To Those Always Asking, Or To Those Lurking & Just Wondering….
I didn’t have surgery postpartum, I am positive I gave birth to my twins, I don’t have any good genetics, and have not always been skinny in great shape, or anything. Sometimes I was in shape, sometimes I was not. It never came super easy to me. I got to say this, because every day I hear these same questions over and over, and over again, and ‘How did you do it? How’s that possible?’ And it is a nice flattering remark, Lord knows there are far worse things that can be said, then ‘Are you the nanny, because you could not have had those twins yourself’. I mean they are compliments, but let me lay this all to rest, once & for all:)
Actually, one woman yesterday, wanted to seriously check me, for a hip to hip, tummy tuck incision, as her friend who had a tummy tuck had. She said it just didn’t seem possible to her, especially with twins. Well trust me, it didn’t seem possible to me, as I grew, and grew, and grew some more, especially in those final weeks of pregnancy, where I felt like I’d surely EXPLODE, very obviously doing some small, not difficult things, ANY woman can do, makes all the difference, and I try and share that tidbit wherever I go…I don’t hold back. Granted it would far benefit me more, if I started thinking about my family, and directed these people to my website, to try and make some sales, off my belly binder recommendation, etc, but for some reason, I don’t, I just tell them. I got to learn to be more entruprenuer-ial, (Is that a word), 😛 in nature, but the point is…
IT IS POSSIBLE to recover from one baby or two babies. I have never had 3, so I can not vouch for that one, and you don’t need to have surgery to do it. I’ve struggled with my weight over the years, I’m sick of people assuming, I’m naturally thin, my metabolism must be really good, and I’m just lucky in that way.
The only way I have finally gotten down to my pre-pregnancy weight, was from cutting out high calorie juices, milk, and ice cream, and canning the before bedtime snack, was all it took. Not over-eating as well. Eating slow and allowing to feel myself getting full, rather then chowing down quickly, also helped play a role, and I have discussed these things before.
I don’t like, or condone, losing weight quickly, so it was pretty gradual over the 6 month time period, but I have been heavier in life, then I was before I ever created this website, BY FAR, and by golly I have that proof, if ever need be. I’m not saying I was ever, what one would call obese, but overweight for my height..YES, and without being pregnant. An out of shape looking stomach, that came over my shorts…YES, I have been there had that. Love handles..most definately! I’m 100% REAL, natural, and you can do the same. Nothing makes me more special AT ALL.
Now when people look at my belly, they always look baffled. I’m sure that is what gets them the most, not just losing weight, because that seems more doable to most people, and I try and tell them, ‘It wasn’t ME, it was my choices. It was what I did afterthe pregnancy, that made ALL of the difference.’ One thing in absolute particular, though I’m sure the doing light exercise during pregnancy, especially during the early months, and lathering up on belly butter, even afterwards, during the postpartum period, kept my skin nice and elastic, and surely didn’t hurt.
I am absolutely 110% certain to this day, had I not bound my belly postpartum, using the Squeembelly binder, I would still be looking down at my belly bulge, because and again, wish I had taken a pic of my bare belly in the hospital, but it was so depressing to me, far, far worse then my singleton’s, that I feared so much it was permanent, I didn’t want any reminders, and now kick myself in the hide, but through my loose clothing, in pics, you can definitely still see the bulge while I was in the hospital, and it was real low, soft as anything, it was like all of my insides were falling out of my body, which of course the diastasis didn’t help, so I guess in a sense my organs were protruding outward.
When I walked I never saw anything bounce around, like a goldfish in a plastic baggie, as did my belly. It was extremely sad to me, as I tried to cover it up as much as possible, and just love up my precious new bundles, and focus on them, and not myself, as much as possible. I cannot lie, and say it didn’t make me very sad, because it did. I think it’s totally normal and OK, to love your children most, and care about yourself, including your body, second. (Hubby’s, you usually are #2, but at this time, understand how deeply affected women are after childbirth, with hormones, and mood swings, feeling ‘ugly’, ‘out of shape’, so just take position #3 for awhile, ok? We gals are only human. Self esteem means a lot, to a woman’s overall happiness, and that is why I write this. A happier mom, is a better mom…That is just FACT!
Now, at this point, I can finally put my hand on my belly, walk around, and not feel all the jiggling, and shaking going on, on the inside, and to get rid of that completely, took some months, it takes some time, to fully stop any jiggle, even when the tummy is finally & permanently flattened. The kind of juggling you can feel takes the most time, the kind you can SEE, goes away before what you are able to feel with your hands, but again, takes some time, and patience on your part + dedication to your belly binder, but you will reep results of the belly binder, quite quickly, and watch your body mold itself back to it’s former shape, little by little, over the course of the 1st 2, even 3 months. I did a total 3, because I really wanted everything to look great, eventhough by 9 weeks, I could have stopped, I took it a little further, and still find it a great thing to wear under clothing, when I have my period and feeling extremely bloated, if you know what I mean. A versitile piece of mommy magical lingerie if you will:) It’s sexy to, so the hub will love it!
It’s not an overnight process. Your waist will take some time to shrink down, and gain it’s former definition, and for the muscles to come together, and after twins, you may never have the exact same, tiny waistline again, if you did have a quite small one, but you just might, or get super duper, duper close, but there is no reason to feel badly, you can get most, if not all of your former self back, just HEED MY ADVICE!!
You can start to not feel so soft and squishy any longer, it can and does happen, I know it, cause I did it, but you MUST BIND UP! Use whatever you choose, I can only say what I used, and stand behind it, because of my own personal experience, but anything is better then nothing. I have met moms who have bounced back who sware by binding, and I’m glad the word is starting to spread.
When I had my last child, I knew nothing about belly binding postpartum. It never would have crossed my mind & no one told me, so I wonder how many mommies to be, just don’t know. (Now my mission to spread the word), but with twins, I was all over the Internet and scared out of my mind, so I knew something had to be done…I would not for years, like 20 *smile*, be able to afford any major surgery, and who WANTS to have surgery? If you have had a C-section or two, you have had surgery enough mama, so bind yourself, and avoid yourself the pain and costs.
Yesterday, I nearly put my foot in my mouth, and I will tell you, I never, ever, EVER, make a comment, to anybody about being pregnant, without being damn sure first. I mean not ever, because I know all about the common ‘Mummy tummy’, and this woman, had a 4 year old, and an 11 month old baby, so of course she could have a mummy tummy, if she didn’t bind, however, her stomach was very obviously pregnant to me, I touched it, (Which honestly I never do, but we had been talking awhile, and I felt at ease, and I had seen her at every angle first, so there was no doubt to me), and said ‘Aww… congratulations! How far along are you?’
No, I didn’t stick it in my mouth, to the point of she was NOT pregnant. (Wiping the beads of sweat off my head) That would have been awful, BUT I expected her to say a good 6 months along, in all honesty. She said she was only 6 weeks in! I was floored, but didn’t react as if I were, I just said congrats, and then we got to talking some more.
She explained to me, that while she is getting larger faster, a lot of it, was still there from her son, and see this is the average woman here, and you could tell she felt badly about it, and was desperate to know how she might be able to get it gone, after this next baby, and asked how the heck I did it with two.
I will assume she likely has a diastasis, but I can’t be certain, it’s just that she was not a real heavy woman or anything like that..very average, so for that to have mostly been there, without being pregnant, there very well could be some muscle separation there, that needs specific exercise, and especially some binding, but NEVER while pregnant. Afterwards I told her. I said ‘Have the hubby by you one, before you are due’. It’s shocking how few people know about, not only binding, which has been going on since the beginning of time, to shrink waistlines (But very painfully might I add, but there is definaite proof that it works), and abdominal separation but they should know.
I told her my secret, and she was very eager to get a Squeem binder, for this round postpartum. It’s not too late. She told me about her friend with twins who had to have surgery, and I was in that boat thinking I was going to need it to, heck I told hub to save up his pennies, because I never expected to come out of it, as I did, so for $50 something bucks, I saved thousands, and thousands, of dollars, that we don’t have, that is money I and you to, will also be needing, for your twins. I am certain if I didn’t bind I would have kept that gut. Maybe not as bad as when I was in the hospital granted, but definitely a pooch, that would have stuck around no matter what I tried. (Plain ‘ol exercise etc.)
I may have lost the weight without it.. yes, and gotten down to being able to fit in my clothing again..yes, (Not looking quite the same, but YES), but the stomach never would have been the same, so anyone who asks my secret or seems floored, it’s really all I keep saying like a broken record, because it’s so true. This would have been a good time to direct her to my website (Duh me) 😆 But I expect to see her after the baby is here, with a much flatter tummy, after using her Squeem for sure.
I just wanted to lay some stuff to rest. I don’t have good genes, I’m not able to workout every day, or every week even..NOPE, so when people say ‘Do you work out, like 10 hrs a day, to have that stomach of yours?’, I have to laugh and say, ‘Hell no, can’t you see I have twins?’. I never had such little time to myself. Totally worth it, but I could never have flattened my belly any other way. Who has the time? I know some good gut exercises, but having time to actually do them, and if they would do the entire job on their own, highly improbable, because I have talked to women, who have tried & tried, with little help, so this is HUGE.
I haven’t always been thin and fit, and I have been better then now, and I have been way worse, but I’m older now, I had twins, so for that I say, I look darned good, and will pat myself on the back, but in knowing what the secret is, to the tummy going back to it’s pre-pregnancy state…How can I keep that to myself? Every postpartum woman should have a Squeem binder, shipped right to their door, free of charge, after they deliver. (Hubby’s reading..please do this for your wife, you’ll save yourself long term, trust me!!)
BEST MONEY I EVER SPENT! (Home fetal doppler was second, most definiately!)
So, yeah, not too many people will see this, so I will continue to get asked these questions, while out and about, in the ‘Real world’, and yeah it’s nice and all…redundant, but nice, a little tiring, but as I said before, there are worse things I could hear, I just want everyone to know, it isn’t as miraculous to have this happen, as some people think . It’s all about what actions you take postpartum, to make yourself, the best you, you can possibly be. It certainly isn’t rocket science, and I’m happy to help out any person I see, or meet, both off line, and on. I consider you all friends, and if anyone ever has any questions, feel free to email me at: firstname.lastname@example.org.
There is no reason you can’t have it all! The babies & the belly back!
Whelp, time to make the donuts. Have a great morning, and enjoy your day!
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