How To Beat Infertility Now & Product Recommendations To Get You Pregnant Faster
How To Beat Infertility Now & Product Recommendations To You Get Pregnant Faster
My twin darlings are 5 years, 2 months & 3 weeks old.
”There’s a war to win here, but the rewards are worth the battle. Mama P. assures you of it. When you feel like giving up – PLEASE don’t! You will be a mother!”
1 in 6 couples will face fertility woes when trying to conceive. Whether it is the male, female, combined or unexplained infertility as the cause, the effects are equally as devastating, especially for the women. As well I know that failure to conceive causes a woman monthly disappointment, great sadness and woe, and it can cause extreme pressure and duress in a relationship the longer it goes on for.
Luckily, for many couples timed sex, charting and fertility awareness are enough to eventually get to that second line on a pregnancy test without further help. Some couples need the help of a specialist, but most every couple tries on their own for awhile, and rightfully so. The trying can be difficult, and it stops being fun pretty fast, though I do recommend ‘faking it’ for your partner in order to get a great response from him. Planned monthly sex for purposes of making a baby can be quite stressful for him to, especially since he needs to have an erection, of course. I learned how to fake it and fake it good no matter how I was feeling on the inside. You do catch more flies with honey 😉 .
Dress up, fake interest.. whatever you got to do to win the prize my friends!
I know it’s hard, but it totally works! I have lots of experience. The stressed sex way never helped my man AT ALL! Trust Mama P.
Anyhow, just sex whenever is not enough for many couples. The hardest, yet most important thing for a woman to do to ensure her and her partner a great shot is pinpoint her fertile window. Yup, the time right before, during and then just after ovulation, though catching that surge before ovulation takes place so the sperm are there and ready, waiting for your egg, is the best way to optimize your chances of getting pregnant faster.
I have been down this road 2 times, and I will say that I have tried everything on this page EXCEPT for the male and female fertility tests that weren’t yet available at the time, but man.. that is really cool! You can check yourself out and your partner out at home at a reasonable price. This is great news for women with head-strong honeys who aren’t yet ready to go in for help. Many men will stall a trip to the doctor due to stubborn male pride and ego. It doesn’t mean they don’t love you nor wish for you to not have their baby, even if it makes you feel that way at the time – it’s not the truth.
Some men are desperate to try and give you a baby the old fashioned way. We know they are no less of a man just like we are no less of a woman, but we can get past things easier than they can. These items below will help you get your best shot of conceiving naturally on your own, and maybe, just maybe, you won’t need to go any further for your dream of motherhood, or repeat motherhood in cases of secondary infertility like mine.
Let’s get started 😛 !
First you are going to want to chart your BBT (basal body temperature) every morning upon waking. For this you need an inexpensive, specially designed thermometer. (I will only use a digital.) I kept mine under my pillow at night to ensure that I took my temperature with the absolute least amount of movement on my part come the morning.
You can use a pad and paper to chart, but why would you? There are terrific websites with charting software where most features are free. You can upgrade, but I never needed to. Fertility Friend is my favorite. You can get to know your cycles, their length, your luteal phase, your usual ovulation time and symptoms, and your chances of conception for any given month. It’s awesome!
Another little gadget I owned years back, which I am sure they have only gotten better with time, is a fertility microscope. These are pretty cheap to buy, and what you do is either slide a bit of saliva or vaginal mucus on top and look through to view your pattern. A heavily crystallized appearance means that you are at ‘go-time’. It may sound a bit complicated, but trust me, you learn how to read your patterns very quickly. I think it’s quite a handy tool to have when you wish to confirm things and bed at the right time.
This was my most expensive TTC purchase, but it definitely took an amazing amount of the guesswork out of things. I found it to be a very cool tool during my last bout of trying to conceive.
You have to buy the sticks for monthly use, but it does pinpoint your fertile window and then the day of true ovulation with TREMENDOUS accuracy. I guess that’s why the price is what it is. You buy the sticks in a big box to save money there. If you conceive just sell off the unused sticks on eBay. I sold off my monitor after I got pregnant with my twins. I got darn good money for it. That made up for the price to start with.
These are ovulation test sticks. Now they sell them to where they have smiley faces and words on them when you should be bedding with your husband. Month after month these can get pretty expensive. Hopefully, you won’t need them long, but if you find you are a long-timer TTC gal like me, very unfortunately, stop buying these and move on to the next one – the cheapie OPKS.
The ‘cool’ digital ovulation tests.
An example of a cheapie OPK test that is EXTREMELY positive.
Note the insanely dark test line compared to the control line.
I’m not sure if I ever saw one quite this dramatic, but it is a good example to show.
These sticks may not be as glam and as cute as the above option, but when you are trying to save money or have been at it for awhile it really adds up (the cost). These cheap ovulation test strips I find easy to read. I mean some women may think a line is a line, but these are not pregnancy tests. The test line needs to be exactly equal to or darker than the control line to be a true positive result. You get used to reading them over a few cycles. They catch the surge of LH in your system that occurs prior to ovulation. SEX, SEX, SEX then my friends. So the others might be easier and cuter, these are for the long haul and something you definitely can figure out. They save a lot of loot, as do the cheapie home pregnancy tests next up.
These saved me TONS of money along the way. If you get a line, even a faint one on these types of HPTS, you can go and back it up with something more expensive, but why pay top dollar every month while trying? The costs really add up, especially if you are a pee stick addict like myself. They are cheap, pretty damn reliable in my experience, even over some of the more expensive store brands, and also are quite sensitive. (Again, over some store brands also.) I had a lot of fun with them knowing I wasn’t spending tons of cash with every test that I took. Warning – these can definitely become addictive!
The time I did conceive on my own and had a chemical pregnancy while trying for our last which ended up twins, I was using something called Pre-seed. After 29 or so I noticed a lack of that super abundant, fertile cervical mucus. This is a great way around it. Pre-seed is a sperm-friendly lubricant that does not hinder conception, but it helps aid the sperm in swimming up into your anatomy quickly and safely in hopes for one sperm to meet up with and penetrate your egg. End result hopefully? A beautiful baby.
I was on an a couple of amazing message boards with women just like me. We were all very close, and I saw MANY positive pregnancy tests connected to Pre-seed. I totally believe in it, and I not only would but have recommended it to people I meet. There’s no hype here.
I tried Robitussin and Mucinex, which did work a bit (the best the latter) to help me make my own mucus, but nothing beats that Pre-seed. SO many +++ stories out there. You can check for yourself. It’s a worthwhile purchase, and it feels good for the man during sex. Let’s face it, TTC sex can grow quite tedious and boring. Spice it up with a sexy outfit and some Pre-seed to make things different for him and optimize your own chances of conceiving to boot.
I hope this article helps give you all the best shot at conceiving your own baby at home. However, if all else fails and you do need extra help PLEASE do not feel badly. You are not alone in this, and I understand your feelings (and his) because I know all about it. The best thing you can do before going to the doctor, which should be after a year of active trying for couples where the women are under age 35 and 6 months for those over 35, especially if she wants more than one baby, but a lot of couples wait even longer.. usually due to male pride.
So give yourself the absolute BEST chances you can by trying some of the above items and advice, and definitely do start charting, checking your mucus, and get to know your body. If you also wish to check your own cervix for your fertile times.. (no it is not as hard as it sounds) check out my guide to knowing about your cervix and checking it, knowing your best and worst times to conceive. I found it to be a help in conjunction with other things mentioned above.
Take care, and happy baby-making!
Baby dust to all!