How To Get Pregnant Faster: A Woman’s Guide To TTC
How To Get Pregnant Faster: A Woman’s Guide To TTC
My little ladies are 35 months, 3 weeks, and 5 days old.
When it comes to getting pregnant fast, it’s hard to know which category you and your partner will fall into. For some couples there is quick success, while for others the road the motherhood can be longer and even quite painful.
Nobody wishes to have to try to get pregnant. For most of us we just expect it to happen when we are ready. This is not always the case. I hope that the article below using my vast personal knowledge along with the facts, will help shorten the distance between you and your dreams, as a former TTC veteran myself.
1) Too much sex no good?
Sometimes there really can be too much of a good thing. You need to have sex in order to get pregnant, but you should let the male sperm supply replenish itself and not overdo do deed. Save those precious spermies for your most fertile time of the month. (I will discuss more below.)
Other times of the month feel free to baby dance for practice whenever you wish, but as you come up to the period before ovulation, sex every 3 days or so to keep the sperm fresh not stale, is a good idea when trying to conceive. It helps some men with their sperm quality and count.
Some men have a quicker rate of turnover, but especially for a man with a proven low sperm count it is best to wait 24-36, even 48 hours (for some) between love making sessions. For normal men 24 hours should fly, but having sex 3 times in one day is not the best thing while TTC. (My husband can ejaculate multiple times in one love-making session. This could be a problem.)
Since the window of ovulation is a short one having sex twice during this ‘fertile time’ will be fine and help aid in conception. 3 times max! The times with my boys that I got pregnant naturally were only 1 time in the fertile period. I saw that happen a lot. It’s hard to know when your best time is though. (Know when your best time is by reading further down.)
If sperm counts are normal sex 3 times…once before ‘O’ (if possible. After you see your LH surge on your ovulation test). One time during ‘O’, and one last time just after ovulation (if desired) makes for the best pregnancy success rate. The egg doesn’t stay good for long after release. (Typically 12-24 hours max.) The sperm can stay alive and active for up to 5 days in woman’s reproductive track. (48-72 hours being most typical.)
Just make sure he:
A) Refrains from masturbation or oral sex while you are attempting to get pregnant.
(Unless it is definitely outside of your fertile area.)
B) Does not wear super tight pants.
Even switching from briefs to boxers and loose fit jeans can help make a difference in sperm production and quality/ quantity.
C) Fully ejaculates inside of your vagina.
Pulling out at any point will lessen your chances of conception. I recommend keeping the penis in for several seconds after the ejaculation is complete, though usually the first squirt of seminal fluid contains the most sperm it certainly won’t hurt.
*My After-Sex Suggestion*
After sex I suggest you do not get up right away to urinate, get dressed, etc. While you do not need to stand on your head, helping gravity out can only help your chances at conception. (Sex directly before bed is great to.) I advise a woman to put her bum up on 1 or two pillows, depending on their fullness, and stay in that position for 15-20 minutes (if possible.) Even just a few minutes is better than nothing. I used to do 15-25 personally.
It is proven that woman who lie down for 15 minutes after IUI (Intrauterine insemination) have a higher success rate of conception. To me this proves that at home doing the same can yield better results for you after regular intercourse as well.
*Warning regarding semen leakage*
DON’T FREAK OUT! No matter what you do some of your partner’s semen will leak out of your vagina when you stand up. Even if it’s the next day! This is completely and totally normal. Semen has sperm inside of it, but that is not all semen is made up of. The sperm that are released and are alive and able to swim to try and reach your egg to conquer it, are already off and running. This won’t harm your chances and should not disappoint or worry you in any way.
2) Sexual positions to get pregnant faster
This is funny because honestly, I got pregnant with my 2nd child while doing the woman on top position and hopping right off to go pee. Obviously, sperm can work against gravity. My fertility was greater back then at 20 though. As I got older and battling my husband’s age and my endometriosis, along with our unexplained infertility, we didn’t take chances. When we made love we choose the following positions:
A) Missionary position (Man on top)
This gets you fully prepped to put that pillow under your rear. Also, slightly elevating the hips during sex via this position might also help. It certainly is worth a try.
B) Doggy Style (hands and knees)
This gives you the deep penetration to get those sperm as close to the cervix as possible, thus shortening their journey.
C) Side by side (spooning)
This, much like doggy style, helps put the sperm nearer to the cervix. A good alternative if doggy style is uncomfortable for you.
*QUICK TIP- Having a female orgasm can help aid in conception.*
Some women may feel let down reading this as many women have trouble achieving orgasm through intercourse alone. However, you can certainly get pregnant without having one. (I know this very, very well.) There is evidence that the strong contractions of an orgasm helps to push the sperm up into the cervix and right where they need to be. It basically helps the little guys along on their tedious journey. (It feels good to 😉 .)
If you are like most and find this very hard to accomplish..do what I did. Right after sex is complete put your pillow under your rear and use your clitoral stimulator (vibrator, but only externally) to achieve an orgasm if you are in a place you are able to do this, of course. (I waited for my husband to hit the shower after sex 😆 .)
I recommend within the first 2-15 minutes after sex has been completed. Likely the sooner the better though. Even 1/2 hour is likely better than nothing. (These are just my thoughts. The sperm are still alive and swimming upstream at that point.) I tried to do it as quickly as possible. 2-10 min. roughly.
3) Avoid (at least limit) stress
It isn’t a myth that stress can hinder a successful conception from taking place. Stress can throw hormones out of whack, which is a very bad thing. Hormones help regulate everything that has to do with the entire process of ovulation and whether or not it even takes place. And these hormones need to be perfectly balanced in order to create and sustain a growing pregnancy. Throwing them off by stress can cause problems.
A) Mess with your hormones and imbalance them.
B) If you do conceive extreme stress can cause early miscarriage.
C) Pressuresome sex can turn your guy off.
Making sex a less intimate experience and more of just a ‘job’ can be a big turn off to a man. You have to play the game girlfriend. Into it or not make it sexy mama! (Fake it if you must!)
D) Possibly make your partner unable to perform completely. (Impotence).
(The penis is a tricky piece of machinery. Read below please.)
Ever hear of relax and you will get pregnant? It may not work for everybody but it has certainly worked for some. Enough for research to have been done on the subject. So while it’s easy to be stressed wondering if this will be your month or year if you are trying for a long time. (I know..I have been there and know there IS a lot of stress involved.) You have to try and combat that and somehow over time still keep lovemaking fun for both of you.
For me, though my husband had a good clue, I didn’t bring up verbally that it was my fertile time and say ‘hit it now.’ Putting the extreme pressure on him did NOT work out. I learned along the way that I caught way more flies with honey than with vinegar. I just came at him more. I didn’t eliminate the ‘turn on’ no matter how I was feeling. (Cute panties, a sexy outfit, initiation by me to him.)
He may have known, but I didn’t say, ”Plug me now honey, it’s time to do it,’ and just lay down and take it. It can cause impotence in some men, especially if the ‘trying to get pregnant routine’ has gone on a long while. This inability to rise to the occasion can lead to anger from woman to man if it’s your good time of month and he can’t perform. ‘Baby sex stress’ over long periods of time can end an otherwise great marriage. I have seen it happen. So do what I say to do please!
Intense TTC pressure puts a lot of stress on a man. (We are stressed about the process to, but we do not have to get an erection.) So alleviate that by helping him think with his little head, not that lovemaking is all about making a baby and this will yield a more positive, less stressful result. TRUST ME..I know!
This must be why so many couples get pregnant on their honeymoons or on vacations. (There’s an idea. Take a trip!)
*Oral sex before intercourse warning*
Um, if you can avoid this..please do. Your saliva may possibly kill off some of the precious sperm in the ejaculate when it’s released. While many women have gotten pregnant after giving oral sex it is not recommended while trying to conceive. (At the very least try and wipe the penis clean before entry.) As far as oral sex for you, the woman…NO! His saliva potentially can kill off sperm even easier this way.
Instead, try using your hands, kissing, visual aids like sexy lingerie or hot, little panties (my hub’s fav), neck kissing, and grinding to get your partner good and riled. Avoid oral sex only during the time of the month you are most fertile. Just in case. (If you can.)
BIG recommendation for women.
This is a sperm-friendly lubricant that is not sold in retail stores that I know of. At least it wasn’t back in my day, and it really does help. I got pregnant without IUI with my husband only by using this product. It doesn’t matter if you have a good amount of cervical mucus down there. It just helps..believe me! I was on a message board with thousands of woman and saw many of them trying for a long time then used this product and we had so many success stories. Some after only a month’s time! Others within 3.
I highly recommend pre-seed to ALL couples trying to conceive. Plus, your man will like the feeling of it to. I just slipped mine in before sex. (Again, he knew but I didn’t talk about it.) I learned the less talk about actual baby making before and during sex was best for my husband’s performance. I guarantee it will help yours to. This stuff feels good and it works for so many women!
4) Get & stay healthy
Keeping both your body and mind healthy can help aid in your personal fertility. Obese women, and women who are very underweight are more likely to have longer waits for pregnancy achievement, or may even face fertility problems requiring treatment. Though your doctor may recommend a weight loss or gain plan depending on your particular situation, if the need should be.
Exercise helps you feel good and helps eliminate stress also. TTC can be stressful so it is not a bad idea for ANYBODY to get some exercise! You may lose some weight as well. Improving your eating habits is another great way to get your pre-baby body in top notch shape for a successful conception.
Getting your body ready for baby? There is a great book for that!
5) Start taking daily prenatal vitamins with folic acid.
If you were to go to a doctor to help you on your TTC (Trying to conceive journey) he would recommend you take one, so I am telling you now. You can find these online and even in your local pharmacies. They need not be prescription. I took them for years in between pregnancies even. It helps to have all of the important vitamins in your body prior to conception, most importantly folic acid.
Folic acid helps decrease the risk of certain birth defects, and these vitamins may actually help your body prepare for, and achieve pregnancy quicker starting from the inside. I highly recommend you get some right away if you haven’t already. They are fairly inexpensive and just plain good for you and your pre-baby body. Some have DHA as well.
6) Improve cervical mucus
Cervical mucus is very important if you wish to conceive. Some women have a more abundant supply than others. I think this was definitely a problem for me as I got older.
The sperm travels in an upward motion towards the cervix and beyond in this special fluid that women usually notice an increase of around the time of ovulation and right before it, (her most fertile time.) It should be nice and stretchy at its best. Like ‘egg whites’ in appearance. You should be able to stretch it between your fingers before it breaks. (Yes, you can check this quite easily.)
If you do not get a great amount of this type of mucus and feel that this may be your problem..don’t despair.
Improving your cervical mucus:
A) Increase your fluid intake.
Drink lots of water every single day.
B) Try Robitussin or better yet Mucinex.
They have an ingredient in them to enhance your natural juices and help get them flowing. If buying Robitussin make sure it contains the ingredient Guaifenesin or it is NOT going to help. Some variatons do not, so be careful.
C) PRE-SEED, PRE-SEED, AGAIN PRE-SEED.
It’s a natural lube that has zero negative effects on sperm. Some other lubricants claim to be sperm-friendly but none are as gentle on sperm and helpful at mimicking cervical mucus as this is. Again, a lot of ++’ve tests I have seen come from this stuff.
Now..the most important part that keeps many women from conceiving because they just don’t know about it……
7) When am I most fertile? How do I know when I am fertile? When should we have sex?
I highly recommend doing all of these things below. It may seem like a lot, but if you have been trying awhile without any success, these things will help you nail down your fertile time giving you the best chance at conception.
A) Get to know your cycles.
B) Start taking your basal body temperature every morning and charting your temps.
This really isn’t very difficult to do and can really help you get to know your cycles. I suggest using Fertility Friend’s online, charting software. You can see your cycles month to month. Recognize your usual cycle length, usual cycle day of ovulation, it even will tell you if you covered your bases with sex during your most fertile times that month, and your overall chances of conceiving in any one particular cycle.
It really is a very helpful tool, and if I can figure it out easily, so can you! I did this for some time and it told me a lot. Many women I know got pregnant by charting. Most did use Fertility Friend. (So, I did to.) Soon after using the software you will see that your temperatures generally stay high for a couple of days and take a sudden shift after ovulation has taken place. You will no longer be fertile at that time.
1st get yourself a basal thermometer.
C) Check your body signs for impending ovulation
1. Increase in cervical mucus for most.
You can check with your fingers. Is it nice and stretchy, not plain watery? Watery usually indicates the body is preparing for the BEST stuff. After ovulation cervical mucus becomes dry and even tacky again.
2. A low, soft, open cervix is a very fertile one.
The cervix moves down and gets softer around ‘O’ time. At ‘O’ time it can even feel open a bit. You can check this with your fingers also, but that can take some practice.
(I’ll write a post on cervix checking another time. You can Google that until I do.)
D) Buy ovulation test strips to help take the guess work out of things.
Some women can swear they feel ovulation, but by then it may already be too late. Grab some cheap ovulation test strips. (Don’t spend big bucks at the store it will add up to TOO much.) Buy cheap below. (Get your HPTS to.) You can test and test some more without the guilt. I always bought in bulk.
You need to catch the ovulation surge and have sex right then and there to help maximize your chances for conception. The next day to. (If sperm count is real problem, skip one day if you must.) The day of the surge, if you catch the day before somehow, that is great to because sperm can survive inside of a woman’s body for up to 5 days.. (2-3 most common). The sperm will be ready and waiting for that eggie. Usually 12-36 hours, 48 in some cases after your positive result is when you will ovulate…SO BD (baby dance) away!
After ovulation ends, your chance for that month vanishes, so you need these test strips. No guessing games if you are seriously TTC. (I’ll do a detailed post and video about testing for ovulation in the near future. They are pretty easy to learn how to use and can make a world of difference in your pregnancy success rate.)
I trust the Wondfo brand of cheapies most.
Here are what the test strips look like
The greens ones are ovulation tests (or OPKS) & the blue are pregnancy tests (or HPTS).
This is how you read them in short.
The test line must be absolutely equal to or greater in darkness than the control line, where as with an HPT any line is a positive.
7) Patience is hard, but it is worth the wait.
Don’t dismay folks! Even a normal, healthy couple only has a 25% chance of conception each and every month. That is even when all conditions are perfect. For some it will take a month (lucky devils.) For some it will take up to 6 months, and for some beyond. If you have been trying to conceive for 6 months or more and are over the age of 35 you should seek medical help to hurry things along.
Even after 30 if you are looking to have more than one child most especially, seek help prior to 6 months if this is a concern of yours. Fertility starts declining pretty quickly in our 30’s. The later you go, the more it declines. (Not trying to scare anybody. Plenty of women have babies into their 40’s.)
There are fertility medications that can help and may be all you need..SHOULD you even need them. Clomid being one of the biggies. I was on it 6 times. It worked so well at making a greater amount of eggs and more mature eggs for me and for many. If you haven’t even hit the 30 mark yet it is recommended you seek help after trying actively for one year. Again, do what you wish, especially if you are looking to have a large family.
For all women the doctor will check out your thyroid, hormones, etc. via blood tests. They may do an ultrasound to make sure all looks on the up and up, and the doctor’s personal advice will follow based on your particular case and their findings. Don’t stress….
You will be a mama!
Hang in there. I really hope this post helped someone out there!