, honest, kind, and to me,  shows great courage in her interview.)

 

 

Other celebrities who made the childless choice.

 

Cameron Diaz is happily childless. 

 She doesn’t say it’s definitively forever, but says it really seems taboo to be a woman over 30 and not have a desperate desire to have a baby.

 

Lara Flynn Boyle

says a definitive NO to motherhood.

 

Lauren Hutton, model/actress,

never bore any children

 

Betty White.  I just love her.  She has never had any kids.

(I don’t think she’ll be changing her mind now, but hey,… you never know. )

 

Marlo Thomas

is child-free.

 

Randy Travis

has never fathered a child.

 

Kim Cattrall Reconsidered her desire for having children,

after realizing the pressure was coming from outside sources, not from within her own heart.  (VERY smart realization Kim.)

  

 Renée Zellweger says,

& many more!

 

 

 

I think motherhood rocks, but I don’t bash those who choose another road to travel down.  In my opinion she, and others like her, are also thinking about the future of that child in advance, not just their own lives, which makes her selfless, not selfish.  Maybe they are missing out and will never know it, but that is up to them, not up to us.  If your life feels full, en-riched, complete, and you are happy…more power to you!

 

 Keep on rockin’ it Oprah!

 

 

   

‘Motherhood is the greatest gift in life.  So is personal happiness.  Some choose to seek to accomplish both, but some prefer to chose the latter only.  The choice is ultimately their own to make.  I don’t judge.  The ones who are childless NOT by choice, are the ones I feel sorry for.’ – Mama Possible