Kids Growing Up Too Fast! Lessons We Learn & Can Teach.

 

 

Kids Growing Up Too Fast!  Lessons We Learn & Can Teach.

2-1-2011 (Night time)

The Twins are 11mo. Tomorrow   

 

  

Mikayla at 3.5 dressed up in mom’s clothes. 

Do you ever believe youth is truly wasted on the young?  I think so, because it’s so often not appreciated by the young, but craved for by the old.  In my opinion kids are looking to grow up way too fast, but when you think about it, weren’t we the same way? 

 

 Granted we weren’t half as bad as today’s generation, but were we not in such a rush to gain some independence?  Be a teenager?  Dress like we were 25 at 14?  Well maybe not all of us, but just look at some teenage girls now!  SHEESH!  I’d cut up my girls’ clothing… Seriously!

 

Didn’t we want so much for these things along the way, ourselves though?  To wear makeup too early?  Look grown up before our time?  Have our first kiss?  Fall in love?  Get our driver’s license?  Graduate high school?  Get  a car?  Move away to college?  Turn 21?  Then after 25, turn back to 21 again .  Find our soul mate and get married?

 

Do you ever wish you hadn’t rushed things?  That if you had the ability to go back and do it all over again, would you have stayed a kid longer, and appreciated the things you can only know now, due to hindsight?  Go and play kick ball a little more, enjoy celebrating field day at school, hang out at the bowling alley with your friends, go inside those tubey things at Mc Donalds just a little while longer?

 

Ok, sometimes I still do that, but only when dragged, and I get an occasional, ‘Are you supposed to be up here?’  I tell them ‘I’m just a big kid’, and the conversation ends with a puzzled but accepting look.  I’m just waiting to hear, ’You aren’t allowed up here old lady!’  It’s coming.

 

Why can’t kids appreciate never having to pay a bill, having somebody buying all of their clothes and food for them, and cushioning their hurts when they fall down?  They can’t begin to know how lucky they truly are, and all they think about is how the rules and boundaries that we set to protect them annoy them, and how unfair we are.

 

    I wish in my own life, I had laughed more, enjoyed the simple things longer, fought less to be an adult, and didn’t feel like someone telling me I looked 24 at 14 was a compliment.  Though now it surely would be one.  (At my age, I mean).  I wish I could go back and fight for my dreams again, and not have put priorities elsewhere.

 

Boyfriends, being popular, pleasing everybody…just stupid stuff that fades away and quickly.  Just fought more for the truly important things, that long-term mean so much more in life.  I guess we all have our regrets.

 

I see my kids now, and it’s like they are fighting to be adults so soon.  My 5 year old wants to wear makeup, and hang out with bigger kids, and she always says how she’s dying to not be old like me, (HA HA), but be a teenager.  I tell her it will come soon enough, wear your pig tails for now.  You’ll get there. 

 

 My son wants to hang out at senior parties, and begs for us to let him practice driving at 14 years of age.  I mean sure we were all eager to drive, but put the brakes on.  You’re a baby, even if he doesn’t see himself that way.  He will one day, as I do now.  Not to mention, it’s still illegal.

 

Like I said, the only vision in life that is truly 20/20 is hindsight.  We try and tell our kids, you are so carefree now, the world is your oyster.  It is so over-rated being an adult, paying bills, having to run household, and change diapers.  Especially when it’s too soon.  Be young.  Be free!  Be that way for as long as you can, but they just don’t get the message.  I mean would you have?  Did you if somebody tried to tell you?  Most likely not.

 

I’m writing this post tonight because I just happened to finish watching a movie called ’16 Wishes’ with my daughter.  Yeah It’s Disney, but honestly it was really good and had some amazing hidden, underlying subliminal info, for children who are wishing to do things before their time, and I think it really touched my daughter in a way that maybe ‘ol mom’s words alone couldn’t have done. 

 

Go play with barbie dolls, stomp in puddles, go ride the Ferris wheel.  There is plenty of time for lip gloss and running off with Justin Bieber.  There is time for Senior parties when you are closer to being one yourself.  The world can wait.  You can wait.  Independence isn’t all it’s cracked up to be.

 

The message in this cute film was clear, and while yes it made everybody over 20-something feel kind of old, and get a bit nostalgic or depressed depending on your circumstances about your own past, I highly recommend it to moms looking for a way to get through to your young ones about how once youth passes you can never get it back.  Little girls especially.  Hold on to youth.  Enjoy it for as long as you can.  Life is too short as is. 

 

 

A bit extreme but it does send a message in a rather funny way?

 

I love this song.  It brings me back to 15 so fast.  Wasn’t that like 5 years ago?  SAD!

Fifteen

  

Be back later friends.