How To Conceive Twins (For the Locos Out There HA!)
How to Conceive Multiples
**Up Front Disclaimer: I do not, in any way, personally recommend ‘trying’ to have twins or higher order multiples, I’m simply discussing the topic, because it is one that is rather popular, despite popular belief, to all us twin mommies. WE wouldn’t change being a twin mom for anything, because It’s what God chose for us, but not many, if any, of us, chose to be a multiple mom, as there are A LOT, of risks, possible complications, and more to consider, when trying for two or more at once, and that will all be acknowledged in this post, some people may be unaware of. For personal reasons, I’m putting the ‘why nots’ first, & the how-to’s second, though I know many stubborn mules, won’t bother reading the 1st part…Oh well, I tried :)**
First, let’s discuss the facts. Pregnancy, birthing, and raising twins, is yes twice the laughter and love, but twice the work. Yes, even before birth, a twin pregnancy is quite different then a singleton pregnancy, and IS hard work, in and of itself. The body is really meant to carry only one passenger at a time, so it isn’t a breeze, especially as you move on through pregnancy. It’s much more full of worry, tests, Dr. visits, and PAIN.
Those throbbing ribs and my back were simply killing me, that final month or more and handle pain extremely well. Plus, your increased girth, makes tasks you used to be able to accomplish with one in tow, seemingly impossible. You can forget about shaving your legs…you won’t come close, trust me 😆 .
There are many things to think about, before you dare attempt trying for twins.
#1) You better start thinking about finances, because an extra baby, is just that, an extra baby. So it’s twice the food, formula, pampers, toys, clothing, and everything essentially.
#2) Think about the facts & statistics. Over 50% of all twins are born prematurely. (Before 37 wks. for a duo). The numbers are actually closer to 60%, which affects A LOT of women and babies. There is no crystal ball to know ahead of time, if you will fall into this category or not, but it is a large number, and prematurity, can cause increased risks for infant death, cerebral palsy, learning disabilities, and a host of other serious problems, including lung immaturity, brain hemorrhage, and an immature immune system, RSV, the list goes on & on.
Definitely something to think about. PLUS, the miscarriage rate for twins is higher then for singletons, (losing the entire pregnancy), and the loss of one twin, occurs about 20% of the time, by the 14 week mark. (Often known as Vanishing Twin Syndrome). I have experienced that myself, so it is NOT uncommon.
#3) Carrying two or more is extremely hard, and increases your risks of many potential, some life-threatening complications, such as: placental abruption, placenta previa, pre-eclampsia, eclampsia, Gestational Diabetes, c-section, and more.
#4) Be sure you have a tremendous support system with an amazing partner, family & friends, behind you, before attempting to get pregnant with two or more babies (I can’t imagine more at once, then two, but it happens). Have a very stable marriage, with a lot of security, and a wonderful partner, who is all for having multiples as well.
*NEVER TRICK A MAN INTO GETTING PREGNANT WITH 1 BABY OR ANY AMOUNT OF BABIES. IF YOU NEED TO DO THIS, IN ORDER TO TRY AND CONCEIVE, PLEASE LEAVE THIS PAGE NOW!! MAKE HIM AWARE IF YOU ARE INDEED TRYING FOR MULTIPLES. THIS ADVICE IS HUGE, SO PLEASE LISTEN TO IT!*
#5) Some women may not yet have any children, and think, if I get pregnant with twins, it’ll be great, and we can be DONE in one pregnancy, and ya know, I don’t know how I really feel about that statement, being that I already had my plate quite full, before the twins arrived. I remember wanting to BE a twin, but don’t remember wanting my 1st child to be twins, so I could be over with, so I’m guessing it was never a thought of mine.
All I can say, is that in my opinion, having been pregnant with singleton’s, and multiples, that for me, two separate pregnancies are easier on the body then a single twin pregnancy. ( Again, I can’t imagine beyond that. Triplets or more). This may not be agreed upon, by all twin mommies, it’s just my own experience and opinion.
Yes, it may be a pretty thought to ‘Get it all over with’, and have a ready made family, especially if you have been trying to conceive for some time, and are afraid you may not be able to give your child a sibling, which is a founded fear, if it’s extremely hard for you to get pregnant, and in that situation, i can understand, but else wise, truly, one at a time is nature’s way, and really the right way, especially for a 1st time parent. Twins being cute, and dressing them alike, and getting attention from the public, are NOT valid reasons to try for a twin birth.
A first child really changes the dynamics of your entire relationship with your spouse, and takes a lot of adjusting, and in my opinion suddenly adding even 1 child to the mix, for any couple, is a blessing, however it is also the most shocking jolt to a relationship, it can withstand, and really tests the bounds of it’s strength, more so then a second or third, because you were only used to caring for one another, and hadn’t yet spread yourself that far, and taken on the demands of being a parent, meaning, you didn’t know anything about parenthood yet, and x’s two, would be all the more taxing. Not to say it can’t be, and hasn’t been done a million times, and a lot of times with great success, I’m just saying it’s food for thought. I have heard countless mothers come up to me and say. ‘Oh, I always wanted twins, until I had my 1st baby’. That statement speaks VOLUMES. A fantasy is perfect, easy, and full of endless bliss, reality is HARD WORK 🙂
OK, I could go on all day, but this is a quick breakdown, of some of the reasons why I don’t advise, trying for two or more babies at one time, and note, with every increased number, meaning triplets, quads, etc., you increase all the risks listed above, so you want to be careful, because sometimes taking your fertility into your own hands, can be playing with fire.
You might try for twins, and get more then you bargained for, especially, when using follicle stimulating medications, such as Clomid, Femara, and Gonal-F & other injectable drugs, that may cause many eggs to release, so BE CAREFUL please.
Now, I have read on the Internet before, have even known of one woman, on a message board, I used to frequent, who was dying to have multiples, and her husband wasn’t even on board with having ONE more baby, and she was secretly taking Clomid behind his back. This really is very bad practice, number one, number two, it’s severely dishonest, and number three, that is one bad, bad marriage, if there is that much distrust, deceit going on, and disrespect for someone else’s wishes.
That isn’t a good relationship situation to bring even 1 new child into the world. Not until the other party decides he does want a child, and is completely in accordance with what your wishes are, and what medications, you are ingesting. Without that consent, it is one of the worst forms of deception possible.
She used to say, but once he sees his baby or babies, he’ll fall in love, yadda yadda, OF COURSE, a man, most likely will love his children, once they are here, but it’s the way that they got here. You can’t base a relationship on lies, and this would come back eventually to bite you in the butt, and your hubby will not be looking at you with adoring eyes, once he finds out what you did, so make sure before you attempt any of these multiple baby-making tips, you have FULL support of your partner.
It took me some time to convince my hubby for one more baby, but with time, patience, and being completely honest, open, and smart about the reasons why, and keeping his feelings respected, he came around. I certainly never took anything behind his back, and do not recommend this practice, AT ALL.
OK…let’s get down to it. Are some of these things, fact or fiction? Hard to say, but they are said to help aid in conceiving twins, and most seem to make pretty good sense, so I’ll go & share them now. Some obvious, some not so obvious:
How To Get Pregnant With Multiples List
#1- Take Folic Acid. (This is good practice for any woman TTC (Trying to conceive) but it also may aid in helping you conceive multiples, naturally).
#2- Eating wild yams (NOT ordinary yams. This is a proven ‘Twin making food’ in a tribe in Africa, that has a huge amount of twin gestations, so unless it’s a huge coincidence….hunt down, and eat some wild yams!!)
#3- Increasing your intake of dairy products. Milk, cheese, yogurt, etc.
#4- Have a family history of twins. Meaning YOU MOM! If your husband has twins on his side of the family, it is believed, that this does NOT increase your odds, contrary to some popular belief, however, if they run in your family, chances ARE nicely increased.
#5- Conceive right after the birth control pill is stopped. I’m unsure of the exact reasons, but you DO have an increased chance of having a twin conception, if you get pregnant in the first several months, after stopping the pill. Go figure, something you take to NOT get pregnant, can get ya two-fold, when you do. HE HE!
#6- Wait longer to have children. The older you are, the more likely you are, to have multiples. A woman of 35, has a greater chance of conceiving multiples then does a woman of 25, and it just continues from there. The odds increase with every passing year, so by age 45, your odds for a natural twin pregnancy are 17%, however, do remember the risk of miscarriage, also increases with age.
#7- Eat foods that encourage the production of progesterone, which would include, whole grains, walnuts, chicken, and eggs.
#8- Have more kids first! Apparently, your chances of having twins are greater, if you are on your 3rd or 4th child, then if you are on your 1st or 2nd. Some believe this may be, because a woman stores more fat in her body, after having had more pregnancies, and children, hence heavier women, tend to conceive twins, and higher order multiples, more frequently.
#9- Conceive while still breastfeeding. So much for the age old belief of breastfeeding as a birth control method huh? It can actually HELP you get pregnant with twins. If you are breastfeeding, and looking to NOT get pregnant, many twin mothers, would encourage you to use a back-up method of contraception. 😆
#10- The most obvious way to conceive two or more babies, is by ovulation induction, using fertility medications. These medicines stimulate the ovaries to produce multiple eggs in a cycle, where normally only one would be produced, hence multiple chance of conception, and you guessed it…..multiple chances of having multiples.
If two eggs get fertilized, you will have twins, but you also run the risk of triplets, and even higher order multiples, which can be EXTREMELY dangerous, for mother and babies, so it’s definitely something you ONLY want to use under a Dr’s care, never via an online prescription, or without ultrasound monitoring (I don’t feel comfortable without it. I didn’t want to be the next octomom, but I understand it can be quite costly, without really great insurance, but then again, so are 4 mouths to feed).
These medications are to not be taken lightly, and should be used only when needed. (Like in women who don’t ovulate because of PCOS, or don’t ovulate ‘good’ eggs every month, and want an increased chance of conception, after trying to conceive a year or more if under the age of 35, and 6 months or more, in women ages 35 and over.
These meds are powerful, and have their own side effects, so please talk to your Dr, when going on any medications, such as these: Clomid, Femara, and especially stronger drugs, such as, Gonal-F, Follistim, Bravelle, Repronex injectables, in which you can hyper-stimulate the ovaries, and develop OHSS, and this can cause a life threatening situation, so listen to your Dr., follow instructions, and never increase dosages of any fertility meds, without your Doctor’s consent.
Babies are blessings, whether they come one at a time, or a 1/2 a dozen, but there are just real risks involved, and REAL people involved to. You want to give the best to your children & be able to give them the best of you, so after reading all of this, if you truly want to conceive multiples, then good luck to you. I don’t regret mine in any way, but like I have said, not something that I would have chosen to try for, and it’s just a very scary thing, so be prepared, and I wish you great success in your journey to motherhood!
Whelp, that is all the time I have right now. Tune in next time..same place, same face!
Fertile thoughts & safe dreams