Holiday Poems For Those Who’ve Lost A Child
The holidays are one of those times that parents who have loved and lost feel bittersweet. You imagine your child sitting by the tree unwrapping gifts, sipping egg nog at the table, playing with their brothers and sisters, singing Christmas carols. You find yourself appreciating what you have yet still grieving for what you have lost. I have been feeling the same way, hence why I am writing this post.
These poems were written by me in the last couple of days. I find writing to be a great outlet for feelings and encourage others to do so as well. They don’t have to be works of art, just feelings from your heart. It helps. Maybe some of my words will touch you in some way. I hope the good Lord helps mend your hearts this special time of the year and the whole year through.
Merry Christmas From Heaven
Merry Christmas from heaven,
The happiest time of the year.
I know you are thinking about me,
But please partake in the cheer.
I’m the star that sits on your tree top,
Shining brightly and proud,
The barely heard whisper in your ear,
When you think nobody’s around.
When you sing your favorite carols,
I’m the chorus in every song.
When you gaze upon my picture,
I’m in the eyes that make you feel warm.
I know every day you are hurting,
Sometimes you sneak off and you cry.
I see those tears here in heaven,
And I’m the tissue that helps dry your eyes.
It’s Christmas, please don’t pine for me,
Heaven is a beautiful place.
There’s no sorrow, no pain and no nightmares,
The best dreams are lived while awake.
I know you are missing me greatly,
But a part of me never let go,
I’m the smile on my sibling’s faces,
I’m the angels they make in the snow.
Please don’t blame God for my passing,
Please do not ever blame yourself.
God had this in his plans for me,
Though you wish he chose somebody else.
Death couldn’t ever come between us,
Your faith, please don’t let it break,
I’m standing right here by your shoulder,
In every breath that you take.
So gather around the tree mommy,
Let loved ones bring holiday joy.
For I will celebrate with you,
I’ll forever be your little boy.
How to Smile Again at Christmastime
How do you smile at Christmas when your world is gone?
How do you learn to laugh through all the tears?
When the bearer of every hope and dream you’ve ever had,
Is ripped away from you, it’s every parent’s greatest fear.
How do you learn to put one foot in front and carry on?
How do you glue together the pieces of your heart?
When everything you’d live and die for had to leave this world,
And you were left behind feeling like you’ve fell apart.
It seems impossible to learn how to laugh again,
It seems impossible to find peace from within.
When the trenches are so deep you’re tripping everywhere,
There’s a hand to hold to pull you to safety again.
Over time you’ll find a way to reclaim your life,
Though I won’t lie it will never be the same,
You will appreciate what you do have, but miss the one(s) you’ve lost,
And eventually, you’ll see the sun peak through the rain.
How do you smile at Christmastime without your child?
How do you celebrate while you still hurt so bad?
You learn to keep the memory of that child alive,
You embrace the good times and be thankful for what you had.
And you have to know that death is not an ending,
There’s a guardian angel behind every loss you’ve ever had.
Pray to God for peace, and you will surely feel it come,
It works for me most every day I’m feeling sad.
I smile and I remember there’s an angel near,
One I’ll get to hold in my arms again, one sweet day.
And then all of the pain will leave me forevermore,
And I’ll never have to let him go again.
My Christmas Angel In The Sky
Today is Christmas Eve, oh what a lovely day,
The gifts are neatly wrapped, the tree trimmed all the way.
The food is on the plate, the Christmas music hums,
But there’s an empty chair, where there should not be one.
Today should be your day, eyes shining bright with glee,
The day for hopes and dreams, and gifts under the tree.
You’d unwrap in a rush, as excited children do,
And smile with jubilee from what Santa brought for you.
But this year you’re not here, it’s not such a lovely day,
The gifts are here it’s true, but not one that bears your name.
The Christmas in my mind, is just a fantasy,
I’ll never get the gift back, the Lord once gave to me.
My greatest gift of all, I was forced to let it go,
There’s a hand not here to hold, 2 less footprints in the snow.
Tomorrow on Christmas morn, I will look up to the skies,
And tell you, ”Merry Christmas, and I love you, child of mine.”
The world may not be home, to my baby, anymore,
But I know he still can hear me, as he stands at heaven’s door.
The brightest Christmas angel, the world has ever known,
Illuminates the heavens, such a light I see from home.
You’re in every moonlit evening, and in every mid-day sun,
And I know this day and always, to my heart is where you come.
Today I’ll crack a smile and laugh, when no one else knows why,
Because I can feel your presence, my sweet angel in the sky.
(We wait for Santa, track him and open gifts on x-mas eve here, to clarify.)
**All poems copyright by Shelly @ Twinpossible 2016. All rights reserved.**
I hope despite your loss or losses, that you can look up to the heavens and smile this Christmas, knowing you have someone watching you and protecting you each and every day. Someone who will remain in your heart until the day that you die, and then you will see your beautiful angel once again. There will be no more good-byes.
Happy holidays to all!
(Our angels included.)
Win Free Passes To A Special, Advanced Screening Of Mickey And The Roadster Racers + Fun Giveaway Items Too
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Tips on Making Home Decorating A Family Affair & On A Tight Budget Too
Decorating a house is a huge undertaking, and your children’s rooms are no exception. Getting together a critical mass of decorations can seem a daunting and expensive task to the unprepared, but there is no need to fear. As this list of budget room decorating strategies shows, there are plenty of ways to make sure your rooms look great without breaking the bank.
If you really want to save some money on decorations for the room, you’ll find that few things are cheaper than the pieces you make yourself. If you have any inclination toward any branch of the arts and crafts, this is the perfect opportunity to shine. You can either make something you are familiar with and are already proficient at making, or you can find a new project online and try to stretch your skills. DIY decorations are the perfect way to make sure your home truly expresses your desires, interests, and talents by making your home space into your own.
Involving the Kids
Once your kids get a little older, you can revisit the DIY strategy with the help of your kids. Involving your children in the process of decorating their own rooms is a great way to teach them a lot of important life lessons. For instance, you can begin to teach older children about money management by giving them coupons for Pier One and a small amount of money and asking them to pick out an item for their room. Or, if their class is doing an arts and crafts project, you can help them hang the resulting item up in their room, letting them contribute directly to the decorating scheme. Along the same lines, you can encourage them to do simple crafts projects of their own at home.
If you have multiple kids or are planning to have more in the future, you can save some money by sharing decorations between kids. Hand-me-downs are the items that your older kids use until they outgrow. Then they can pass the items to their younger siblings; it’s essentially a traditional form of recycling. When you use coupons to Pottery Barn to grab some pottery, for instance, you can keep the items you’ve purchased between generations. Families can even share hand me downs between their extended relatives; this is a way to not only acquire decorations but to establish closer family ties as well.
When you have to buy new items, try to find some coupons to reduce the cost. The Internet makes finding such things a breeze; organizations like Coupons for Good, will often carry coupons for Pottery Barn and other common outlets for decorative items. With the right coupons, even the higher end items can become affordable, and low-cost items become trivial to purchase. Be sure to check your coupon outlets and stores throughout the year to find the best deals, as they often change over time.
Your children’s rooms are the backdrop for their precious childhood memories. With the right set dressing, you can make sure those memories are the best they can possibly be.
PNP Brings The Excitement Of Santa Claus Home Again This Year With A Free Message, The New Magic Pass & More
- It’s that time of year again. The trees are trimmed, the yard is lit, gifts are being bought and wrapped, and Santa is at the North Pole busier than ever. But he does make a wee bit of time out to send a very special, personalized message to each little boy or girl whose loved one requests one. How he finds the time this busy mama would sure like to know, but that is why he is Santa Claus.
Videos & yearly phone calls from Santa via the Portable North Pole at Portablenorthpole.com, for us, has been a tradition for the past 5 years now. My children very much look forward to hearing the video message made just for them. Their little eyes get wide with glee, their faces filled with anticipation as they await what Santa has to say about the past year, and finally they learn if they are on the naughty or the nice list. (Or in between on the ALMOST nice list.) It’s something we will continue to do in our home for many more years to come. It’s in a word – magical!
The kids will be getting their 2016 videos this week after we visit Santa at the mall. Until then, I need to put up pictures from last year.
(We have been under the weather.)
Santa has incredible, free video messages to send directly to your inbox or the inbox of someone you care for, so the child or children in your home or theirs can get a very special yuletide treat from the big guy himself. It definitely enhances or reignites a child’s belief in Santa, as I have one child who is 11 and really wonders sometimes, and these videos really keep her believing. For my little 6 year olds this just enhances their holiday experience. There is even a 100% money back guarantee for 10 days, but trust me, you won’t use it, but it’s there!
The options available for 2016 are:
1) The free message with limited personalization. It still is amazing. It has one storyline to choose from for the kids (and one for us adults too.) It’s absolutely mesmerizing to any child and is a fun experience. We enjoy going above & beyond with the premium messages., especially not being 1st timers, but they are definitely EXTRA magical and can be enhanced with up to 5 photos and more details for further enchantment.
2) Premium messages go above and beyond. There are numerous ones to choose from, and you can unlock ALL of the premium videos for only $8.99! They are longer in length (5- 6 minutes) with even more personalization, AND you can add multiple photos of your child or children & more personalization in words too. The premium messages also have different storylines to choose from rather than the free version, which only has one. Definitely a must for PNP’s yearly members. There’s a birthday message you can create too and a Christmas Eve message from Santa as well. There is also a Reaction Recorder for mobile app use only.
6) The Magic Pass ($12.99 and a discount of 20% off for my readers right now. Sign up at PNP & redeem your 20% off right HERE NOW. Have multiple children in your home or grandchildren who would like videos and phone calls from Santa? This includes UNLIMITED premium videos AND brand new story messages, PLUS unlimited direct phone calls from Santa Claus with many, MANY options to choose from to make each one unique. Kids just love that! The videos are in HD for the most magical viewing experience possible. This pass also includes high definition downloads and weekly stories from Santa during the month of December. Plus, the Reaction Recorder, using the mobile app only!
(These special passes are valid until the end of September of next year *2017*.)
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Merry Christmas & a Happy New Year in 2017!
**Disclosure: I received a free magic pass in order to conduct my review. This in no way alters the opinions and statements made inside of my review. All words written are 100% honest and my own.**
Holiday 10% Off Squeem Sale Before New Year Price Increase!
Just so you know folks, Squeem prices will be going up a bit come the New Year. The base price has already rose on my end, and I’ve been eating it thus far, but I’m below the minimum price to sell these garments for, so I am going to have to increase them a few dollars, shortly. I am having a sale for this time period ONLY before the raise and just in time for the holidays.
December 12 – December 31st pay the current low price with an extra 10% off using the code below. xmas. I’m not making much of anything doing this..but I love seeing happy people and happy bellies. Plus, I love the holidays. FA LA LA LA LA!!! (USABLE ONLY AT TWINPOSSIBE’S CLOSET!) (Click on the red & gold words & it will take you there.)
Squeem would make a terrific gift for that special someone you love, so don’t miss out on this last chance offer. The discount code again is: xmas. Thanks so much for following Twinpossible and making the holidays brighter and tighter. I look forward to hearing many more Squeem success stories from happy customers in 2017!
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(Most online sellers are NOT!) DO NOT get scammed! Call Squeem for yourself, if you wish to verify!!
Oh..remember, I’ll still be offering the most competitive prices, and authenticity from Twinpossible on all Squeem garments is always 150% guaranteed! All of your questions get answered, orders are sent direct from Squeem to me and shipped same day to you via fast, Priority mail, so they are HOT OFF THE PRESSES, not old stock lying around in a basement or something like other sellers. NOBODY ELSE takes the loss & does it this way. This costs me more, but not you! And customers are always welcome back to talk about their experiences. This doesn’t happen any place else! I LOVE helping people & hearing their success like my own!
I stand behind the Squeem name & recommend it for anybody battling a mummy tummy, are worried about their postpartum figures, are thick-waisted looking for a permanent hourglass shape, those looking to comfortably recover from a c-section, or both men and women fighting with diastasis recti, like I was once myself. Oh, and check out the new Diva-Fit line for those on a tighter budget. LOTS of products to choose fro. I used the Perfect Waist. (I get asked that A LOT.) Tried the vest too. Love them both!!
Thanks Squeem for what you’ve done for me.
(Picture from 20 months postpartum w/ twins 11-2-2011. 35 years young.)
HAPPPY HOLIDAYS, MY DEAR FRIENDS!
Holiday Gift Guide For The Big Kids: Moms, Dads – Women, Men 2016
Looking for that special gift for someone that you love who doesn’t make messes using finger paint? Let’s explore some ideas for practical, holiday, gift giving.
For the gals
1. We ladies like to stay cozy. How about a beautiful cashmere sweater to brighten and warm up the holidays?
2. A beautiful hat and scarf set to keep your love warm and toasty. (You can spring for the gloves to, if you wish.)
Hat & scarf sets
3. Women do love jewelry, like these stunning, diamond, Journey pendant necklaces. In fact I have been asking for one for years now. (Hint, hint.) But seriously they make an amazing gift and are priced from affordable to luxurious. Check them out.
Jewelry from the heart.
4. But it’s not only the sparkle we like, if the budget doesn’t allow. A beautiful jewelry box hits the spot. They can be simple or very fancy. Some are like a small piece of furniture in a room. A very pretty selection can be found below at rock bottom prices.
If you are married you can go with some practical gifts that you may know she needs/ wants/ asks for.
5. Kitchen appliances and stuff of this nature do make very practical gifts, but not very romantic ones. Make sure to throw something romantic in along with the practical ‘regular’ gift, to save face.
6. Want to freshen up her world? Most women don’t go through a day without a splash of something sweet and sensual on their wrists and neck. Yes, I am talking about perfume. You fellows like it to. Buy her her favorite brand. I know I wouldn’t mind some Ed Hardy for Christmas. (Hint, hint again 😆 .)
If you aren’t married, look on the shelf when you are in the bathroom for clues. I know I don’t mind trying something new, just research favorite perfumes online for some hints and reviews. You can also ask her in an unsuspecting manner, if you’re good. *WINK*.
7. Women adore handbags. Some of us are downright obsessed with them. Do you know your honey’s style, type, and favorite brands? Well, a nice pocketbook under the tree always lifts my holiday spirit, and will surely grab you a kiss under the mistletoe.
8. When you need to find a gift and just are clueless, nothing is a smarter buy then a gift card. You can add it to her stocking or put it inside of her greeting card.
I always enjoy getting one of these to my favorite store among my other gifts, though if you make it enough you can use it as the entire gift if your honey hasn’t given you any holiday hints. Try to see what stores she likes to frequent in, and buy the card there. Some great and common suggestions are:
9. Don’t forget about mom’s tired feet. Help her spruce them up with a gift card to her favorite salon for a pedicure including a foot massage. Hair, mani/pedi combo, maybe a facial. Give her a 1/2 day or full day at the salon and boy will she ever be grateful. Just do what you can.
10. A massage would be extremely appreciated from where I’m sitting. Our muscles are throbbing picking up babies, and running around doing errands and house chores. Women who work need some relief as well. Buy according to your budget. Mom will be thankful, believe me
11. Nothing more comfy for her than a pair of Ugg boots, or what I like to call ‘mommy essentials.’
UGG Women’s Classic Short Boot
(Many styles available.)
Gifts for the guy in your life
What about the men? They work hard and deserve a nice gift or two under the tree, themselves. Need ideas for some great gifts? Look no further.
1. Most men carry a cell phone and use it for Internet access, and are looking for features that go above and beyond the functions of a normal cell phone. Smartphones are the new wave of the cellular decade. Upgrade his old phone to something a little spiffier. He’s sure to be thankful.
2. If he has one already, or if you are buying one for him, don’t forget the accessories. Cell phones cases, silicone covers, ear buds, car mounts, portable chargers, and more are a must.
Cell phone Accessories
3. Got a professional, ‘white collar’ man at home? How about a personalized name plate for his desk. Or a personalized business card holder, a pen set, and other little things that show your business man that you care while he’s away at work.
Personal touch business supplies
4. Got a gamer in your life? How about a new video game console, new games to explore, and maybe even a gaming chair for the big guy who’s still a kid at heart?
Video game consoles
5. Got a dad who enjoys picture taking? I see them out there, so I know they exist, just not in my home. I am the camera mom, but for camera dads, how about a new camera for under the tree this year? It definitely beats another striped tie.
6. Got a golfer at home? Help him hit a hole in one with a new club or a set of new golf clubs. He’ll surely show his appreciation.
7. Most men enjoy their beer. Why not get him a nice set of beer mugs to drink his favorite brew from? They aren’t very expensive and will certainly get some use out of them.
You can go personal with personalization to, if you wish. Click the link!
Beer mugs / sets
8. Like a nice smelling man? Um..the sweet smell of Escape still gets me every time. How about a special cologne that is as unique as he is?
9. And when you are as clueless as clueless can be, and your man isn’t dropping any hints..AGAIN, a gift card is a never fail. Some stores for ‘him’ are:
just to name a few.
10. One gift that has never failed me, is wrapping myself up in some pretty lingerie for my man. Trust me, regardless of how you may feel, new moms in particular, your man finds you sexy.
Great sex is the gift that will keep on giving, by promoting a happier marriage, and releasing the tension in your day to day life. (And his.) Dress up. He’ll LOVE it.
The top gift of the 2016 holiday season for both guys & gals….
Fitbit Charge HR Wireless Activity Wristband, Black
& other new models! These have been selling like hot cakes all year, but make an especially practical holiday gift for anybody you love!
New model iPads
I hope you enjoyed my gift list for the ‘big kids’ in all of us. Happy shopping, happy holidays, and enjoy putting a smile on the face of that special someone this Christmas morn.
Your friend 😛 ,
Ways To Lose Weight, Feel Great & Prosper In The New Year
Losing weight is a difficult task for anybody. And as well I know, with a stressful lifestyle and advancing age, it only makes the weight loss journey all the more difficult to succeed in. However, it is certainly far from impossible.
I have found it very helpful, personally, to substitute AT LEAST one meal per day, although you can do more as they are highly nutritional, with meal replacement shakes that are low in fat calories but are packed with essential nutrients your body needs to keep up a healthy, speedy metabolism and burn unwanted fat away fast. These shakes make you feel full and satisfied.
These filling shakes you can choose to use for the short-term, over the course of days to a couple of weeks to lose a lot of weight quickly, while others you can substitute with daily, but less frequently, to lose weight more slowly over time. It’s a great way to prepare your body for the summer months where shorts and swimsuits are a must!
There are also some terrific and natural weight loss supplements to help get you on your way to a healthier, sexier, leaner you. There are extremely popular products on the market that fight to target unwanted fat and abolish it! They help to suppress the appetite and make you feel fuller, and rev up the metabolism to help speed up fat burn, giving you the desired results you are yearning for.
Of course, nowadays, people go ga-ga over natural remedies for nearly anything and everything, so these are some great ways to go natural while getting results. After the holidays are over, who among us doesn’t need some help? You are not alone in this, so know there are some great options to create a happier, healthier you for 2017 and beyond!
And if you are strapped for cash, like many of us moms and dads are, especially after the holidays, but for a lot of people just in general, as the cost of living goes up but not the paychecks, and as jobs are getting cut left and right, there are ways that you can make money online like I do and have more valuable time with your loved ones and far less stress in your life (in my opinion.) I feel like eventually, many or more jobs will be replaced by the wonderful, world wide web. So why shouldn’t you cash in on it like so many others have or will?
Worrying about unemployment can be really scary too. My husband is a prime example of this, hence why I started working online myself, and there are way more things you can do on the Internet than you might be aware of. Check out these online business ideas and get ahead of the game, as this is surely the wave of the future, and the future is NOW! Get a leg up on it!
Be sure to think about yourself- body, mind & soul and your family and their futures, by making this the coming year the ‘year of change’, self-happiness & overall prosperity!
Happy Holidays, my friends!
Coupons For Good: 4 Ways To Feel Terrific About Yourself Today
Mothers are some of the hardest workers, especially these days, where they are often expected to juggle employment with family duties. Although these things are often extremely rewarding personally, they are also very taxing. Every mother deserves a chance to take a little time out for herself. Here are some great ways to take a break during your day and celebrate you.
Take a Fitness Class
Exercise is not always the first choice of people looking to have a good time. But at the same time, exercise can be fun if you do it right. The key is to find out the kind of fitness activities you enjoy — whether cardio or weight training, aerobics, or sports — and focus your workout around that. Keeping motivated can be a problem, especially if you are just starting out or returning to the gym after a long absence. Things like local gym classes are a great way to make sure that others who also have fitness goals are there to encourage you.
Have a Chocolatey Treat
After you’ve burned off some calories and gotten into the zone, why not ruin it with a quick snack? Chocolate is a scientifically proven way to lift your mood and make your day a little brighter. There is a lot of chemistry behind how and why that happens, but honestly, the taste of a sweet after a long day is justification enough. Of course, joking aside, you should pick a portion that is appropriate to your diet and activity level, and avoid eating more than you need to feel full. Excess eating is not only unhealthy, but it’s also a prime way to feel yucky.
Get Some Makeup
Another great way to make yourself feel amazing is to put your best face on. The proper makeup can make you feel like a million bucks regardless of whatever else is going on in your life. Although sometimes makeup can end up being pretty pricey, somebody who knows the right places to go looking for good discounts, like these sites with Sephora coupons, can help ease the pain. Sometimes, companies like Coupons for Good even offer coupons for Sephora that also contribute to charity because looking your best can help make the world a better place at the same time.
Dress for Fun
Of course, if you are all made up, you need a stunning outfit to go along with it. You can start with some daring lingerie from Victoria’s Secret, with these coupons. Nothing makes you feel confident quite like knowing you are keeping an elegant secret of your own. Again, Coupons for Good often carries coupons for Victoria’s Secret, so if you are looking to improve the world while dressing up, look no further. With a new piece of lingerie, you can give your significant other a pleasant surprise, or just keep it to yourself.
Though these items may seem like small things, it is often the small things that we appreciate most of all. If you spend the time you have for yourself on these kinds of things, you’ll be happier and more productive for it.
Fall & Winter Weight Gain And How To Shed Those Pesky Pounds
The chilly willy twins are 6 years, 8 months, 3 weeks & 4 days old.
We all know about it. We’re in the thick of it right now. It’s that pesky, annual fall & winter weight gain. Most women know about this phenomenon all too well, and it can be very stressful.
If your exceedingly blessed maybe you stay the same weight year round, but for the majority of average over 30 (most especially women), we have a hard time keeping our weights stable throughout the year and usually ‘bulk up’ a bit during the cooler months.
We like to blame the holidays, and yes.. that is true in part if you indulge in the feasts with the trimmings you shall pay a price for it. However, there is more to it than that. (Though it is a nice scapegoat.)
Why are we gaining extra weight?
1. We are less active when the temperatures go down.
That is just a fact.
A) We race to our cars to find heat and travel to stores rather than going for long walks in the park. We drive to places we might have usually walked to.
There’s little to no strolling our babies around the neighborhood, and dog walks are far shorter.
B) Playing outside and playing inside are definitely two very different things.
Outside all is care=free and open. Inside care is taken, and space is limited. You don’t run and play with your kids, or chase after them. You more like hoover around, referee, and pick up after them. It doesn’t have the same effect on your body.
C) The couch gets far more of a workout during the winter months.
If you ‘clocked in’ year round using a punch card you would see that it’s true. You watch more TV, and plain and simple lounge around far more on the ‘ol couch during the colder months of the year. Summer gives most people the energy to get off of the couch and go-go-go!
D) School’s in session.
When the kids are in school and you are alone. (Or more alone or close).. it is easy to find yourself catching up on soaps, or in my case..watching some Max & Ruby, and just plain not getting out as much. The best time for our weight is in the summer time when days are long, kids roam free, and we are the busiest with our energetic children.
We may run around in the minivan shuttling children to and from different places and events while school is in session, but our cars are doing the leg work. We need more gas in more ways than one.
2. People generally eat more in the winter. This of course promotes weight gain because…
A) We are burning far fewer calories.
B) We hang around the refrigerator more.
When people get bored they tend to eat more even if they aren’t really that hungry. I noticed this yesterday while hanging around the house. Being less busy and around food constantly promotes over-eating which =’s added weight gain.
C) The holiday calories from November & December add up.
We can’t blame everything on the holidays (though we’d like to starting from Halloween candy onwards). It is true that the average person does gain some spare pounds during this particular time of year. That is why New Year’s resolutions almost always include losing weight, getting into shape again, or a combination of both. Losing the extra pounds is very hard to do before Spring rolls around, and seemingly impossible for many.
3. We lose motivation during the winter.
It’s easy to feel bored and more lazy during the cooler months. Some people even suffer from ‘winter depression.’ I know I am always far happier in the warm sunshine myself. It affects our moods, and our moods and motivation go hand in hand. ”Oh, I’m not feeling up to it today. Maybe I’ll go hit the gym up tomorrow. Maybe on Monday. Maybe next Thursday.” (You know the drill.)
4. There’s less daylight.
The less hours of daylight per day the fewer hours of activity we’ll have. We get tired earlier, and fight harder for mojo to keep on going for the entire day, much less anything beyond that. With more daylight and warm sunshine we actually feel some renewed energy, less fatigue in the early evening hours, and can physically enjoy more hours of daylight. Maybe a night time walk with the dog, or an evening jog. You can stay out longer, and this burns more calories, naturally.
5. Alas, it’s true. Every winter we are getting older.
Man, I hate to think about this one, but unfortunately the clock doesn’t roll back it only moves forward. It’s a fact that as we age it gets harder and harder to manage our weight, and most people (normal ones anyway) start seeing a slow down in their metabolisms. If losing weight used to be easy you may begin to notice after 30, then 35, and after 40 even more so, it gets harder to shed weight and takes more work on your part to do so, but is not an impossibility. You just need to fight the good fight.
6. You may sleep less.
This may not apply to everybody, but I know that for me it rings true. During the months that school is in session I do get less sleep. I get up earlier to get something done for myself before needing to prepare everybody for the start of another school day. It has been proven that less sleep =’s an increase in weight gain.
How do we combat Fall AND winter Weight Gain?
Well, we can’t control the weather unless we move to a different climate, which here in New York is sounding mighty good to me right now.
1. Put your time without the kids to good use and start exercising more.
If you are childless during the day instead of vegging out in front of the TV, go and join a gym. Go take a class, read a magazine while braving an elliptical, grab a couple of weights. Sometimes it takes a push out of the front door to motivate yourself into exercise. If you have little children not yet in school, many gyms have a day care area where babysitting is offered if you don’t have a trusted friend or family member to help you out.
If you do find the motivation to brush the dust off of the treadmill at home, or pop in a good fitness DVD…GO FOR IT! It’s harder but not impossible to find time and energy to exercise in house as well. Make exercise a habit. Daily if possible. Even for just 15 minutes if you can! 21 days to create a habit is all that it takes folks.
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2. Do more with the kids than carpooling and family movie nights.
While out of school I always say..”A family that plays together, stays together.” I do enjoy being a big kid and playing with my children. I’m not much of a sideline sitter, though I do once in awhile envy those who do get to read a book from cover to cover. It’s not just a great thing for your body, but it’s also great way to strengthen the bond with your children as well.
I’m certainly not saying never catch a break when your child is say on a playdate or something. (We all need a breather.) But when there is an opportunity to reunite with your inner child, I say DO IT! Your body will reap its rewards, and you’ll honestly enjoy yourself. Visit an indoor amusement park vs. seeing another movie with popcorn, soda, and candy. Go rollerskating as a family. Even bowling burns some calories and can make for a fun family day out. A moving body is a losing body!
3. Put a mental lock on the fridge.
You may be indoors more, but it doesn’t mean you have to reach for a snack at every turn. (Hard I know. I’m realizing this now for myself.) Frequent snacking and less activity just don’t make for a pretty combination. Keep your mind as occupied as possible so that frequent eating is not on your to-do list. If you think before you eat..you can control yourself. ”Am I really hungry, or just bored?” ”Do I really need that bag of potato chips?” And, ”If I am truly hungry for a snack, can I reach for a bowl of fruit instead of a bowl of chips?”
4. Watch what you put inside of your fridge.
You should be junk food conscious year round, but in the Winter months you want to be less lenient on junk food because it is so tempting, and it sits around you teasing you more hours during your day, as you are already in a less active state. Cut out some carbs, though not all of them as you do need some for energy.
Eat more lean meats, less fried foods, drink lots of water, and select light juices over soda. Go and trade in your whole milk for some 2%, etc. This means when you do eat, there will be far better food and beverage choices surrounding you. We all know you can’t eat what you ain’t got!
5. Fight harder to keep resolutions and not just get, but stay motivated.
Most people make resolutions then break them a couple of months in, if not a couple of weeks in, IF they are kept at all. Sadly, I know. I am one who is guilty of this myself. Aren’t we all? That is why gyms fill up in January and then thin out come March. Don’t let that happen to you! Fight to keep your fitness goals. If this means putting an old picture of yourself up on the fridge, or someone you aspire and admire to look like, then so be it.
Inspiration is hard to come by. Make those resolutions stick. Motivate yourself and don’t let anybody bring you down. That determination will get you through anything. YOU GOT THIS!
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6. No snacking after 8 pm.
It’s OK to have an evening snack, but eating within an hour of bedtime most especially, even two really, is not the best idea. My husband enjoys taking snacks with him into our bed to watch TV. I refuse his attempts to hand me something 99.9% of the time because I see what it has done to him, and I know from past experience what it has and can do to me.
We burn far less calories in our sleep obviously, and the food that we eat and then lay down after eating with, is not being burned much at all, therefore it turns to fat. It is very easy to gain weight with nighttime snacking. Snack smart..snack early. You will see that it helps a lot if you have been guilty of doing this.
7. Get more shut eye.
People who get ample amounts of sleep weigh less than if they sleep less. There have been many studies conducted on this, and in part, being awake for longer hours tends to make you eat more. But there are other reasons. You can read about them here. I know it’s easier said than done, (especially if you are a new mom), but do your best to nap and catch up on your zzz’s whenever you can.
8. Improve your mood and your confidence level.
Like I said before it’s natural to feel more down, less energetic, and even less confident in your own skin during the cooler months. I know my confidence levels take a severe nose dive when the temperatures do. Remember how you feel is what you become. If you feel like a failure..you become one. You aren’t one..this I assure you, but it’s easy to quit and go back to your old ways when you do not believe in yourself. Nobody else can do this for you. It comes from within.
Don’t let others bring you down. Don’t let yourself bring you down. Encourage yourself every single day. And don’t expect too much of yourself. For every pound lost pat yourself on the back. People who expect too much too soon often find themselves disappointed and depressed.
You are a winner! You are beautiful both inside and out. You can do ANYTHING you set your mind to. Believe in anything less and it is simply a tragedy.
Good luck my friends! I am right there with you.
My little gobble gobbles are 6 years, 8 months, 2 weeks & 4 days old!
Happy Thanksgiving friends!