Josh Duggar Sexually Molested His Own Sisters & Jim Bob And Michelle Knew About The Abuse: My Opinions, Your Thoughts?
My precious overly loved and overly protected twin girlies are 5 years, 2 months, 3 weeks & 2 days old.
Ever hear about practice what you preach?
1st off, let me just start out by saying Happy Memorial Day to all of my lovely readers. I hope you are enjoying your weekend! Now on to why I am writing on this holiday, which has nothing to do with it. I just felt I had to get my feelings out.
I apologize in advance to any Duggar supporters after the news was made public about their eldest son Joshua. I’m sure there are some who think all should just be forgiven and forgotten, however, I am not going to be one of those people. If that is what you wish to read, you may just want to turn away now. You aren’t going to find any empathy on this page for him or his parents, though you may take the poll below to express yourself.
It has exploded across the Internet that Josh Duggar, now father of 3, sexually molested 4 of his younger sisters and another young girl (possibly more if you ask me because these stories tend to start out like this, and many times more victims come forward.) Allegedly, it was 12 years ago, but my gut is telling me that there have been things that have transpired with him that are more recent than that, as an attraction to children really isn’t something that goes away with time and a ‘stern talking to’. It’s like a disease without any cure if you ask me.
Supporters, let me just ask, wouldn’t you feel very differently about this if Josh did what he did to your OWN little girl? I think that you would. Regardless of the timeline, it makes no matter to me whether it was 2, 12, or 112 years ago, it’s reprehensible. I find the 12 years irrelevant except for the fact that he got away with it for too long. Rehashing this story is enough to make bile rise up from my stomach into my mouth this morning. (Sorry for the possible visual there 😐 .) The fact that the parents knew and took VERY minimal action makes me even more ill to my stomach. I’ll talk more about that in a little while.
Some people are saying that these girls have turned into fine young ladies with no ill effects stemming from the abuse. How do they know this? All you can know is what you see on T.V., and we all know that what we see on T.V. tells us everything about everybody and is always 150% honest and legit. Can you really see inside somebody to know they are fine by a few glances across your television screen? I think NOT!
I am like a smiley comedian to everybody I meet. I have always been that way. My lot in life is to make people laugh and simply bring joy to others, and nobody would know that I was ever sad a day in my life, meanwhile my ENTIRE life was nothing BUT sad. I mean beyond sad. Beyond anything that I have even written about here on my blog over the past 5+ years. That has revealed a lot of sad stuff, believe you me, but there is more. (Read the book one day. It’s coming.) But anyway, I always, always, ALWAYS smiled and laughed through my pain. It’s my defense mechanism. Nobody but my husband knows what is really going on within me. Sometimes I can even trick myself.. for awhile anyway. Eventually, everything does come to light, whether it is right away or many years down the pipeline. Don’t act like you can be sexually abused and not have ANY ill effects from it. It simply isn’t possible.
I have nightmares to this day that plague me, and I don’t even remember my molestation as a young child, though I am always a 6, 7 year old child in these dreams. My mom took me out of dance forever, which I always was resentful for, as I had a lot of potential there. I started dancing at the tender age of 18 months when the class was for 4 year olds +. They let me in because I was that good that young, which sounds crazy, but I have the recital pictures and awards to prove it. However, my dance instructor’s husband was the culprit, so my mom trusted noone with me after that. Not even my brother or my own father. She has displayed behaviors throughout the years of my life that make me believe she was sexually abused as a child, though she never had to say it, I am almost certain of it.
She never took any legal action against the man who harmed me, just pulled me out of the sport. Then I was fondled by my uncle when I was a bit older and also raped by a stranger at 15, 2 times before I was let go. Let’s just say my smile hides a multitude of sins. Mom didn’t take any legal action there, nor did I ever attempt to. I was ashamed. It should have been my parent’s job at the ages that I was at when these incidents took place. It was Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar’s job to protect the innocence and futures of their young daughters. They obviously chose not to. What they did choose to do for their son was not nearly enough.
Now with 3 girls of my own, I know that 1,000% I would turn ANY guy in in 1/2 a heartbeat and make sure he’s locked away from society. If it was my own child as the predator, I understand how hard that would be. However, you have to think about the victims here, not just about the welfare of the abuser simply because he is your child. It does make it harder, of course, but the victims are also your children to, Jim Bob and Michelle. Don’t they deserve to be protected and allowed to heal properly with some parental support behind them?
Saying that these young ladies are not affected is a bunch of bull. Something I don’t even remember could be contributing of course to not only nightmares of being sexually abused like I mentioned, but possibly part of why I suffered from low self-esteem the vast majority of my life, got into abusive relationships starting at an early age, had commitment and intimacy issues, trust issues, OCD, BBD, anxiety, depression, etc. etc. You never know what is going on inside of a person’s head and heart. You can’t pretend that people are OK just because you can’t see the scars that are buried beneath the surface. And maybe they have submerged it enough to move on, (or so they think) but they will break. Everybody eventually does. Nobody can stay strong for life. We all have our bruises. We all need to mend.
Their parents, like mine in my abusive relationship, they never saved me from the physical abuse of my ex that they saw, not just knew about it. In knowing these things I find that the Duggars (ma and pa) are criminally negligent here for not turning their son in at the time they found out for themselves. Why? Fear that the money from their beloved show would stop rolling in? It would derail their gravy train so it was best to just keep it quiet, pray to God and all is forgiven? What he did may be forgivable by God… I’m a Christian, if he truly is sorry – HOWEVER, when you repent you can’t just repeat the behaviors and keep asking for forgiveness. That is simply hypocritical. But I would agree that only God knows his heart and the truth. We can wonder, but for me, I’m just very skeptical. This is a gruesome series of crimes. Impossible for most former fans to ever get past.
Like a leopard never loses his spots, this man certainly is not fully rehabilitated. If you are sexually attracted to children, and on top of it are sick enough to engage in such blasphemous actions with your own sisters? I would TOTALLY fear for the safety of his own daughter as well. SHE IS AT RISK! Also, any future daughters he may produce. Why are people being so forgiving because they just like the family and watch the show? Set that aside and realize that the actions here, whether they took place yesterday or way back when, they are never EVER forgotten. It’s just a deal breaker for me, I’m sorry. I will never watch this show again.
Not good role models. You should have done MUCH more to protect your innocent daughters and others involved here.
The fact that these two people knew about the abuse of their own daughters and more and took their own course of action, which was basically nothing, to help their son (obviously help their show in the process and keep him out of prison, which is where he should spend time.) People just possess child porn and go to jail. He acted out against multiple young girls physically, come on. I just can’t support them or feel sorry for these two as parents. I just can’t. What other secrets do they hide? I bet there’s more to come. But forget about protecting and trying to fix their son and move on.. what about these girls? THEIR girls? Don’t they care about how they are affected. How this may very well color all of their future relationships with men and hinder them from having healthy self-esteem, which can lead to many, many problems along their journey through life?
But to end it now about the naysayers.. these abused young ladies ARE affected. Whether they even think so or not. My twin cousins were molested by their best friend’s dad as young girls. Nobody knew. They had horrible emotional troubles in their teens and were cutting themselves, had behavioral issues and problems with relationships. It led them down rough roads, and they NEVER got over it. They may be in their 40’s now, and one is married with kids, the other is not but ‘appears’ well, but it is still all there. It doesn’t ever leave you, whether you get therapy and even justice or not. They got both, but I know they still hurt inside.
TRUST ME – just because you can’t see tears, it doesn’t mean there are not broken souls inside of these girls that have been repressed all of these years. Do the Duggars only care about Josh? When mom and dad know and support their son like this, what message does this send to those poor girls??? ‘We are on his side, not yours.’ That is how I would feel. No slap on the wrist just for being a public figure – BULL SH%T. Go to jail do not collect $200 and end these shows. They do not deserve them!
That little girl of theirs.. is she NOT in any danger? I believe she sure could be.
I’m also repulsed about the statute of limitation thing here. Victims feel guilty and stay silent for years, decades or their entire lives.. why would there be such a limit? He should definitely be able to be criminally punished for these horrific crimes. He is an ongoing threat to young girls, trust me. He cannot be changed. The man that Jim Bob and Michelle sent Josh to for his ‘stern talking to’ was a state trooper who landed in jail for nearly 6 decades for possession of child pornography. He was Jim Bob’s friend to. If that doesn’t give you chills I don’t know what will.
If I were his wife Anna I’d pack up my kids and get the hell away from this pedophile. Sorry to be harsh, but as a former victim of multiple kinds of abuse – this man isn’t fine now. He still has these urges whether he is still acting out on them or not. There IS a potential for history to repeat itself. I have zero empathy for him. I have no real empathy for the parents either. They needed to do MORE! They needed to protect their girls. I only feel sorry for these sisters and others involved.
Take the poll below, and let me know what you think about this. I know I’m a mom to young girls so it really hits home and makes me think. And I know I’m a former abuse victim, so I may be more judgmental than some may be. However, I hope most of you can see why and also will agree with me. This should not just ‘go away’ with the tide just because the Duggar parents and Josh and Anna would love it to. It’s sad that the majority of these young women will be or maybe even have been exposed and denied their privacy in this, but ma and pa Duggar chose to put their family in the limelight. Sadly, this is one of the unsavory repercussions of that.