Arias Is Making A Mockery Of Me And Other Real Domestic Violence Victims: My Profile Of This Killer For Nancy Grace
I was watching the Jodi Arias trial last night. Oh my God this ‘woman’ is making an absolute mockery of me. Me and every woman who ever was truly abused in her lifetime. Nancy Grace in a previous episode wanted to know if anybody could help profile this maniac and/or could help shed some light on this, so I’ll do all I can. Maybe she will never read this, but here it goes anyhow just in case.
Last night this was discussed. Parental abuse via wooden spoon and belt. (BOO HOO for Arias. *YES sarcasm!*) I to was hit by a wooden spoon by my mom and a belt by my dad, but admittedly I was ‘the good one’. My brother got it more often. I got a wallop once I won’t forget, but you know what, if you go back one generation from that my husband knows ALL about the belt to. A moderate amount of intimidation meshed together with respect, kept him in line enough to not see dad’s wrath often. And he was and is VERY close with his family. Millions back then saw the spoon and the belt. (Not saying it’s right, just saying it happened a lot.) Why are we not psychopaths to?
Back in my day at school (private school) they were allowed to paddle us at the principal’s office. (I’m 37 not 77 either.) It was perfectly legal at the time to do so. So these things over the years that I have even talked to other people about and many agreed…are NOT that uncommon. It happened to some of them to.
Parents back then did use far harsher forms of punishment. (We did listen a lot better than kids do now though, didn’t we? I just can’t even think to spank lightly. NOT my personal cup of tea. I’m sure my abused past plays a hand in that.) But everything Arias came up with in her sob story about mom and dad, me and tons of other people went through, and we didn’t go out murdering anybody. She’s grasping at the clear blue sky here. Why are we to feel sorry for her?
Second of all, if an abusive man is 1,000 miles away like my ex finally is from me after looking over my shoulder for years thereafter and finally finding a good man who TRULY loves me..(though admittedly at first in the VERY beginning with my husband I used to flinch when he’d go to put his arm around me. Like most abused women it took time to heal, trust, and counseling to get through everything.) The last thing a woman who is that scared of a man will ever ever do is drive TO the man. We drive AWAY from him. We are feeling free with the distance between us. The greater the gap the better.
This woman had a desire for this man that went from her perception of ‘love’ and lust even into ownership and ”if I can’t have you then nobody can nor will.” She was so obviously obsessed with Travis Alexander. She was not in any way shape or form afraid of the man. And what red-blooded male would not enjoy all of the sex acts that she was willing to do for him and to him? Take risque pictures to, like no one in the jury ever did that right? I’d plea the 5th but I won’t bother 😯 .
And while Travis partook in this..it was innocent. He was not using the photos to shame Arias to the world. (BTW- if he did it still doesn’t constitute murder. We have all been betrayed by someone in our lives.) These were personal pictures that he was never assuming the whole world would see. Yes, he used his ‘little head’ to think at times when this woman was around. She ruled him by his penis during the time that they were together, but that was as far as he wanted her. Is that THAT uncommon of a situation? I do NOT think so. Actually, I know not. Does that make Travis a bad guy? No, it makes him a human being.
She wasn’t ever going to be the girl that he wanted to take home to mom, to spend his world with, have his children with, but through doing whatever he wanted sexually (pics included) she was forever trying to change his mind on that. In reality she really was his dirty little secret, kept on the side, by her own doing. Her own allowance. She was a willing participant, regardless of her overall expectations. Nobody forced her into coming back for more. I’m suprised she isn’t crying ‘RAPE’ to further offend me and others. But then again..the trial isn’t over yet.
Maybe that was the time leading up to the murder, that she finally REALLY realized it. Despite their separation, in Arias’s mind, I believe it was never truly over. I say the same about my ex. In his crazy head we might still be together. Maybe she went to him to give him one last chance and try and change his mind. Make him want her the way she knew he wanted one special woman that didn’t ever seem to be her. However, just in case things didn’t go her way she was fully prepared to ‘keep him with her eternally’ one way or the other. Surely nobody else could have him after death. Still somewhat of a victory of sorts? I don’t know..I’m trying to get into her mind here.
She’s letting them tear this poor man to bits from beyond the grave on the stand, including absurd pedophile claims. (Yeah right..any woman would be running not walking away from him, and this coming from a woman who thought for certain that she once could ‘change a man’ and ‘save him’ but if this came up all bets are off, sorry.) She would not try and change this man. She’s only trying to ruin him after killing him. How sick can one be? All I have to say to Arias on this one is, ”Show us the evidence!” Oh yeah..she can’t. There isn’t any.
There is nothing out of the ordinary for a young man who is sexually involved with somebody so willing to partake in a long-term sexual relationship until a serious partner of real interest comes along, to continue with that when they are around. If she allows it, it is her fault and not his. Sex isn’t leading her on, and I have seen no evidence that he promised her ANYTHING. Not at all. Even still…NOTHING constitutes murder. Not feeling used, or cheap. (She was cheap…sorry.)
Why is he being disgraced? Because she has nothing else to do but disgrace him. The defense team knows this is their only chance no matter how remote it is that it may work for her. I just REALLY hope the jurors see through her and know better. For his and his family’s sake.
Now I was abused for 6 long years by my ex starting just before my 15th birthday. I was bullied horribly in school for years, had parents who never showed me real love or had any pride in me. A brother on steroids and other drugs that for a time during my youth actually did beat and torment me. I forgive them all now, but I had no self-esteem which helped lead me right into my abuser’s arms. I was raised in a highly dysfunctional family, was raped as a teenager, went through victims of domestic violence counseling, had post traumatic stress disorder (for real unlike her), anxiety and depression, and finally escaped the man who abused me. How with my life still in tact I do not know.
And this man would come after me not only with words and fists but with an object and even a knife at times. He kidnapped me once putting a knife to his chest and running it down his body drawing blood saying, ”If I can’t have you I have no reason to live. I’ll kill myself and make it look like you did it.” Then he said, ” I’m going to kill you and make it look like you killed yourself. You’ll be mine forever. No one else will ever have you again.” Then he said, ”Or I’ll kill you and then myself. We’ll be in heaven together for all of eternity.” I mean he was a clear nut case. Every nut has it’s shell. There are times the whole world doesn’t see it’s insides until it cracks.
Even when I was able to grab the knife away from him because honestly as he ran the blade down his chest I didn’t want him to hurt himself. (My husband now says I should have just said go ahead and let him do it. He likely wouldn’t have anyhow. Only hindsight is 20/20.) That was always his thing..I’m going to kill myself in order to keep me staying with him, but obviously he never did it. (It worked on me a long time though.) My point here is that even with a knife there and ability under the law for me to harm him in order to free myself from the room he had kept me in and tortured and abused me in and I did NOT use that knife on him. I didn’t go stabbing him multiple times, slitting his throat ear to ear, shooting him, and doing what else Arias did to Alexander.
First of all, if Travis Alexander was hurting or scaring her in that moment, this is NOT what she would have done to him. She would have used only appropriate force to get out of the situation. If she had a knife, she could stab him once in a non-lethal place and run like hell out of the house, and jump into her vehicle to get help but she did not. WHY? Why did she run away like it never even happened? Which one of her stories are we to believe, there are so many of them.
The action she took against Alexander, which by the way I never heard of, nor ever had my own abusive ex abuse me from inside of the shower. That is pretty odd in and of itself. That’s because it didn’t happen! That was when he was unsuspecting and most vulnerable for her to attack. But the amount of violence she used on him was completely unnecessary and doesn’t mesh with what an abused woman would do. This was anger NOT fear.
Fear would be a quick jab and a sprint out of there if she needed to harm him at all. You don’t stick around stabbing him relentlessly, shooting him, hanging out with the body thereafter, even taking photos of the body? THAT for certain was rage, rage, rage, rage, rage! Then cleansing off the body and destroying a camera card (evidence). Why would an abuse victim stick around to do THAT? Ut-uh…no way!
Nobody else was going to have this man, and she realized that she was never going to have him in the way that she wanted to. He was interested in other women and that drove her wild. She is the abuser and not the victim. All he’s guilty of doing was enjoying sex with a willing, mutual partner who was very obviously a very wrong pick and a very loose cannon…nothing more!
Second of all, if a woman kills in self-defense does she get in her car, cover up her tracks, and say nothing about it to anybody? No, she would call the cops and explain to them what had transpired with ZERO worries about culpability as it would be shown that force was necessary. This is NOT what Arias did. She reacted to the killing the way that a guilty murderer would. Also, the story about her and him being attacked by somebody in the home. Don’t you leave the scene if you must, call for help, and get cops in ASAP? Both stories make zero sense…case closed.
And what about her lies? My ex was the exact same way. He’d lie for absolutely no reason but to lie. He could stare you straight in the eyes and tell you it was raining if the sun was shining. I mean he could break down and cry on command, and carry out his lies until proven otherwise right down to the bitter end where there was no place else to lead him, much like Casey Anthony, and what this woman is doing now. She goes all the way down till there is no way out on the stand then ”Geez, I can’t remember.” They are all pathological liars and I recognize this trait in them.
I believe he believed his own lies even. I think they can condition themselves to do so. They are narcissists. They are never to blame for anything, and will tear anybody else down in order to feel good about themselves or to save themselves if necessary like what Arias is trying to do on the stand right now. They are control freaks, manipulators, and cunning individuals, that may be sly but not the brightest bulbs either. (Though they may believe they are.)
My only fear after seeing Casey walk after watching it on Nancy Grace for years and just knowing in my heart it was a slam dunk case without any shadow of a doubt just based on all her untruths and all of the things I considered crazy hard evidence…and then watching her walk free my heart still weeps for Caylee. It weeps now for Travis. I mean this looks so air tight in my opinion that nothing she says can combat the force she used on this man. That was all jealous rage. It was NOT.. I repeat NOT a fear attack. It doesn’t add up to anything less than premeditated murder. I pray the jury will see that.
I also pray that the domestic violence advocate, once he or she takes the stand, will profile this woman and her actions and clearly show the jury she is not an abuse victim. Bring the focus back onto justice for Travis and not pity for Arias, because surely I don’t have any. And I have empathy for any woman who has walked in my shoes, but she never touched a one toe in them. This I am certain of. There is even more concrete evidence and an actual admission of some guilt here, so I’m hoping that makes it even more of a slam dunk than the Anthony case, though I can’t help but fear because of that case. (I do personally think she’ll be convicted, but…)
Also, a person afraid of the wrath of somebody does NOT go messing up their car in an obvious jealous rage and risk getting them getting angry. (Of course, who wouldn’t be?) An abuse victim does everything they can to attempt to keep the peace and make the abuser happy as to not see his wrath. If he didn’t get angry and hurt her after the things that she did to him and his possessions, that shows that he is certainly a VERY tame and peaceful person. And it puts another strike against Arias and all the more displays her absolute psychotic infatuation with Travis and how far she would take it. To the level of just plain ‘scary’.
I never saw this til now. Doesn’t this shirt speak VOLUMES!
Um, I never owned one of these. Not even for my husband.. (sorry honey.) WOW!
My ex defaced a guy’s car once like she did to his (and even his gal pal I believe). It was a man that when I finally tried to get away from my abuser and find happiness with somebody else he just would not accept it, trashed his vehicle, and he left a note telling him to stay away from ‘his girlfriend’ or else on what was left of his windshield. Is that a victim? No! Victim’s don’t do that..nut jobs do. She was never a victim in any sense of the word, and all of her sex acts and photo sessions were completely voluntary. No man really would give up that opp. Though I wish Travis would have, though he did seem to try towards the end there, before Arias’s final and fatal trip to Mesa.
Besides all of this, Travis seems pretty darn popular and dearly loved by all who knew him. Seems like more people knew that Jodi was obsessed with Travis and she had less of a positive following to back up her loving and wonderful personality and what a terrific soul that she was. (Did anybody actually say that about her? I didn’t hear any of it. Just praise on his part.) He has the upper hand in that arena as well where the jury is concerned. Seems some of his own friends were slightly concerned about Arias even. (Though I am certain nobody ever imagined this happening. Who would?) Family and friends did mention her name awful quickly though after the fact. Another strike against Arias. She wasn’t a stable mable by any means.
Now my ex was violent at times with me and could convince people he was a saint at other times while out in public. But no matter how good he was during his best times there were always people who could back up the fact that he was able to get angry and even violent at times. His own brothers, other people in his family who grew up with him, his friends. You can’t tell me this man went through his entire life without anybody seeing the side of him that only Arias saw?
Not a one ex girlfriend could say he hit her or even was ‘into little boys’ which she will rot in hell for that false statement. Not a sibling or friend can say that he had times of going into fits of rages were he lost control. I mean we all get angry so little things mean nothing but if he was an abuser she would NOT have been his only victim. The jury I hope will also realize that. Somebody would know something.
This guy was a great guy with a sex drive like any red-blooded American male who had a ‘lust only’ relationship with a woman willing to cater to his every sexual whim in hopes for a future that was never going to happen. He was courting other women looking for the one that would be worthy of one day being his wife and bearing his children. He didn’t hide that from her. She was NOT going to be that person. I think she figured that out finally. It suddenly became real. I think she saw red. If anybody should have been afraid that day it should have been poor, unsuspecting Travis.
She plotted every move she made along the way. I mean much of it’s documented! She went into that home prepared for his killing if things did not go her way. Nothing that happened that day was Travis Alexander’s fault. All of us at some point in life are with the wrong person until we find the right one. We just don’t usually end up dead because of it. People need to put the focus back on feeling sorry for the victim. That’s where it belongs.
Travis was stalked and murdered!
I can only imagine what his poor family members are going through having to watch the man they admired and loved get ripped to shreds because really that is all Arias and her lawyers can possibly do. When it comes down to d-day and the verdict is handed down do I think all of her lies will add up to an acquittal?? Hell no! Have I been extremely shocked before? Absolutely. But if justice is served as it should be, it should be given to Travis Alexander. Sorry to repeat myself again on a couple of things, but I think it’s VILE what she is trying to do to the memory of someone she supposedly ‘loved’ in a very sick and unhealthy way. What she is now doing to me and to every woman like me is disgusting.
Jodi…stop making a mockery of what an abuse victim really looks like. Stop bending then straightening your ring finger for empathy. Travis never broke it and you know it. Come on, can’t they get a doctor in there or take an x ray or something? Seriously!
If she can lie about one thing (and that’s a biggie), she can lie about another and another and another..and she has. I hope her credibility as far as the jury is concerned is completely shot by now, but we just can’t know what is going on in their minds. You just never can tell. UGH!
(BTW- Showing some love from one twin mama to another. Hope Lucy & John David are doing well 😀 .)
In conclusion, my view of Arias is this:
Maybe even believes her own lies. Can these people even beat a lie detector test? Who knows. But I do not see her rushing off to get one. Makes you wonder why. (I know they aren’t admissible in court, but an innocent person is eager to clear their name ANY way that they can.)
Obsessed and obsessive
I can see other people, but you can’t ever ever be with anybody else ever again. Let me drive to you 1,000 miles away and make sure you are alone and try and get you to want me again forever. However, just in case I see it’s not going down that path….you are a dead man. (Totally premeditated in case things didn’t go her way and Travis didn’t tell her what she wanted to hear.) A definite fatal attraction. Evidence IS there to back many things up.
If I can’t have you nobody will. I think she feels a sense of relief knowing nobody will ever have him again.
(a rage killing)
Not a killing stemming from abuse but from jealousy, possessiveness, and realization of his ‘not in love’ feelings for her. He was never going to marry her no matter her changing her religion, jumping out of a plane, bungee jumping off of the Sears Tower….nothing. She was sex to him, possibly part friend, at least at a time, nothing more!
This mixed with rage can cause the type of insanity she used on this poor man the day of his murder. She knew he was moving on with his life and tried sabatoging every potential relationship he was to have, yet she will not admit to that. The evidence collected by cops proves differently. Texts and emails recovered proves that she was trying to do just that. Mine and mine forever.
YET sane enough by all means to stand trial and not get an insanity defense.
(As you can clearly see or the defense would have went that route.)
She is trying to phony up some emotion but it just doesn’t work. She thought she loved the man maybe and might miss having him alive with her but is happy he’s dead so he can’t be with anybody else. I can tell she doesn’t have enough remorse to break down over her disgusting actions like a normal human being who acted out of impulse or was trying to get away from a domestic violence situation surely would. She’s thinking, ”Who had the last laugh Travis?” Sick puppy.
”No jury will ever convict me!” Just look at that narcissism. Her excuse for that statement now just isn’t the truth. She meant what she said because she believed it. Likely still does. Oh, and has anybody ever taken so many photos of themselves in their lifetime? I know she considered herself a ‘photog’, but she claims she was not comfortable in front of the camera. WOW, what is comfortable then? From regular pics to risque pics, to actual sex pics. She seems pretty damn confident in herself to me. Plus, she took every opportunity to be seen on national TV as well.
Abuse victim? Not by a million mile long shot.
Travis was her prey. HE was an abuse victim in the end.
Abuse victims are NOT violent people. Quite the opposite that is why they are so vulnerable and easily manipulated.
If faced with a rage situation and the ability to take forceful action they may not choose to even do so. Even if that means risking their own lives because they are NOT violent people. They (I know this well) do NOT want to harm anybody, though they might want to get out of the bad situation, or need to. If they do use force it’s as minimal as possible in order to simply escape the situation with their lives and/or the lives of their children if applicable. Not kill the man 50 times over.
Oh, and don’t you think he was obviously very unsuspecting of Arias coming at him as she did in the shower? Don’t you think an abusive man of his size could take this woman down? Heck yeah! He never saw her coming. After the first injuries were viciously inflicted without warning, he didn’t stand a chance against this monster 😥 .
THAT is my profile of Jodi Arias. May Lord not have mercy on her soul.
Sorry this is so long people. My longest post ever..WOW! I just had to vent about this. Every time I See this woman up on the stand I just want to scream and jump inside of the television and make the jury understand what they are seeing isn’t real. They are seeing a show. A performance by Arias…nothing more. Please do not feel any sympathy for her.
OK..have a happy Sunday folks. If you have any opinions on the case let me know in the comments section below. I’m going to send this link over to Nancy Grace because she did ask if anybody can help us make some sense out of this (and as abuse victim I wanna throw my two cents in)..please do feel free to comment and voice yourself. Maybe she will read it maybe not, but it felt good to vent about my feelings on the case and the horrible fate of Travis and how I believe it came to be, regardless. I know I’m not the only woman out there appalled or even offended by Jodi Arias right now.
Abuse victims are not liars. It goes vise-versa. Did she lie about her story over and over again out of fear of a dead man?
If you are watching the trial, watch this 48 hour special where Arias lies easily to the world about the night of Travis’s death.
Take care and God bless!
A guilty verdict for Travis Alexander’s killer.
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