Getting Infant Twins’ Ears Pierced (The Facts, Our Story & A Poll)
My so far earring-less twins are 4 years, 6 months & 6 days old.
If you didn’t get your ears pierced as a baby, you very likely do remember the process of being pierced, and it wasn’t a pleasant one. I was 3 and 1/2, and I ran out of the store and out into the mall with only one ear pierced, and I wasn’t going back inside. I don’t know if they used scarier equipment back then, and now technology has made it less painful, as I myself have not needed to get re-pierced. My mom ended up doing it to me at 4 and 1/2 with an ice cube and a needle. (I’m not that bold to ever attempt that one.)
My daughter back then, also 4 and 1/2 years of age at that time, did just fine getting her ears done. She didn’t cry at all. Maybe it also has something to do with where you have it done. I highly recommend visiting the pediatrician to get your baby, bigger child or twins ears’ pierced. It doesn’t cost much more, and they do a fantastic job. It is well worth it to me. And surprisingly they have the perfect starter earrings as well at the office. I’d never do it any other way now. Mikayla got them done one at a time, but I have heard of them having the ability to do them simultaneously with another doctor at the child’s opposing side.
About a month before earrings were done on Mikayla. The twins were supposed to go to, but…
So what about twins? Many new moms of twins are going along with the ever-increasing trend of getting their female newborns pierced early. I guess in part for two reasons. For me, I thought about it with my girls because of the second reason. Here they are… #1) You have to admit many babies do look adorable with pierced ears, so some parents just go for the ‘cute factor’ and want them done because of this. #2) My main reason, so they would never remember the experience of being pierced. ‘Get it over with early’, if you will. So, when Mikayla reached the point where she wanted her ears done, and the twins were about a month old at the time, we decided to wait until 3 months of age and get them all done together on the same day. That big day came and I completely bailed out.
I saw Mikayla go first and do so well with her own, and so I knew that if she could do it, one day they could do the same hopefully, and possibly without any trauma whatsoever. I honestly was relieved that I didn’t have to hold them and hear them cry that day. Remember it or not… I would. (I’m a wuss. I have an impossibly hard time when my kids get their shots. It’s so sad, though necessary, to me.) This wasn’t necessary, so backing out was easier.
My other huge concern we had was with the twins’ themselves. This had me going back and forth in my brain for weeks. Twins touch each other, whether lovingly or not so lovingly. They play hard, and eventually they fight hard. So with a singleton I can certainly see the appeal of the pierced ears early, but with twins I bailed in the end for the main reason of what could possibly happen. Why would I risk it? I look back at their infant stage, and then God help me their early toddler years, and even now sometimes, and I am quite certain we would have had a tear and repair by now. I mean some twin pairs aren’t quite as feisty as mine are, but you never do know as little babies how they will be with one another. A sneak attack can take only but a second to happen.
I have heard of piercings done on young twins successfully without incident, but I have also met a lot of multiple moms like me that had the urge just to change their minds due to very similar reasons. Do twins look cute with their ears pierced? Sure. But twins look adorable without them as well. Using my own former sad story as a reason behind piercing them early just wasn’t enough after seeing my tough Mikayla and thinking more about it.
Mikayla getting her ears pierced at 4.5 years old.
Some moms sternly say that it should be up to the child. (Some even at a certain age. Maybe even as a tween or teen.) To each their own, I say. While I personally do NOT look at ear piercing (1 hole anyhow) as any true type of body modification like some people do, that the child may not wish to have one day, as I don’t know any little girl or big girl who doesn’t eventually want their ears pierced. It is the ‘nowaday norm’. I don’t look at it like a belly ring or a tattoo, or even like an ear piercing on a boy which is not the norm.
My ex-aunt had her son’s ear pierced at 2 years of age. I was only 12 at the time, but I did think and still think that wasn’t cool, as comparing men to women in this arena is impossible when you look outside and see how many men vs. women have an ear or both ears pierced. My 18 year old son has one piercing in his ear. He was a big boy and made his own mind about it. He did ask 1st, which I appreciated. Worse things he could have done for sure. My husband also had an earring he says, but he took it out after that phase in his life passed, and it’s closed up now. It isn’t like plastic surgery.
The difference between piercing a single baby vs. twins.
But do PLEASE remember that ear piercing with twins is NOT the same as it is with a singleton child. I can’t even tell you the thousands of times I thought about how relieved I was that we did not go through with it, because bad things would have happened, I know it. Some will argue that if done while they are real young they will learn to not touch their co-twin’s ears nor their own. See, it wasn’t just the other twin I was worried about, but also just Annie & Allie themselves to. And while this may apply some of the time to the one twin touching her own and possibly harming herself, I don’t believe that any small child could be taught or instinctively just knows that every body part is game BUT the ears. Not while they are very young. Maybe they learn not to over time, but it was not something I ended up wanting to risk when it is far from a life or death decision.
Piercing while the twins were newborns/ young infants was certainly not necessity, and besides, raising young twins is hard enough. It would have just been one more thing for this mama to have to worry about on a daily basis. These two started going at it early. (Pulling hair, clothing, biting, etc.) Mom was more of a referee than mom for a long, long while. Also, it isn’t just physical fighting, but twins also just touch and explore one another in general. Something bad could happen.
I thought I would regret not doing this now that the twins are 4 and 1/2, but I don’t.
What do you think about the subject? I know some will say let the child or children be old enough to choose for herself, and some will say they got it done early to avoid a future trauma, which honestly, my experience was bad, but Mikayla’s was not. So maybe they have come a long way. She is 9 now and has zero regrets in it. I know when the twins are ready their ears will be pierced, but at 4 and 1/2 now, I would still be worried with this duo. They do fight dirty, but I’d feel much more secure than I once did. They told me they are not ready yet. I asked them. I fully respect that. They have decades and decades ahead of them to adorn their ears with pretty jewelry.