First Communion Dresses Getting Too Fancy?
First Communion Dresses Getting Too Fancy?
My christened twinkies are 34 months, 3 weeks, and 3 days old.
This isn’t even that fancy to her. It is plenty fancy to me 🙄 .
My questions are these. Are First Communion dresses getting too glitz and glam for our era, or is it OK to change with the times? Is it acceptable to wish to shine outwardly, without taking anything away from the occasion?
See I am Christian. All I know about communions is that I didn’t get to have one and some of my friends did. However, now that it is only months away for my 7 and 1/2 year old I am learning more about the occasion and what it is all about.
My daughter wishes to shine like a literal angel, meaning the two other dresses in the closet are now no-no’s and will be sold off on eBay soon rather than sit and collect dust on them. The child that she is, her whole personality shines quite honestly. I don’t think she needs any glam dress to make her stand out, but I digress.
She wants a fancy, very poofy dress, and the one she likes best so far I won’t even show yet as to not get any public opinion specifically on the dress itself just yet. Let’s say it’s got poof and lots of rhinestone adornment on the bodice, and then some throughout.
(I’ve had to shoot down many others that are obviously pageant or Quinceanera looking dresses. WAY too much for this. I refuse to be embarrassed by her.)
Just an example of too much.
Not one she actually wants 😀 . This isn’t a pageant!
She is a fashionista admittedly. (She desires to be a fashion designer one day, and is really great at it already.) She has a strong sense of style. So it didn’t really surprise me that she wanted something to make her stand out in the crowd. But at the same time I know there is one thing they mentioned to my husband when he went to the meeting last week. I couldn’t go because no one was around to watch my other kids. (I wish he had tape recorded it.) ”These are little girls, not little brides.” When I told her what they had said about dresses for that day she wasn’t happy about it AT ALL.
They even mentioned something about long sleeves, but that seems impossible. Hub must have missed something there. I have searched about 30K Communion dresses, only maybe 4 or 5 did I come across with long sleeves and 3 out of 4 or 5 of them were ‘Victorian’ style. (Looked like nightgowns or worse.) I mean to each their own, but….
The others looked more like wedding dresses than anything else I had seen, if that is not what they are wanting. I really don’t get what they meant there. Maybe a jacket/ bolero with sleeves for on top? He didn’t question that, but couldn’t fully explain it to me either. It will be May not December.
She doesn’t like this cute one anyway.
Now talk about a little bride. A train??
I know one thing. In the grand scheme of things the heart and soul of a person is more important than any communion dress being draped on their little bodies. I know we will see plain ones that day, I know we will see fancy ones. I just was wondering what public opinion out there is on the subject matter. (I have obviously zero experience with this.)
All girls want to dress up and look like princesses, I get that. But for this day? In all honesty this really didn’t become an issue as I had bought a regular dress on sale for her last year. Let me show a picture of that below. And it was seemingly acceptable until there was a girl getting communion pictures done at the mall that she saw and then, forget about it.
(Sorry bad pic, but nice dress.)
The dress this girl was wearing was INSANE! It looked like it cost $1,000 which we do not have for a dress. (Even if we did, we wouldn’t spent close to that.) The reason I said we have two dresses already is because we were sent the wrong dress at first and ended up never bringing the other one back. We didn’t have time and it was a great sale price, hence 1 became 2.
What’s a mom to do?! I said to my friend about her own daughter since it’s not too late for her, ”Don’t let her pick her own dress. She will make you nuts. Buy one and that’s it!” This is because I had thought it would be nice to go online together, (mom/daughter time), and search for a dress together. I think knowing this child I may have been wrong.
Now she’s in the $200 range (some a tad more) which I was not looking to spend that much for the dress alone. I’ve seen plenty of stunning dresses that retail for $200-$300 being sold for as little as $89-$99 which is perfect, BUT..not the ones she adores most (naturally.) They are way closer to retail.
I know she doesn’t have a plain personality AT ALL, and I know some other girls won’t be plain/plain, but I fear her being larger than life and have turned down a few dresses that just in my opinion were too too much, but am kind of stuck on one that I know I would have adored myself as a kid, but for a communion I’m just not 100% sure. I wish I had been to a few of these events myself recently, and would have seen more little communion girls. Especially from this day and age, but I haven’t.
Thoughts? Is it OK to be fancy on this special day? I mean I certainly wouldn’t want a dress that was a complete distraction, if you will. Also, a friend of hers said she’ll be having her hair and nails done prior. It seems like a wedding honestly, or is this just how things have ‘become’ over the decades?
I think something like this is very pretty, and perfectly fancy enough (and then some) for a special girl on a special day. (<$100, bolero included.) She’s not crazy about it.
Another pretty and fancy one.
Sometimes plain can be prettier because it allows a child’s natural beauty to shine through. She IS beautiful all on her own. I don’t know. I have a stubborn one on my hands here ladies. It was my own fault bringing her into this. I have learned my lesson, but do need some opinions. I know this occasion is about way more than this stinkin’ dress. (At the same time I do remember being a child myself.)
Thanks in advance!