Finding Childcare, For Your Most Prized Possessions! Your Children!
Finding Proper, and Safe Child care, for Your Precious Babies and Toddlers
In thinking about the costs of child care for 1 infant, it’s hard to imagine the costs of all of that, multiplied by 2 or even more. Let’s just say for me, I’d have to make a literal fortune, to make working outside of the home, a worthwhile, and profitable thing to do.
If you are forced into a position to need child care and you do have multiples, here are some things you should be aware of:
1) Hiring a nanny to work with your multiples at home, may very well be cheaper, then day care, and definitely more personal, and far less germy, so it’s a definite popular option for working parents of multiple twinfants.
2) If you can even come up with a nanny sharing situation, between you and another family in need of child care, you’d be splitting the costs in half, and provides maximum flexibility while fulfilling your child care needs at the exact same time.
3) Of course the cheapest and happiest solution for all when faced with a child care situation for any amount of children, would be to have a relative, parent, grandma, or sibling of yours, help take care of the kids, while you work. I see this so frequently when I’m out and about with my own twinkies, and I give mad props to all of the grandmas grandpas, aunts, and sisters out there, offering daily assistance, i see doing this wonderful deed for their loved ones, and it makes me a bit sad I don’t have such a wonderful support system, but so many do, so if you are on the happier side of that equation, if help is offered, or if you can even ask, it will be worth your while.
This option, saves thousands and thousands of dollars, and makes a parent feel extra secure while their children rest in absolutely safe hands, however like in my case, this offer Isn’t always a possibility, but if I could have that and needed it, that’d be #1 on my list. Next would be a nanny even part time. You don’t always need someone looming over when your work day is done, so I’d do part time, if i were working. Personally, I’d rather have a one on one then a classroom setting, but every parent is different.
4) To cut back on costs, consider part-time child care and part-time work, if you can work it out that way of course. This way you still have some income coming into the household, but are only being held responsible for paying for 1/2 time care, though of course your income will be 1/2 as well.
5) Find a way to work at home. If your job is one that has a way that you can work from home and get things accomplished, and maybe you can get a mother’s helper or sitter around for a few hours to get some intense work done, where you really need to concentrate, this would of course be a very convenient, much more inexpensive way to work and be able to have care for your kids, however not all jobs can be worked out in this way, I’m just saying IF it can be done, it would be terrific, so check into it. Most people are intrigued by baby twins, and love to help out, so especially if you are home to, this may seem like a perfect option for your family, again IF it’s doable, via your employer.
If you are going the route of an outside helper/ Nanny or Au-pair, these are Things to look for in a child care provider
1) REFERENCES, REFERENCES, REFERENCES. Did i say references? Oh and check up on at least a few, to make sure they are completely factual, and feel free to ask some questions of your own. A good nanny, sitter, or home care center, will have nothing to hide, and so they will hand over these references without haste and encourage you to call the numbers, and hear about their previous employers. A resume for a nanny, is also nice to have, along with this, and should be offered in most cases.
2) Background check if you are looking to hire one on one help for your child, it’s essential that you run one of these, for peace of mind. No one wants a felon running around with their children, and you just never can tell nowadays, so best to be careful and thorough.
3) Go for someone that is recommended by another family member, or a friend. That would help ease your worries quite a bit, having that close connection with the person, however if that isn’t a possibility, then the next best thing would be, someone recommended by another mother of multiples, from your local multiples support group, the national support group for moms of twins, I think there are chapters in most every state and large regional area, and I’m talking ACTUAL people recommendations. Anyone can write anything online, and it can be completely bogus, meaning a nanny or other care provider, can write things about themselves, looking like it’s coming from other people, as positive recommendations, that don’t even exist, boasting about how wonderful they are.
Companies do it all the time, in promoting their own products or services, via the world wide web, so you don’t want to hear about something as important as childcare from anonymous people, or Dick and Jane, who could very well be working for the operation, from the internet. You want to hear about it from someone you met in real life, who watched Kate and Joe’s triplets 2 years back, and Jessica and Eric’s twin boys. People you are really coming into contact with, with no reason or benefit in lying. Trusting your children to someone else, is an extremely scary thing these days, maybe the scariest thing you can possibly do, so, if you ask me, these people have extremely important shoes to fill, so make sure you yourself, are stepping out on the right foot.
4) Interview any perspective child care provider thoroughly. Ask all of the questions you desire to, and then some. Make sure everything is written out, so you don’t forget anything, and especially if you are alone at the time of the interview, you may want the information on record. You can always use a mini tape recorder to tape the interview, which is not being paranoid in my opinion, it’s being safe and smart. This isn’t a puppy sitter. So while it may sound extreme, if you ended up down the line, hearing something that later gets mixed up, misconstrued, recanted or denied, it could affect the integrity of your provider, and it’s good to have everything on the record. That is how I roll anyhow.
A person who is trust worthy has again, nothing to hide. I watched other people’s children since the young age of 12 years old, and would never have had a problem with that. Looking back though..WOW 12 is a baby. That may even not be legal anymore, but things were different back then, as well. Be sure you cover EVERYTHING!
5) I’m a firm believer in the nanny cam, and honestly would use one if my own mother was watching my kids. I think it’s a tremendously smart investment for any parent using any form of child care including a sitter for only a few hours an evening. It’s not too much money to spend for peace of mind, if you ask me, and there are many systems to choose from, for your specific needs, and your budget. In today’s world it’s just too scary to not be over protective, even if your husband says you are a bit neurotic, oh well, they are your kids to.
6) If it’s a child care center, be sure and check the center’s history, including the teacher’s in the center. Check with the Better Business Bureau (BBB), and the Department of Human Services, where complaints may be filed against them, and registered. Best to be prudent when finding care for your most prized possessions.
If using a center, again ask a lot of questions, including the following:
1) What is your discipline policy? You certainly don’t want to be shocked and appalled if little Sally comes home with a slapped bottom. I don’t believe nowadays children are everallowed to be spanked, in any place on our planet, by child care providers, but in my day, (private school anyway), they used a paddle on our bottoms, but thankfully only my brother got to experience that. 😆 . You just want to know their overall policy for disciplining children. you want to agree with it, and have no surprises. Everyone wants to be on the same page, as far as that is concerned. VERY important!!
2) What is the ratio of teacher to child? I was an aid in a preschool classes, when I was in high school & there were 2 teachers, and me, and another student, as aids, for like 18 children. This number is important to know, to see how personalized the care for your children will be.
3) Are there any multiples or siblings discounts? I know nothing about this, but have a friend who pays full price for both of her kids, without any discount. This seems absurd to me, and there should be some discount for more then one child, in my opinion, at least, so definitely inquire about that when you are checking out child care facilities. She did NOT have twins, so a twin discount, might be something completely different, so always ask, it can only help, not hurt!
4) Are there extended hours, and what are the additional costs involved? Some parents work longer then the day care hours offered at certain centers, and some will have extended hours to suit your needs, while some centers charge a dollar for every full minute a parent is late picking up, so you will want to know their policies on this subject for certain, before you finalize any agreement, and make any payments.
5) What are the snacks and beverages that they serve to the little ones? Make sure it isn’t anything one of your kids might be allergic to, and make sure you agree with that snacks that they offer. I mean, they aren’t going to cater to your child specifically, but if they are serving peanut butter cookies, usually they will have a back up snack for children with certain allergies. Most places will let you bring in a substitute snack if needed.
6) What is their sick kids policy? I know at my daughter’s Nursery School they said if your child feels ill and has any temperature at all, then you keep him or her out of school. Then at that time, I was pregnant with twins, and we also had to worry about the H1N1 Swine Flu, which I did not want to get, andone child did get in her neighboring class. Anytime she didn’t feel physically well, temp or not, to be safe, especially with that flu going around, I kept her home. Not all parents are as considerate, but having a policy by the center or school itself, is a reassurance, as kids do fall sick much more once they are among groups of children, then when they are staying mostly at home. You want them as safe as humanly possible. Sick kids are no fun! 😈
7) No matter what form of childcare you choose for your precious multiples, ALWAYS, go with your GUT & trust your instincts. Mommy instincts are pretty darn keen if I do say so myself, so if you feel even the slightest shadow of a doubt, BOOM, eliminate the current option.
I remember paying $800 for my daughter to start preschool, at newly 3 years old, and it was simply for socializing issues, trying to help her prepare for being away from me, as she had major separation issues, she was always certainly bright enough, she could have skipped straight to 2nd grade, in that respect, but she needed to learn to make other friends aside from ‘mom’, and I remember everything seemed good at the open house, but when the first day came, and me and my husband were bringing her up to the door, me with my video camera in hand, filming away, the teacher led my daughter quickly into the room, basically slamming the door in my face, or so it seemed.
Maybe it wasn’t a real slam, but she had a puss on her face, like not a smile if you know what i mean, just shut the door, and pulled the blinds down, so I couldn’t tape any further, and I was like WOAH WOAH here, and Istill have that on my camera. To this day, it just didn’t look right, evem if it truly was nothing. I got a bad feeling, and had an awful day waiting for her to return home, and she wasn’t happy, nor was I, and that was the end of it.
It was a highly recommended place, and they swore to me, she cried for a minute then got back to her seat & was just fine, but Mikayla told me she cried the whole time, and THAT I believed. I just wasn’t trusting her in any one’s hands I even had to THINK to wonder about. She didn’t need it, Preschool is not necessity, so I lost the money, but I didn’t care. My peace of mind, was worth far more.
Whelp, that’s all the time I have for today, I hope this article is of some help to mommies who have their hands full, but need to find a way to juggle work along with mommy-hood, and find the right child care option, to suit their families particular needs.
See you next time!
Newly 3 years Old, Headed Off To Her 1st & Last, Day Of Pre-school. (Bad Mommy Vibes)