Is It Really The Terrible Twos, Or The Terrible Threes, Fours, …So on!

 

 

Is It Really The Terrible Twos, Or The Terrible Threes, Fours, …So on!

2-20-2012

 

 

Should terrible twos be called the terrible twos, or would it be better named..’the calm before the storm?’ Not sure about others’ experiences, and certainly not trying to scare anybody including myself, (though I might.)

 

I just always remember thinking that threes were worse then the twos, and that twos in fact aren’t quite as terrible as I thought they would be. I guess not in comparison after being there a few times anyway.

 

Kids are smarter, learn in small ways even at 3 how to manipulate, they are stronger for sure. Fast, cunning, ready for destruction. Even a hint of diva creeps in, with girls anyway.

 

By 4 I think the inner diva takes over, and by 5 forget about it. Though this commercial uses an older boy as an example.. moms of divas will understand..watch for a chuckle.

 

 

VERY few commercials make me laugh!

 ’You’re not yourself, when you’re three.’     LOL.

 

 

The thought of what I call ‘the tumultuous threes’ with twins scares the willies out of me, much like thinking about these beautiful girls bolting into teenagehood. YIKES! I’m hoping maybe twins may have an advantage here. They are used to sharing toys and the spotlight.

 

They have each other and hopefully by that point (may?) fight a little bit less, and play a little bit more with one another. But this is all speculation and perhaps, a little bit..part fantasy.

 

I guess in my mind I’m just reaching. But to me, two still is quite ‘babyish.’ Yeah, you may have your tantrums, but their minds are still fairly innocent. They aren’t plotting many if any, evil missions against you. They still crave hugs, and hand holding. They are small enough still to manage and hold. They don’t talk enough to annoy the heck out of you.

 

Oh you know how excited you are to hear all of their first words and little sentences, but after they get to energizer bunny speed, don’t lie..you pray you find a hidden mute button on the back of their necks. You get asked a gazillion questions, and as they get older the trap just flaps faster and faster. Ok, now I am scaring myself.

 

 

I’m not really sure WHY two has gotten such a bad rap over the generations. Was it somebody’s sick way of ‘helping’ parents make it through the 2nd year with hope in sight, and then take it all away with a big ‘ol ‘IN YOUR FACE!?’

 

Not really sure, but I never remember even getting to 4′s and calling them fabulous, actually I called them the ‘ferocious fours.’ Indeed maybe some things get easier over time.

 

1.) You are out of diapers. One smelly expense over and done with.

 

2.) They become more independent, which is not always a great thing, like in a department store as an example. They might find it funny to run and hide from you. You, after having two heart attacks, did not find it quite as funny.

 

3.) They understand you more. (Doesn’t mean they’ll listen more.)

 

4.) They can do more things for themselves. Always feeding themselves, if you are lucky at 3 at least, NOT picking out clothes just yet. (But many will.) I have had many a tantrum and ended up with a strangely dressed toddler, my head hung low, in public before. Thank God as they age they learn to coordinate.

 

5.) School is only a jump and a holler away, but you might as well sit out in the parking lot. 2.5 hours? What a crock .

 

I don’t know, I see more pros in staying young. Here are things to consider on the other side of the coin.

 

 

(3+)

 

1.) They can throw harder and faster.

 

2.) Make bigger messes.

 

3.) Say NO to your kisses. *CRY*.

 

4.) Miss the toilet bowl.

 

5.) Cause a massive plumbing bill. (Watch that toilet paper moms! THEY LOVE IT!)

 

6.) You pay full price for everything, everywhere you go. At 3, saying my twins are 16 months just isn’t going to work anymore for a better deal.

 

 7.) They are little clones of their older siblings all of the sudden. Not always a good thing.

 

 8.) They weigh much more. Can anybody say..SCIATICA! (Already got it. I’m sitting on a heating pad as I type.) Ut-oh.

 

9.) As they grow the money further goes…

 

 10.) The ‘tude’ starts coming out slowly but surely. 3 or 4 going on 14. So not looking forward to that.

 

“You might be tired moms, but we can do no wrong.”

 

Click here to see my 10 reasons why I say the smaller the better, and not just for my back’s sake. (Though I do love watching them grow and develop as tots, don’t get me wrong. )

 

Once you reach the age which may be different for every child, where the ‘tude’ comes out, and it will for both boys and girls, though girls seem to go above and beyond..there is really no turning back.

 

What do you think? I guess only been there, done that moms can truly answer. This just popped into my mind this morning, and I thought it might make for some interesting conversation. Plus, I think that other people (myself included) would like to know from some seasoned pros.

 

 

”Don’t worry…once they are 20 you’ll forget all about this conversation. Then you’ll see your grand kids being born, watch your kids go through all that you did, and you’ll smile. You’ll also be able to get in your car and go home .”- Mama Possible