Life With Twins…5 1/2 Months Old. Plus, Some Prayers For Mr. Possible (Hubby)
Life With Twins…5 1/2 Months Old. Plus, Some Prayers For Mr. Possible (Hubby)
What a crappy (pardon my french) couple days I’ve been having. Started with a hellish trip to the mall, with the girls. Oh yeah, I forgot I wasn’t going to do that again..ha. Well, one of those ‘on the go’ bottles of Similac, that cost $11 for 6 of them, but are just so darn convenient while you are out, you sometimes slurge, ( little Annie can’t seem to tolerate the gas she gets from the powdered stuff. Can’t do much about that, except go this route)…well they were screaming so loudly in The Children’s Place, I just had to literally drop everything I had in my arms, and go outside to feed them, though I had fed them before we left the house which wasn’t 3 or 4 hours prior, so I don’t know why that even happened, but yet, should have known 🙄 .
Mikayla was running a muck with this lady who had 4 boys, children, and was keeping up with all of them, and then some. I was feeding the babies, or in one case, drenching the babies. Something was wrong with the grooves on the top of the Similac bottle. At first I thought my my, aren’t you a little hungry one, since you couldn’t see the shadow of a spill on the fabric of the outfit she was wearing, so I just kept feeding aka pouring. The poor girl was DRENCHED, I mean just soaked through and through with formula.
I felt awful, so I had to abandon ship on The Children’s Place plan, (did you guys use your coupon? I tweeted about it, so I hope so, its a great deal), but at any rate, you see me TRYING to stroll a very stubborn double snap and go, and the only reason I took that over the stroll air was because I knew it was going to be a fast trip.
Don’t ever take that monstrosity to the mall. Ok monstrosity is a harsh word, It’s terrific for little trips, & is very convenient no doubt, but it steers horribly, if you got to do a lot of turns, or maneuver through aisles forget about it. Clothing stores in the mall were not made for any kind of stroller period, and that MUST be changed. I try and say Mikayla just watch them for one second, and sneak to the next rack of clothing, knowing the stroller won’t fit, but then she’s off and running, not watching them.
She’s only 5, I’m talking a distance away from me of about 5 feet, just to try and get to a different rack I can’t make it to, with the ‘Limo’, as I call the twin strollers. Oh well, on that. At any rate, I had to then pick up my soaked & screaming munchkin, and hold her all of the whole way out, which of course we took a wrong turn and walked about 1/2 mile in the wrong direction (don’t normally go to this mall), and trying to carry Annie and maneuver that snap and go was a HUGE struggle. I had to keep picking up the front where you push, and moving it, mid air, into the direction I wanted it to go, it was awful. With my Stroll-Air, I can very easily manage to hold one twin and steer the other. It almost floats on air, and makes perfect turns, but I guess that is what makes up the enormous price difference. What can you expect for $79-$99. A soft as silk ride? Oh well, my arms got a great work out.
Anyhow she was completely drenched, the seat was drenched. It taught me from now on, always bring an extra change of clothes with me for them, because you never know what’ll happen. Then Allie started screaming to, because she had lost some of her bottle to the more cranky at the time sibling, & was still hungry, so getting home was priority of course, so I never did use my coupon, well until yesterday. That’s a whole other story.
Then, fast forward, to yesterday morning. Hub comes home from work, back hunched over, red in the face, just moaning in misery. Somehow at work, he had pulled his back badly, and couldn’t even walk well, so I fired up the heating pad and laid him down. He was in enough agony to want me to make sure and get him up by 9, not that he fell asleep, so he could call the Dr. ASAP, and get an emergency appointment, which meant he was REALLY hurt, because he hates the Doctor. I have only seen him in a Doctor’s office maybe 2 times ever, and he’s seen me in one about 2 thousand times, maybe more.
But anyhow, he got in to the emergency appt., and they basically did what he thought they would, just gave him a few painkillers, and sent him along. WOW, worth the co-pay huh? But I guess if you are desperately in pain it is. Not much they do about this problem, besides pills and physical therapy, I suppose. Why not a back MRI or some tests like that though? Perhaps that can’t be seen on MRI, because It’s muscle not bone. I don’t know. Why am I trying to rack my brain so early in the morning!
OH, but here is the clincher. They asked him how long he had this little scaly patch of skin, almost looked like a healing cut or something, nothing much at all, if you ask me, and something I would totally dismiss, and wait to vanish on it’s own, it was certainly nothing alarming looking. Hubby said, ‘A few weeks’, and it was something he had brought up to me, saying he should get it checked out, and then I told him & then all of the world on twitter, what a hypochondriac he was, but guess I was wrong. I’m sorry for that now.
Though this Dr was not a skin Dr., so I hope he might be wrong, he said, fair skin, blue eyes, you are a perfect candidate for it, and that to me, looks like skin cancer. Once I hear the C word, I go crazy, I have lost so many loved ones to it, I can’t bear the sound of that word.
He said having that a few weeks, is bad, and to get to a skin Dr. ASAP. I’m going to hook him up with my skin Dr. in Manhattan, he’s the best, but the guy really didn’t have to scare him and say what he said next. ‘You want to get this right now, so they can freeze it, otherwise they will have to cut it, and you’ll be deformed looking, like Frankenstein’…now what makes a medical professional say THAT to a patient? Grrr….
My uncle actually had skin cancer on his face, and didn’t take fast action, and it spread, and was cut out, and he has horrible scarring on his entire cheek, so of course, I know what it can look like, but no Dr. should say that, and so now we are both panicking about something new here, on top of just worrying if he’ll be able to go back to work, because without his paycheck, we’ll pretty much starve to death.
They shaved off almost a grand a month from his paycheck, which we were scraping by as is, so now if he can’t go back to work and needs to be out, we’ll never make it. Not with twins eating over $100 of formula a week now. They both eat 32 oz a day, sometimes more, which means time for some extra solids. A case of formula, only lasts 3 days MAXIMUM!!! They can’t have the powder, because they eat much more, don’t seem satisfied, and Annie gets bad gas, so not to much choice there, and my milk is gone now, so it’s a no-go, for desperation option #3!
ANYHOW, prayers definitely appreciated for my husband, his skin and his back. Then, yesterday, he wanted to relax, and I said of course, and took the kiddos back to the mall bravely, but this time with my mother in tow. See, she has been trying to snatch my girls and keep them overnight, well since my Mikayla was a few weeks old. I’m sorry but how many of you moms out there give over your new babies to ANYBODY for a few days time? Noy many, if any I am sure.
She was saying when I was pregnant, ‘Oh I’ll get a couple portacribs and they can stay over a few days at a time’, yadda yadda. I hate having to keep dogging that bullet with her, but I’m sorry, it really just ain’t happening, even if I did trust her completely, these are my most prized possessions, they stay over with no one, and I’m going to be a 45-50 minute drive from them, no less? heck no, but I digress.
She’s been wanting to see them, so I said come out, we can’t go to the house cause hub needs to rest, so lets go to the mall. I’m thinking perfect, I can use my coupon hooray! So, we get there, and I park her and the stroller, and Mikayla on a bench diagonal to the Children’s Place store. I said, ‘You got ’em right? I’m going into there, is that ok?’ ‘Sure’ she said, ‘Go ahead’. Ok, I was in there about 7 minutes before I heard loud crying going on. It reminded me of my Annalieses’ cry, but it couldn’t be I thought, because I’m in the back of this huge store, and they are too far away, so I figured it was a baby somewhere in the store. Whelp apparently not. She came running in, now mind you this is someone who wants to watch 2 newborns for days, even watch all 3 of them she has offered, which I knew she could never ever handle, and this day just proved it to me, all the more.
‘I think she’s hungry, she’s screaming’. I said ‘That scream WAS her? Holy smokes’. Ok, so she was hungry. There was a diaper bag right there, why didn’t mom just just dig in and pop a bop, right on in the ‘ol mouth, they are disposable bottles, it couldn’t get more easy then that right? In a panic she says, ‘Put that stuff down and come out and help me’. I’m thinking, ok under 10 minutes, this one, couldn’t handle a parakeet, which would explain my childhood (ha ha..I’m so bad!).
So, I asked the lady behind to counter to hold my ever growing pile of clearance clothing items, as I followed them out of the store, helped prepare the bottles for dear mom, and said, ‘Are you ok now. Can I go back inside and finish up’.. ‘You are taking so long’, she said. ‘Hurry up’. Again, and you want to take my children for any length of time *rolling eyes*? What a terrific test for her, and she totally flunked it.
Now I’m rushing so I just grab what I grab pretty much, and threw it all up on the counter. Wasn’t even sure until later last night of everything I REALLY bought because I was trying to get back to them at this point. With my 20% off coupon, it was still just over $90, hope hub doesn’t kill me, but I got a TON of stuff for that money, that without being on the clearance, would have been about $1,000 easy, maybe more, so it was worth it. I got to slow down though, especially in the case of him being out of work for any time. That would NOT be good. Stop sending me coupons and discount codes you baby stores and department stores. All you do is drive me batty!! 🙂
So now, unless the girls grow into giants, I have them covered for the fall and then next summer. A couple more winter outfits, and they are good to go though till 18 months. Mikayla needs some more back to school stuff, and a few pairs of jeans for my son (boys are so easy, they can wear the same jeans more then 1 day in a row, and we have to wear something new each day of the week at least, in school for sure, so yeah girls are more expensive). But I did good…grabbed the bag, and you could see she was already clearly frazzled. She was alone 15-20 minutes tops.
We then had some pizza and root beer, (No snapple or fruit punch available. ugh!), and Mikayla started acting crazy and hyper, which is normal, but my mom can’t really handle that, on it’s own. I thought surely by 5 years old, they calm down, when is that going to happen? The terrible twos were nothing compared to 3, then 4 worse, now 5? Come on God help a sista out!
We then stopped at the carousel on the way out, and the girls started fussing again while I was on the ride with Mikayla. Looking over from my ‘horse’, I could see Grandma feeling quite helpless. I can’t count how many times I saw her drop teethers, nookies, and toys, all within that 2 hr. time frame. She was by far, and is by far, not ready to take on twins. Only mama knows her babies best:)
After the ride, as we were leaving she goes ‘Maybe even if I could just take one of them’, and inside I was laughing because she only ever wanted to take both, or even all 3 girls. She knew she had met her match. As we exited through Nordstroms, which I have never shopped in, and I know why *CHA-CHING $$*. I spotted this Calvin Klein coat, only one, happened to be in my size to (knife through the chest), marked down from almost $200 to $50! I LOVED IT!! In my used to be years that would have been mine, in 1/2 of a heartbeat, but I would have been dead, so I had to pass it by, but I have honestly & seriously, been dreaming of this coat ever since. That is NOT good 😐
Oh and I forgot to mention, while walking out Mikayla said to Grandma, and I have no idea where this came from, total left field but I was embarrassed, and left speechless. She said ‘Your not getting your hands on me or the babies. You can’t have us. that is what mommy says to’…OMG….Why did you say that Mickey?? Grrr….Has she been trying to get her hands on them and Mikayla since birth? YES! Did me and hub decide jointly that is not gonna happen for quite some time, no way no how? YES! But Mikayla saying that right then, I just wanted to crawl behind a clothing rack. Yeah, kids do say the darndest things, but sheesh.
You know what erked me a bit, (If erked is even a word). When everyone was going, ‘Aww they are so cute’, ‘They’re beautiful’, my mom would go Thank you, as if they were her own. She grabbed the stroller away from me the minute we got into the mall and that is fine, I get it, have some fun, but why did she say thank you? Maybe, she is just proud they are her grand children, but I don’t know. It’s not how it seemed. I think she was honestly, playing ‘mommy’, and wanted people to think they were hers. Weird yes, do you know my family? No, not yet 😆
On a super sad for me note, something I must bring up or I’ll burst here. Tomorrow is the 5th anniversary of my son’s passing. Doesn’t look like his ‘gifts’, will be here in time (I buy something every holiday, a wind chime, a new stone for out by his tree, SOMETHING). It’s not looking promising, though I ordered with plenty of advance *sigh*.
I’ve been feeling off since the start of the month about it, but it has been slowly increasing by the day, the pain. I miss him so much. It like re-living it over and over again, every year. It gets so fresh every time. The anniversary is worse then other days, like Mother’s Day & Birthday’s even. I wish he could just come back to me, though I know it’s impossible. 🙁 Love you son. If you don’t hear much from me tomorrow, you will know why. I go through my mourning. I write poems, etc. so, likely all will be quite quiet on the Twinpossible front. Just know, I’m still alive.
Whelp, I hear a sweet little voice coming over the monitor. Sounds like Annie is singing to herself. I guess getting up a 5 am, is no longer early enough. I used to get in 3 sometimes 4 good hours, but now they are making wake up time, earlier and earlier. I don’t know how much earlier, I can get up, but….
I shouldn’t complain. They are teething badly, yet still sleeping through the night. I pray that continues. What a blessing. Cause Mama does need SOME sleep! Talk soon!
PS- This weird lady working one of the booths in the middle of the mall comes up to us. ‘TWINS?’ No, bottles of Coke. ‘YES’. ‘They are identical’, she says. I said, ‘Nope they are fraternal.’ And she said, ‘Oh no, the doctors are lying to you, these babies are most certainly identical’.
Ok lady, whatever you say. I must ask again, ‘What makes them identical?’ One has blue eyes, one green, one has little hair, one has lots more, 1 has a rounder different shaped face, different nose shape, eye shapes are way different, how on Earth, is that even close to Identical? It’s funny to hear how others voice their opinions though. You sure do get A LOT of attention with 2 babies vs. 1, despite there being quite a few duo’s out there nowadays. Ok, the singing is getting loud now, gotto put on some bottles.
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