Pregnant With Twins? Some Ways To Guess & Some Ways To Know!
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When a woman discovers she is pregnant, a million questions run through her mind. ‘Will my baby be healthy?’ ‘Will my baby look like me, or his/her daddy? Will my baby be a boy or a girl? And then yes, it often happens to cross by the minds of many newly pregnant women, ‘I wonder if I’m having twins?’
Maybe you got an early positive on your pregnancy test, and wondering if that might mean something more, or perhaps you are extra tired, and nauseous feeling. Maybe you have multiples on your side of the family, and can’t help but wonder. Maybe you are showing really early.
Here are some things women ponder about, and frequently ask women who have twins, or are pregnant with twins, very frequently, about the subject, plus some real medical information, mixed in with my own, deep personal experience.
#1) Are higher HCG levels present, in twin pregnancy vs. a singleton conception, and do the HCG #’s rise faster then usual?
The answer? Yes and no. Meaning sometimes yes, and sometimes no, meaning it is unfortunately NOT a reliable way to predict the amount of conceptions you have, but it certainly may raise your eyebrows a bit.
Not all women are tested for HCG levels during pregnancy, so many won’t even know their ‘Beta’ numbers, but for those, mostly, whom have dealt with infertility issues, you know clearly, what I am referring to here.
In my own experience, I did not have any blood tests for pregnancy, using the ‘Qualitative’ version, which means, how much HCG is in your system, instead of are you pregnant, YES or NO, which is a more simple result, often referred to as as a ‘Quantitative’ test’, in any pregnancies aside from my daughter and the twins, so I only have 2 pregnancies to be able to refer to here, however, the amount of HCG does relate to positive pregnancy tests, a woman uses at home, so I do have some interesting information there, for those who only home test, but let’s not get ahead of ourselves here.
While more twin moms see higher numbers, then singleton mothers, then don’t, they still all, most often, fall into the range of normal for a singleton, which there is quite a variation, if you check out the data, so ‘Normal’ is very broad, hence loosening the ability to call this a direct tell tale sign, but a possibility.
Now my daughter, happen to start as a twin, but the twin did not make it, I never even saw any heartbeat or fetal pole at all, so it’s very hard to know, for me, what a singleton # would be for me, though likely each and every pregnancy is different, BUT my successful twin conception numbers did happen to start out even higher, and continually rise at a quicker rate, then even the vanished twin pregnancy, making me wonder a little, if it can be some indicator. I guess the world may never know, but again, it is fun to play the guessing game, until the ultrasound confirmation.
Take heart, if your numbers are high and nearly doubling, or doubling and more, like I had, in any pregnancy. It is a nice sign of a good sticky bean at least, so regardless of the number, you shouldn’t be worried about things moving along too well, just as long as the numbers are going up, up, and away!!
#2) Do pregnancy tests show up quicker & darker, when you are pregnant with more the one baby?
Again, some twin moms would swear, absolutely YES, but you will also find those on the other side of the coin. For me, luckily I have a lot of pregnancy testing under my belt, and can say in absolute certainty for ME, and I clarify again, for me, the answer is YES!
With my 1st two conceptions, I did not get a positive pregnancy until after my period was due, and they were singletons. I had one chemical pregnancy, which yields a positive, then seemingly quick negative result, resulting in your period coming slightly late.
Then I had a loss of a singleton pregnancy via miscarriage, that started with good beta numbers, not high, but not indicative of any problems, and got a positive pregnancy test at 13 days past ovulation, and it was faint, that is also the day my period happened to be due, so I had never gotten an ‘Early’ positive before.
With Mikayla, I got a faint positive on 11 days past ovulation, one of those Internet cheapies, so who knows what a decent test would have shown, before I hit the Doctor’s office. Maybe an earlier positive then that, but case in point, it still was early.
11 DPO (Days past ovulation), was a couple days before my period was to come, hence it was an earlier result. Remember I never had an earlier BFP (Big Fat Positive), and there was an unviable twin pregnancy, included here, which would make one wonder.
With my twin girls, my Beta level started at 83 points higher then Mikayla, and though my progesterone was slightly lower, my HCG levels started higher, and increased at an even quicker rate, then they had with Mikayla & the vanished twin, whom also was higher then a usual singleton conception, if there is such a thing, as ‘higher’, though some would say above, the middle, to upper range, of normal, can raise flags.
People did joke with me, that it sounded like I had more then 1 bun in the oven, based on these numbers, and I laughed it off, about 2,000 times, literally, but they were certainly CORRECT, as you can see by the name of my site here 😆 . I got my earliest positive EVER, at only 9 dpo, which was faint, but clearly visible, and also earlier then my unsuccessful twin conception.
It grew darker each day, and were markedly darker then my singleton friends, as they also continued to test in the days even a week or more, past the original positive pregnancy test date. Hey, when you want it for a long time, you keep wanting to watch that line like the Grucci fireworks display. It gets addictive and exciting.
So with this information, in my personal experience, I would say YES, that an earlier positive result and darker results for whatever day it is post ovulation, may yield a clue, and also indicate higher beta levels as well, just in case you aren’t being monitored, you can tell your numbers are rising decently, for a short while, but then you may concern or make yourself nuts, so a few days in, it’s a good thing to STOP TESTING!
If the test gets slightly fainter which can happen for any several number of reasons, it may cause panic, and you may think the pregnancy is in peril. I had a lighter test one day and got worried, but all was well, so it’s not worth it, it is just a fun experiment as long as you don’t get too caught up in it, and solely for fun purposes ONLY.
Again you will find ladies with singleton pregnancies getting super early tests at 8, 9 days post ovulation as well, so it’s just something to ponder, as you wait for answers, and also, if you know you own former ‘history’ with your testing, as I explained of mine, it could be a fun way of guessing how many beans you are carrying along with you, but is certainly not anything definite, and again, may never be proven, an indicator of twins or more.
** 4 of my own, 1 million pregnancy tests, are added at the bottom of this page**
#3) Increased Pregnancy Symptoms mean more then 1 Bambino in Your pouch?
For many YES, for me, NO, not really, except for being tired, but I did have other kids to tend to, so it’s hard to say. With my 1st pregnancy the symptoms were by far the worst, and the second would follow that. They actually got better with each and every pregnancy, so for me, not an indicator, but officially speaking YES, women who are pregnant with multiples, do frequently, have exaggerated pregnancy symptoms, due to the extra hormone levels in their blood stream.
These can be nausea, vomiting, dizziness, fatigue, mood swings, constipation, swollen breasts, tender breasts, and blue veins underneath the skin, in the chest and other areas. That was always my BFP tell tale sign, once I knew what I was looking for, anyhow. (Does not mean you must notice these, some women may not, and other may not until well after the positive pregnancy test, but it’s fun to look and to guess right?).
Like I said for me, the symptoms were not as bad with my twins as they were with the first baby I ever conceived, and the second not much better, but better, which makes me wonder, if it has to do with boys vs. girls, though some would swear me the opposite. I could argue for me, boys cause more pregnancy discomfort, and girls fewer, but some moms would definitely disagree with me, which would make that another imperfect statement to make.
Some mothers would also agree that their twin pregnancy was not as bad (Symptom wise) as a previous single pregnancy, though I would say that more would say the opposite, that it was more intense, you will still continue to find two sides of the coin on this one as well, though in parts it IS proven to be more fact then fiction.
#4) Fast, Early, Weight Gain In The 1ST Trimester
Ok, I can speak for myself quite easily here and say ‘HECK YEAH’, It was definitely (looking back), a symptom. I put on weight without doing a darned thing, in the 1st trimester, with my pregnancy with Mikayla and her lost twin, and my girls now. In the 1st trimester, for both pregnancies I put on more then the average weight, and 1/2 to most of the overall weight in the 1st trimester, and worried I’d go way over the norm, and that was not the case, the numbers leveled out as I went on, but initially, the body does seem to prepare itself for the extra nourishment, and fat stores it needs, for a multiple conception, by packing on the pounds sooner then later.
I’m sure you will find some twin moms that disagree, or lost weight, or didn’t notice, or would totally agree, but there is some proven fact that especially, in women that don’t have a nice amount of fat stores already on them, that the body will try and get things prepped for the taxing journey ahead with carrying twins, or more. This may be why, more twin conceptions naturally happen to women who are heavier, then those who are smaller in size.
#5) Your Uterus Is Measuring Large For Your Due Date
This can often happen because of miscalculation of the due date, or a larger then normal baby, the babies position in the uterus, as you continue on in the pregnancy, amount of amniotic fluid around the baby, and so on, BUT women with twins, ‘MOST always’ measure larger for dates, then a singleton pregnancy.
I say MOST of the time, because you will find a rare bird or two, who just happens to measure spot on and not know a thing. You might find this rare bird or two, hiding out on the Discovery Health Channel somewhere, but for the vast majority, if you get measured, your fundal height (Uterine height), it will most always be noticeably large for dates, especially as you get into the second trimester and so on.
With the girls, at my first OB appointment, which was at 8 weeks, the Dr. said he could clearly feel my womb, which meant, at/above the pubic region, when the uterus starts moving out of the pelvis, normally at around 12 weeks or so. I measured 4-6 weeks ahead for the 1st 27 weeks of the pregnancy, until things took an unexpected turn, and I measured at 38 weeks…meaning TERM!
The Dr. joked, that it’s all ‘All outward growth from here…HA HA HA…soon we’ll have to get out the wheelbarrow’. I wasn’t laughing. 11 weeks ahead???
One of the babies had turned frank breech and the babies were head to toe, fully extended, without bent knees and so that explained all the stretching pains i had been having. The positioning of the babies can absolutely cause your measurement to increase fairly drastically. Don’t panic as I did. I never did need to get out that wheelbarrow after all 😆
#6) Hearing Two Separate Heartbeats On A Doppler
Well, unless you are a trained professional, have been pregnant with twins before, and have used an at home doppler, trained to use a doppler at work, or just plain super savvy, it can be hard to clearly discern two separate heartbeats from one babies’ heart beat, and also your own heartbeat can cause confusion to some, as well, so playing around at home with a doppler, unless you are as savvy, or experienced, as mentioned above, is not a certainty, until later when it becomes easier to figure out.
What is a certainty of two separate twin heartbeats? Either a doctor performing the doppler ultrasound on you, and hearing it for himself, after all he’s a trained professional, or you hearing two heartbeats and discerning the differences by:
A)There is a bit of distance between them. though early on this is hard, because they start out really close, and are quite small, so it’s not a good predictor until later when you likely already know, but no harm in having a little fun, as long as you don’t go out buying two of everything just yet.
B) Hearing distinct two heartbeats that are clearly NOT your own (Over 110 BPM..I have a fast pulse rate, so 100 resting is not abnormal for me, but a fetus’ heartbeat is much faster, especially in the 1st trimester, where it rises peaks, falls a bit, then steadies out.
You need to hear two heartbeats, again proven to not be your own, check for your own rate FIRST, just in case you have been running a marathon beforehand, and the heartbeats should be much higher then that of your own.
Between 120-180 (Even 190 sometimes), BPM depending on where you are in the pregnancy, but remember, most of you will have a lower pulse rate, resting then my own, so there should be an even bigger, and easier difference, to your own ears, in that department.
Home doppler use can be tricky, and require some time to get used to, so in any pregnancy, don’t panic, many factors such as your weight, the babies location in the uterus, and how you perform the doppler, if you have a tilted uterus it can make things harder, and also just your hand at the wheel of the doppler makes a ton of difference.
Work slow along the lower abdomen, near the pubic region, when early on. Use lots of ultrasound gel, move your hand with the probe very slowly, have patience, and if at first you don’t succeed try, try again. It was one of the best investments I have EVER made! Guess I can sell mine now, since I’m DONE DONE..*WAH*. Interested? Email me. You definitely want the digital heart rate display.
C) Also the heartbeats usually will not be the exact same beats per minute, or you might be mistaking one for two, and be off the mark. They usually will be at least 5 beats different from one another, but some would say a good 10, possibly even more, is a definite indicator of finding two separate heartbeats.
You can always go & have your fun, but remember, not to panic or take things too seriously. Schedule an Ultrasound appointment, and find out for absolute sure, before buying a second crib!
#7) Increased fetal movement
Well if you have not had an ultrasound by this point, and still wondering if you have one or two in tow, you might just be going bonkers about now, and looking for any signs or indicators.
What is increased fetal movement? Well, early on, even with twins, things may seem just the same ‘activity wise’, with two babies, as it does with one. As they grow and become stronger, most women will notice a sudden & definite increase, in the amount of overall movement, taking place in various locations of their abdomens.
I have had calm babies, and feisty ones, and NOTHING compared to the activity that went on inside of my twin belly, and I do mean NOTHING. However, if i were a first time mom would i have known based on movement alone with nothing prior to compare it to? NO! Though, later on, the 2 sets of hiccups, in different regions of my tummy, certainly would have made me think quite a bit, about something not so normal, going on in there.
I’m certain without ultrasounds or proper prenatal care, (Or the realization of any hiccups), women could miss this sign, or just have some laid back babies, and not know, but again this is the minority of women, most get prenatal care and would exhibit other signs, alarming their Dr’s to perform an immediate scan.
Most twin moms would say they see more body parts in more places, and feel like they have aliens living inside of them, once the true strong movement begins, and I have to agree with that majority on this one. Hard to miss, if you are a true, been there done that, mom.
#8) Motherly Intuition Is NOT A Myth, It Often Proves Correct!
Some women, just sense…or just feel like they KNOW they are pregnant with twins or more. It may be intuition, mixed with dreams, and ongoing thoughts that just won’t leave their minds. There is something to be said about such intuition, as it is often correct.
Now in my case, it wasn’t correct, but then again I was in denial that I could possibly be pregnant with anything more then one baby, based on the way my cycle had gone down. When people joked with me about the numbers and such, I pushed it to the back of my mind, I had no inklings, feelings, thoughts, or dreams….but again, I wasn’t desiring a twin pregnancy at the time, I was afraid of it, so that may have temporarily shut off my motherly intuitions for this pregnancy, who knows? But a lot of women swear they are pregnant with a duo, and are found to be correct.
Some women really desiring twins, may have the same thoughts, but turn out only pregnant with 1 baby. This depends on how truly keep your ‘Mom-Dar’ really is, but many are right, though some can be wrong. Just like thoughts on gender. I was off on the twin part, but for some reason believed deep down, I had two girls, and POOF two girls it was, so you just never know.
#9) Natural Twinning Skips a Generation? NOT!
This means, if your mom had twins, meaning you are a twin, or you have twin siblings that were naturally conceived, you are safe from having multiples yourself, because it skips a generation? That is absolute hogwash!
Twinning is passed down from generation TO generation, so you have an increased risk of having twins, based on your side of the family. Any twins that run down your own blood line, will increase your chances for a duo.
On your husband’s side, there is no clear evidence, AT ALL, that his family history increases any type of twinning whatsoever, so if your husband is a twin, you are deemed safe. (For now, pending any future research that would say otherwise, but that is how it stands as of now, so no worries there.)
#10) Check Out That Girth? Are You Feeling Large & In Charge? Size Does Matter!
I know few women who are not first time mothers, because of course first time mom’s have nothing to compare it to, but I know few that would disagree with the fact that you grow larger, and faster, with multiples, than a singleton birth.
Now granted some babies are larger the others, but this is a more drastic difference then an ounce or even a pound or two, we are talking about a WHOLE other human being growing in there. I won’t say you will be double the size you were with your singleton, but you’ll get bigger for sure. I have yet to meet a twin mom who’d argue that point.
I grew slowly in the beginning, no one would ever have known I had two in tow, I carried very nicely, but when a certain point hit, my every week picture showed a drastic, nearly daily, much less weekly change, that I never remember in any singleton pregnancy of mine. Sometimes I would go two weeks before I’d see any growth, and even be worried with only one in tow. The growth rate was just, noticeably slower.
Not with the girls, there was consistent growth, sometimes, scary fast growth, especially once the third trimester hit. I didn’t topple over as I had expected to, towards the end, but I was definitely larger with twins, there is no denying that one, and way more uncomfortable as the end approached.
Also, let’s just say, areas that I remember being able to shave still, at the end of pregnancy before, were untouchable, and unreachable, with the twin pregnancy. It’s amazing how the human body can grow to fit so much baby inside of us, and the eventually get back to it’s prior state. (With time, patience, and a little work of course). It’s a truly miraculous thing!
#11- The Tell-All: Ultrasound Confirmation By A Trained Professional
There really is no greater way to know you are carrying twins, unless you are on the delivery table, and they say ‘It’s a girl’…’Oh, but wait..here comes a boy to!’ 😯 Imagine back in those days?? YIKES!
Ultrasound rarely does not detect a twin pregnancy. There are super rare cases of a twin being missed, hiding behind the other, or what have you, but if you receive several ultrasounds, that see only 1 baby, you can most definitely rest assured, you are carrying one baby. If you see two babies, chances are 100%, you are carrying twins, but the fact still remains, that starting out with twins, does not necessarily mean carrying twin babies to term.
There is a phenomenon called ‘Vanishing Twin Syndrome’ which happens in as many as 20-30% of all multiple pregnancies, which is quite a high number. Women who don’t get fertility assistance, may very well never know of the vanished twin, since they aren’t monitored visually, at such an early stage.
In fact 1 in 8 of us statistically started as a twin, but only 1 in 70 is actually born a twin, so the first trimester carrying twins, is always a risky one, because anything really can happen, as it did once to me. Just always remember, none of these things are preventable, or ever your fault. It’s all just a part of nature, and survival of the fittest.
And that article, is laying some myths to rest, finding truth in some things, we aren’t quite sure of, inaccuracies in others, finding facts from fiction, and some questions, will just have to go unanswered as of now.
This article is aimed at pregnant, wanting to become pregnant, or just interested persons, who are wondering if they to, could be one of the chosen, multiple mommies of our time, and is aimed at helping women who clearly want answers, a way to have a little fun, in finding them, via the facts, and my own personal experience, which people do enjoy hearing experiences, I know I sure do.
Thanks for reading, and visiting my website. If you find yourself pregnant with twins, and even if it’s just a singleton baby, I have a wealth of information, videos, posts, stores to buy baby gear, fun facts, baby photo contests, and much more, that may encourage you to Google friend connect my blog, if you blog yourself, or just follow my site, by bookmarking it, and stopping by every now and again. You don’t NEED to have twins, to be a friend, here at Twinpossible! Still much to learn & to do!
However many babies end up in your tummy, I wish you a safe, happy, and healthy pregnancy!
*For fun, some of my own tests below, from my past pregnancy with multiples.*
– With love..Shelly @ Twinpossible, where NOTHING is Impossible!
The Lingo: (For Those Unfamiliar):
BFP- Big, Fat Positive pregnancy test
DPO- Days Past Ovulation
POAS- Pee On A Stick (Peeing on a pregnancy test!)
The Wonders of Eyelid Surgery for Different Kinds of People (Mom’s Included)
Among plastic surgery procedures, eyelid surgery is becoming ever more popular, and for good reason. Eyelid surgery has applications that positively impact health, sight, and appearance. It’s the perfect blend of “fashion and function”, so to speak. Not just for people of a certain age, eyelid surgery has a lot of value for young people. So if you are interested in what modern plastic surgery can offer to your eyelids, here are some of the things you should consider before talking to your doctor.
Eyelid Surgery Can Improve Sight. One of the best reasons to get eyelid surgery is when fat and drooping skin above the eyes starts to sag in front of your field of vision. Because this process happens gradually, over years, you may not notice that your field of vision is reduced. But if you have this problem, you can easily move the skin out of the way and see what you’re missing. Other people who have “Monolids” are unable to open their eyes as wide as people who have a natural fold in the eyelid. Creating this fold increases the field of vision enormously, and is aesthetically preferred by some patients.
Eyelid Surgery Can Reduce the Signs of Age. Age takes its toll on and around the eyes before it is detectable almost anywhere else. We all remember the first time we noticed crows feet wrinkles setting in at the sides of our eyes. That’s the early stage, but it gets more pronounced from there. Whether from the effects of smoking, sun damage, or just plain old gravity, sagging above and below the eyelids is a sure result of getting older. The amazing thing is, through plastic surgery of the eyelids, the appearance of age can be greatly reduced. Eyelid surgery is, perhaps, the most “natural looking” plastic surgery, and it’s a great way to look younger for any person. Would I have it done myself at 41? HECK YEAH! I had a very, VERY stressful, sun-filled life, and it shows around my eyes 2,000% with upper lid sagging and crow’s feet! BUT only in very skilled hands would I do so, but techniques have only gotten better with time. Moms should always feel good about themselves, and do for themselves too, not just the children, although we may forget that sometimes.
Eyelid Surgery is a Perfected Technique. For most of history, eyelid surgery just wasn’t possible. This is because the eyelids are incredibly delicate and complex. They are an interplay of dozens of muscles, tendons, and highly specialized pieces of tissue. It simply wasn’t possible for a surgeon of any skill to work on the eyelids with any degree of assurance of success. This is no longer the case. The anatomy and function of the eyelid is totally understood, and modern imaging and surgery methods make it possible for skilled surgeons to perform these intricate procedures with absolute success each and every time.
Eyelid surgery is among the most popular plastic surgeries performed in the world, and for good reason. People have all kinds of reasons for seeking out professional help with their eyelids, for aesthetic and health reasons. The operation is safe, affordable, and requires less recovery time than ever before. If you’re even a little curious about what eyelid surgery could offer to you, talk to your doctor about it and read the thorough guide linked at the beginning of this article. You’ll be very glad you did.
If you’re heading to a baby show in the next few weeks, you will be wandering what present you are going to get for the soon to be new parents. This list will take you through some really cool baby gear to give some sort of idea on what to bring. Normally parents are drowning in adorable baby toys but lacking in essentials. This infographic will note down some items that any new parent would love.
1. A parenting book
Parenting books are a perfect gift for a new parent, books from authors such as Harvey Karp, Heidi Murkoff and Sheri Lynch. All of these books have great guides on how to be the perfect parent.
2. A stroller
Strollers are a popular baby gift and baby shower present. Before you put a model on your registry, evaluate all your options by pushing different models around a store. To see more strollers and other things perfect for kids visit the Look What’s Cool site for kids presents If you end up using your stroller frequently. You can find some great strollers online but prices normally range from $100 to $1000, this is a very generous gift to give any new parent but it is extremely practical for any new parent.
3. Google Chrome cast Ultra
This is a great present for new parents, one of the joys of being a parent is staying up all night burping your new born child or trying to get them to sleep. The great thing about this gift is that while you are doing all of these things, you can also watch you favorite film or TV box set. Prices for this present will start from only $69, so it is an extremely affordable piece of equipment that you should definitely have.
4. Lego Storage Brick
This is a great gift not only for the parents but also for the newly born child. This is a great storage unit that you can use to store your child’s toys, games and costumes. But this is also a great gift for your child as it can be a great piece of decoration for your child’s room or games room. You can’t really go wrong with a a solution that will also indoctrinate them into the world of plastic toys, this is yet another very affordable gift sitting at only $39.
5. White noise machine
This is the perfect gadget for any new parent, A new parent never tends to get any sort of sleep due to your infant unable to get to sleep. This white noise machine is not too loud, not too fancy and gets the job done with an electric motor and fan. These tend to sell for about $50 which is very affordable .
My little pranksters are 7 years, 3 weeks & 5 days old.
On the 1st of April I will have my traditional post of pranks. I have been slacking the past couple of years myself. This year I vow to pull some of the best April Fool’s pranks ever! Especially on my husband who last year was fixing a lighting fixture, faked being electrocuted (quite well might I add) and fell to the floor completely limp. He didn’t pop up right away either 👿 . I thought that was horrible of him , so I don’t have any ill feelings about getting him back this year for that one. (Tsk, tsk..faking death could be harmful to your spouse’s health.)
OK, here are some pranks in pictures so you can visualize and get the gist easier. Use at your own risk!
1) Replace your loved one’s hand sanitizer or like clear product for hands or hair with lubricating jelly. I might go for the shampoo, but if your partner uses a lot of this stuff it’s a great option!
2) Mimic a doo-dee by soaking a brown, used roll of toilet paper. It resembles something that at first glance will definitely makes them go EWWWE!
Put it anywhere!
3) Take his daily deodorant stick and cut off the top replacing it with cream cheese. Shape it into it’s original form and wait for a mega-stinky reaction. You can add a hair or two into the top of the molded, new stick for added realism.
4) A classic prank I have seen done before, but it does require effort, time and money for tons of post-it notes. Sure to grab somebody’s attention though.
5) Most ladies have the ability to do this one very easy. All it requires is some clear nail polish and a bar of soap. Let it dry and put it in the shower for one annoying, slippery wash up.
6) It isn’t the right time of year for this, but some people enjoy making caramel apples all year round. Why not? They are delicious. Except when the apple is replaced by a disgusting, raw onion.
7) This is an old one. Use tweezers to pull out that fortune from inside of the ‘ol fortune cookie and let him or her open it. Of course, first you need to alter the message with your own piece of paper to say something amusing. Maybe, ‘win lotto with these numbers. Play every day and you will win millions..guaranteed.’ Funnier yet, write, ‘HELP ME! I am trapped inside of a fortune cookie factory. Save me please!’
(Or you could put a message that your husband/ wife is cheating on you. Leave him or her now! Get all pissed at your partner 😆 .)
8 ) Prank texts. The possibilities are endless here, especially if the person doesn’t have your cell number, or you can call from an outside source. Pretend to be a bill collector for a huge debt that the person does not have to make them go crazy. Be original and convincing. You can put a false contact in their phone and call as that person. Last year I put in ‘Jen from the club’ and gave hub hell over it. ”Who is she?” ”I have no idea who she is or how it got there.” He still doesn’t know it was me. Have fun with this one. You can get really unique if you think a little bit prior.
9) Yummy..NOT! Single or double stuffed Oreos that make your breath better. Use an edible form of toothpaste (usually made for children, though I doubt the person will swallow much if at all upon 1st taste.) Replace the creme filling with a nasty filling of your own. It might just make ’em barf!
10) Scare your kids into thinking they are turning into giants. This would scare any woman to. (Pregnant or otherwise.) Replace their pants with old, smaller sized pairs so they think that they had an incredible, overnight growth-spurt. A woman might just slap you for it, but freak out the kids? No doubt about it! Especially if you have recently watched the Tom Hank’s movie BIG. (Ha, ha.)
11) I’m definitely doing this one. Grab some bubble wrap and cut it into the right sized strips to tape to the underside of the toilet seat. When your partner or child sits down..SNAP, CRACKLE POP!! It will scare them silly, but is totally non-harmful and an easy trick to pull off.
12) Fill up your co-worker’s cubicle, your spouse’s bathroom or bedroom, or your kid’s room with tons of balloons. This one will cost you a bit to pull off, but surely will be remembered for years to come.
13) Partner or child have an office chair at their desk? The loud sound from this fog horn will certainly make them hit the ceiling.
(Not to be used on the elderly 😉 .)
14) Partner or co-worker like to read the paper? Give them what they are looking for. Gift wrap their office or bedroom with newspaper. Looks purdy, hey?
15) I might try this one. It seems harmless to the vehicle. Use some saran wrap, shrink wrap, etc. to surprise your friend, partner, etc. when he goes out to step into his funky, new car.
16) This is a simple trick that is cool to do for kids to parents, most especially. You have to fill a glass of water, cover it up with something thin but non-leakable like a small hardcover book, hard coaster, etc. and flip it over quickly, sliding out the object and leave it to be found. If you do it fast, a super thin piece of cardboard should do the job to. It’s a fast turn.
17) Replace someone’s important electronics and office stuff with look-a-like cardboard keyboards, printers, monitors, etc. You can use this one on other things to. Replace your child’s favorite toys, or your wife or husband’s toiletries. Endless possibilities.
18) You have to follow them to the mart or be able to leave them inside, but if one cart near their car ticks them off, imagine a lot of carts or even a complete circle of them. Just pray it isn’t a windy day!
19) Hollow out a roll of toilet paper and slip in your own message. When your partner needs to number 2 instead of finding a full roll of paper he or she will find a note in its place. Remove all other rolls from the room to add to the prank. What are they going to do, hop out the window and hunt for some leaves?
20) Fog horn in the door will scare the willies out of both kids and adults. Definitely an easy, bomb-proof prank.
21) This one could prove very dangerous. It’s quite genius but far too risky for the driver and other people on the road to actually do. Putting soft crayons in the windshield wiper will make a beautiful rainbow IF your friend or partner actually hits on the wipers on should it rain, however, again it isn’t a safe prank and may cause an accident.
22) This is an easy prank. I have hot sauces already in my fridge so this is perfect. Check out the easy instructions. They will be running to the sink for a drink of water in no time. (A perfect time to have the sink ready with clear tape wrapped around the sink sprayer if you have one on your sink like we do.)
I get him countless times every April Fool’s Day with that one. It would go along perfect with this.
Here’s some from last year via video on our You Tube channel!
All About Diastasis Recti: Facts & Myths With Video Vlog + Photos
My beautiful bundles turned little ladies are 7 years & 3 weeks old.
Real-life photos of diastasis recti included in the video. This is a great diagram of the issue and the muscles in the abdominals that need to brought back together again and need strengthening after being weakened through trauma.
Diastasis Recti affects millions of people, and most of those people have no clue what it is really going on with their bodies and have never even heard of the term ‘diastasis recti’ before. I know I hadn’t. They just notice that their bellies seem to stick out more than they used to, and that it seems impossible to get their belly flat again no matter how hard that they try. This goes for both women AND men, despite the condition being much more common in postpartum women vs. other people. Diastasis recti, however, does not discriminate and can be caused by other things outside of pregnancy. Many don’t know that either.
A woman checking for diastasis recti via the ‘finger test’.
In this video I discuss everything about diastasis recti, things you need to know about the condition and how it impacts your body, your health and your life, photos of what a diastasis recti actually looks like, how it can affect even those who are so fit they have 6 packs and lots of muscles, like body builders, and facts and myths about this important topic that we should be educated about by our doctors but we are NOT! This is why I am here to step in… to educate and to give hope to the hopeless who have read too much negative like I once did and are feeling down and out about the whole situation. I know that I shed many tears after self-diagnosing and Googling away. Once confirmed by my doctor I cried even more, as he didn’t have much to say, which left me sad and confused. Please don’t over-Google (or do it at all). If you have already, watch the video below please. You may be in the same place that I was 7+ years ago and feeling frightened. DON’T BE! There is hope.
In some cases an abdominal separation can be completed avoided, but some learn of this too little too late like I did. Please DO know that surgery is NOT required to ‘fix’ a diastasis issue. Beyond the vast majority can heal it all in their own, but you need to be educated and take the right steps towards healing and a complete and total recovery. It’s absolutely possible. This video will provide you with the answers to the questions you may have, and help lead you in the right direction towards a happier life, a higher self-esteem and a sexier, flat belly, with a cost lower than you could ever imagine. NO PAIN, NO SURGERY – TOTAL HEALING! This I assure you!
If you have any questions about diastasis recti that you would like to discuss please do so below. I’m sure others would like to hear about anything you care to share about this too little talked about medical condition, and thanks for stopping by. Leave a comment about your DR concerns, as I do long to help others, and wish someone out there would have helped me know all about this scary, yet treatable, condition.
Educate and eliminate the problem of DR, and get your body back for summer (and beyond)!
BEYONCE IS PREGNANT WITH TWINS: How Far Along Would You Guess She Is & Make Your Gender Predictions Below
My sweet twincesses are 6 years, 11 months & 3 days old.
BEYONCE IS HAVING TWINS!!! I meant to post this the day after the news broke, but have been very busy with my You Tube channel, so most of you may know this news already, but for those who did not, it is NOT a rumor! It’s ALL true! She shared these beautiful photos on Instagram. The only thing I do not know, but would really like o know, is when is Queen Bey’s due date? How far along is she?
Her belly looks like mine with twins at around 23/24 weeks or so with Annie & Allie. What do you guys think? Comment below and let us know how far along you think Beyoncé is. 2 months, 3 months, 4 months, 5 months or more? Being that her abs have had to be in really great shape prior (personal trainers, etc.) I am sure she could be hiding those babies really well and be further along then we think, but nobody knows, so guessing is all we can do right now.
As a twin mom I am very excited for her! God bless you & your babies-to-be. At 1st I was going to predict two girls, then two boys entered my brain, BUT now I am going to guess one of each and sticking to it. Anybody have an opinion there?
Have a happy and healthy pregnancy Beyoncé. Happy to have you in our very special ‘twin mommy’ club! Hopefully, the rumors from your last pregnancy (the surrogate conspiracy) are finally laid to rest now, and if you need a Squeem.. it’s on Mama P.!
My little loves are now 6 years, 10 months, 4 weeks & 2 days old.
I would like to have had a reference for my concerns and questions during my twin pregnancy that could be answered all in one place. So I decided as a twin mommy, I’d like to share some common questions twin moms to be ask, and provide them with some answers.
#1) How long does an average twin pregnancy last?
A singleton pregnancy is term when a woman reaches 38 weeks. Generally, the majority of singleton babies will come between 38-42 weeks of pregnancy. A twin pregnancy will likely be a little bit shorter, but hopefully not TOO much. Term for twins is considered 37 weeks gestation. Most twin pregnancies do not reach 40 weeks. (Many doctors won’t allow it to go that far, but more twins go to term then you may think. By 36 weeks or so you will be ready, trust me! Best to go to 37 or 38 though, if possible.)
50-60% of all twins are considered to be premature, but that figure is based on giving birth before the 37 week mark. Meaning 35 or 36 weeks is premature. If you averaged it all out, the average twin birth takes place at 35 weeks. Most babies will do quite well at this time. My twins were born at 37 weeks exactly. I never thought I could carry them so long, so never under estimate the power of your body.
#2) When should I have my bags packed for the hospital with twins?
With twins you should prepare everything early. Having your bags packed and ready for the hospital is no exception. After 32 weeks, I kept my bag in the car just in case. My suggestion is to have everything ready to go at 32 weeks. (30 even better.) Not only will you be prepared come what may, but you will be getting quite tired and feeling larger and more lazy at this point, so you may not want to add an extra task to your plate, and/or you may forget to pack something important. Better to be safe!
#3) Will I definitely be on bed rest while pregnant with twins?
No! This is not a definite in a twin pregnancy. I, and the vast majority of my friends on the message board I frequented, not only made it to term with our twins, but were NEVER on bed rest at any point. I was going, and going until the last day, though of course listen to your body and be smart about it. Also listen to your doctor, as he knows your situation best.
While there is an increased chance for bed rest when you add an extra baby to the mix, it’s no guarantee you’ll be on it. Some doctors are cautious and put multiple mamas on bed rest before there is any reason, but this practice is more old school honestly. The majority of doctors, nowadays anyway, would only do so if a problem posed itself, like signs of premature labor, a troubling history of miscarriage, incompetent cervix, etc. Don’t consider yourself doomed for bed rest.
#4) What are the possible complications with twins?
While a multiple pregnancy is more risky, it does not mean that you will experience any of these risks. Don’t live your whole pregnancy expecting something bad to happen. It dampens the beauty of the experience. Possible risks include: Premature labor, increased risk of c-section, increased risk for placental abruption, preeclampsia , gestational diabetes, placenta previa, and low birth weight babies.
Also something called Twin to Twin Transfusion Syndrome, also known as TTTS. This is only possible in identical twin pregnancies. I had a picture perfect twin pregnancy aside from gestational diabetes, which though it was shocking and scared me, it was manageable and my babies and I were healthy and all is well.
#5) Can I still have a vaginal birth?
YES! If this means a lot to you, don’t be afraid to fight for it. I feared most needing a vaginal AND c-section birth, but in researching this, the incidence of that occurring, is only 5%, which are pretty great odds! Unless baby A is breech which only occurs in small amount of cases, or some really odd presentation, it IS possible to go natural. 40% of all twins will both be head down (vertex), by the time mom delivers. 60% of the left over moms will have one of these other types of presentations. The first mentioned is most common though.
Baby A is head down and baby B is breech. This is the second best case scenario, and the second most common one, at 30% of all twin pregnancies. (This was me.) It is still possible to deliver naturally but be sure you talk to your doctor early on in case of such a scenario, and discuss your options & desires with him or her should this occur, so there are no surprises. Have a written birth plan also, if possible.
The rest of twin pregnancies can consist of two transverse babies, or baby A being breech or transverse, in which case, you most likely will be in for a c-section. Had I had those presentations even with a willing doctor, which I doubt, I would have opted for a c-section. Some women actually go in wanting a planned c section, so that is why the figures seem high for c-section rates with multiples. Many moms opt for it, so keep that in consideration. It IS possible to birth twins vaginally. Use your voice, but when it comes down to it, your babies’ safety will always come first!
#6) When is the best time to have a 3D/4D ultrasound with twins?
Before 27 weeks. Two babies run out of space much more quickly then just one fetus, and things get very cramped and faces & body parts squished, so prepare your session for sooner rather then later, but not TOO soon. Not before 23 weeks, I would say. 24 weeks would be optimum in my personal experience. The babies can still move around a bit, so you can see some action in there, and they aren’t quite as skinny as earlier days. You can tell what you are looking at.
#7) Do I need to register for, or buy two of everything?
There are a few things that you will need two of, but there are many things that you will not. Yes, you may need 2 cribs down the line, but you won’t right away. You can easily use a co-sleeper for those first months with babies, or bassinets. Also, there are crib dividers for sale cheap, that can turn one crib into two separate sleeping chambers for your newborn twins. 2 bouncers are a must, just make sure they don’t sit up too high or they won’t be appropriate for a newborn baby.
2 swings? That is up to you. Personally, 2 full size swings take up a lot of space so if you are going with two be sure and purchase the travel kind of swings. You will want to move them from floor to floor much like the bouncers. Two car seats are a given. I suggest Graco Snug Rides. My girls are 11 months now, and in their snug ride 35, they are sitting really nice and comfortable still.
Two boppy pillows are absolute must haves. 2 high chairs are not needed for quite some time, 2 exersaucers are truly not necessary and won’t be used for MONTHS! Down the line 1 exersaucer and 1 jumperoo will be just fine. My biggest piece of advice if you are not breastfeeding….invest in MANY bottles! (Much more then two.) 😆 You don’t need two bathing slings or baby bath tubs. You WON’T be bathing them together that way, until they are in bath rings, at the very least! Think logically, and spend frugally!
#8) How do I know if my babies are identical or fraternal?
Identical twins are pretty definite if they are sharing 1 placenta, and it’s not the placenta being fused together, as can happen later on in some twin pregnancies. If there is only one gestational sac that two babies are sharing those quarters, the twins are identical. They can share a placenta or have separate placentas.
If your twins have separate sacs and placentas they are most usually fraternal, however there are a very small percentage of twins that fall into this category and are proven to NOT be fraternal, so if in doubt the only true way to know if by waiting to see for yourself, which can take up to 6 months or more, as some babies do look alike in the early days, or better yet to have a simple DNA test done to be conclusive. Me I had no reason to shell out any loot, just look at them?
Boy/girl twins are ALWAYS fraternal and never identical, and make up 50% of all fraternal twins.
#9) How much weight should I expect to gain?
It’s recommended that you gain more weight with a multiple pregnancy then a singleton one, however that is no excuse to pack on 200 lbs. A healthy weight gain for the average women during a multiple pregnancy is 35-50 lbs. If you are underweight going in, gaining at the high end of the spectrum, or a few pounds more, is considered fine and healthy. Obese mothers can keep their weight gain less because they already have some fat stores to keep their babies properly nourished. Your body knows what it needs. As long as you eat, you will gain appropriately. NEVER diet or count calories during pregnancy. DO make healthy eating choices though.
(DON’T get discouraged if you have gained more then 50 lbs. Some women will gain more then others, it’s just a ‘guideline’. I gained 50 lbs with my 1st son, so…)
#10) Can I exercise during a twin pregnancy?
You bet ya! Unless you were instructed otherwise, of course. If you have certain risk factors you will need to follow your doctor’s orders, but most twin moms are encouraged to continue with exercise during their pregnancies. This is not a time to take up a new activity or sport, or do anything that you are used to that could harm your unborn children, such as rock climbing or horseback riding, but it’s really a good thing to keep yourself active while being cautious, especially as the pregnancy advances.
Walking and some light cardio work, Yoga, Pilates, etc. without over-doing it. (Listen to your body) as it can benefit you, greatly. Lower the risk of health problems and complications, keep you from over gaining, help with mental clarity, help you have an easier birth experience, and a quicker recovery in the postpartum period. If you are on bed rest or instructed to not exercise for any reason, don’t dismay. You will get plenty of activity taking care of two little ones soon enough.
#11) How often will I see my doctor and have ultrasounds?
This is one thing you will experience a lot of. Trips to your doctor and ultrasounds. I only had 1 non-stress test due to having contractions prematurely. These were never routine for me, as some doctors make them routine for their twin mom patients, near the end of their pregnancies.
I did however, get monthly ultrasounds, that then turned to every 2 weeks, then every single week, the closer I got to my due date. You will start your bi-weekly visits faster then a singleton mother, and will be able to view your babies far more often then they get to, which I found to be a wonderful perk. Lots of photos for the scrapbook!
#12) How much larger will I grow with two babies rather then one & when will I start to show?
This is a common question that I asked myself after being full term with 3 children before. How much bigger will you get? Definitely bigger. Expect it. You will grow larger faster, and the changes you see on a week to week bases will be more dramatic then you previously saw, if you have singletons as well. My doctor joked with me, ‘Don’t worry soon we’ll be getting out the wheelbarrow for ya.’ I wasn’t laughing!
I got frightened between that and my uterus measuring 38 weeks (term) at only 27! EEK! I never did need that wheel barrow though. Don’t put much of any stock into fundal measurements and that meaning how big you will grow. This measurement can change because of fetal position and other factors. By the time I delivered I measured over 50 weeks, and I walked myself into labor & delivery just fine. Don’t let those #’s freak you out!
Just like every woman is different in how they carry one baby. Some stay small, and some look like they have multiples when they do not. It’s the same thing here. Some women will naturally grow larger then others. It isn’t the size of the belly that counts, but the health and size of your babies. As long as they are healthy and growing together well, that is most important.
When you will start showing will also vary from woman to woman, just as it does in a singleton pregnancy. Usually it will be sooner though. Your torso size, height, the strength of your abdominals, # of past pregnancies, and possibly even genetics may play a role in this. Don’t worry…no matter how it feels in the end, I PROMISE YOU…you will NOT explode! 😀
#13) When should I expect to feel movement with twins?
Does having two babies mean you will feel movement earlier than a singleton mother to be? Not necessarily. 2 babies are still the same size at a certain point of gestation as 1 would be, and will still need to grow powerful enough for the mother to feel movement through the abdominal wall.
If you have had previous pregnancies you are more likely to detect earlier fetal movement regardless of the # of babies in your womb. It’s really later on that twins start feeling like a wrestling match inside of your tummy and there is no debate you have some crazy stuff going on in there, but though some women swear to earlier movement, it can be gas or due to other factors, like with me, not being my 1st, 2nd, 3rd, 4th, etc… pregnancy, being very slender, & so on.
#14) Is there any way to find a comfortable sleeping position?
I don’t remember having much trouble getting comfortable with 1 baby, but maybe I did, and it just isn’t standing out enough in my memory, for me to recall at the moment, but at 28 weeks I started to feel more tired then in past pregnancies, and after 31, 32 weeks when my girth was expanding most quickly, I found it quite hard to find a really good sleeping position. Then came the peeing several times a night. Fun as well.
I recommend using a really good pregnancy pillow from about 24 weeks on. I had the Snoogle years back with my 5 year old which was good, but I ordered the Today’s Mom Pillow this time, and fell instantly in love. It was my Cadillac of pregnancy pillows, and worth every penny! It helped me survive those final months with twins. Even caught my hubby sleeping in it numerous times, so it serves multiple purposes 😆 . I definitely recommend it to any mom to be.
It will be harder to get more comfortable as time goes on, because you most definitely will be larger, and you will have more action going on inside of your belly at any given time, including at 1am with babies up in your rib cage, but a good pillow does help. If all else fails, speak with your doctor about other safe options for you if you need an occasional good night sleep at the very end of your pregnancy.
#15) Will I have double the pregnancy symptoms? (Morning sickness, exhaustion, frequent urination?)
More then 1/2 closer to 2/3’s of women claim to have an increase in annoying pregnancy symptoms in their multiple pregnancy early on. Maybe not double, but an increase. I remember feeling quite tired early on, but nothing was as awful as my 1st pregnancy with queasiness, even throwing up, and my symptoms lastest the longest then, and even my second son was worse then the twins for certain.
I did not at all find it to be double the pregnancy symptoms in my case. It was close to my daughter, which was my best by far. That was no indication to me, that maybe I was carrying twins. I felt pretty good up until the end, and didn’t throw up once. While the consensus of majority rule might say ‘yes’, for this twin mom it was ‘no’, and there are others who will also agree.
#16) Is there any way to avoid stretchmarks during a twin pregnancy?
There is only so much that you can do personally to prevent stretchmarks. They say genetics plays the biggest role but it didn’t play any role in my case. My mom had two small babies and got them. I have had 5 full term babies and never got a one. So it’s not an exact science. While skin elasticity varies from person to person, why not try and do all that you can by: Never EVER dieting during pregnancy, but maintaining a slow and healthy weight gain. (You don’t have total control over this, but stay away from sodas, and heavy, empty calories.)
Too quick of a weight gain or weight loss for that matter can lead to stretchmarks, but as stated above do eat when you are hungry, just make healthier eating choices is all. Pigging out on cheesecake every day will lead to extra pounds and little nurtition. DOtreat yourself on occasion, as you will have cravings! We are only human, but be smart the rest of the time.
It does NOT hurt to moisturize the skin despite the controversy of whether or not it truly helps at all. I used Palmer’s belly butter, and their soothing oil. It kept me moist all day & night long, and smelt pretty darn good if I do say so myself. It’s cheap and I think it may have played a role. I also replaced my regular bar soap with moisturizing body wash so I wasn’t over drying my skin, in any way. I drank more water then I ever had before, which I hate, but it does help. STAY HYDRATED ALWAYS!
Also, they say exercise does help. So even a little might go a long way. Just walk if that’s all you are feeling up to. You will be more tired and should not be doing anything too strenuous, but some simple exercises will help keep you and your skin more taught and flexible. You can’t guarantee yourself a stretch mark free twin pregnancy, but you can try your best, and have some faith, that it IS possible.
#17) What tests should I expect to have during my twin pregnancy?
During your pregnancy with twins, you can expect frequent blood and urine tests, plus some others including an NT scan, which is advisable for any mother to be. It’s a painless ultrasound test that can show if there are any reasons to go for further testing. They measure the size of the nuchal folds on the backs of the babies’ necks. If this measurement is higher then normal, don’t panic, please! It means there may be an increased risk of chromosomal abnormalities, but much more likely then not, your baby or babies will be normal and fine.
My Allie had an increased measurement. I had a CVS test performed on both babies, and both babies were free of any chromosomal problems. I even opted for rare disease blood testing. After having a sick child pass and losing another, I wanted to gather all of the information I could as early as possible. CVS and amniocentesis testing is available, but not routine in a twin pregnancy. If this measurement is high, you can opt for further testing or just wait it out.
You will then have a Triple Screen Test that will give you ‘odds’ of having a baby with Downs Syndrome and other genetic abnormalities. With this information again, you can choose to have further genetic testing or wait it out. These results CAN BE inaccurate for moms pregnant with twins, and are often elevated when there are no problems at all, so some doctors don’t even do it on multiple moms to be, because of this.
You will then have a detailed anatomy scan around the 20 week mark, and if all stays well you may or may not have periodic stress tests further along, but as stated above I only had one. At 24-28 weeks, but usually closer to the latter, you will have a special test to check for diabetes. It’s called a Glucose Tolerance Test. The majority of women will be fine, but some may be asked to come in and repeat their test with a 3 hour version. That majority will NOT have GD.
The 3 hr. will tell definitively, if you have gestational diabetes or not. I remember being very upset and crying over it, but I modified my diet, and by that alone I gave birth to two healthy babies that were not large, but sized perfectly for twins. 5 lbs 13.5 ounces and 5 lbs. 2.3 oz.
Most of the tests you will receive will be ultrasounds and needle pricks (blood), and urine samples. Nothing painful. Even the CVS on both babies for me wasn’t terrible at all, and I was glad to get that for my own peace of mind. If you do opt for that, be sure and do your homework. Go to an esteemed hospital with the lowest miscarriage rate, and the doctor(s) with the highest level of skill. Don’t trust your babies to anything less.
#18) How do I get over the ‘Twin shock’?
Good question right? If you are like me, you may not fully get over it until you have two bundles placed in your arms. In that moment things become all the more real. I remember staring into empty cribs, and I could not fathom them being filled by two babies. I just could not envision it the entire pregnancy.
I never had any early on dreams or feelings of twins, so I was completely shocked as was my husband. We wanted only one more and in fact at my husband’s age he was very content as is, and started feeling like maybe we should leave things alone, but I begged, and then we got two for the price of one. I ABSOLUTELY HATE that phrase, but expect to hear it all of the time. You got your 1st one here from me 😆
You may be scared…petrified even, and if your partner is also shell-shocked and not excited, and not making you feel fully supported like, ‘No worries, we can do this. This is great news!’ It can honestly dampen the joy quite a bit for a woman with twin shock. I admittedly had singleton envy for some time, and my husband just didn’t talk about it for so long. That was hard…VERY hard on me.
This just did NOT seem real!
All I can really say, is that even if you went in really wanting a child as I did, two can seem overwhelming. While some moms are ecstatic, most experience some form of twin shock. It may only last days, or for weeks, or as in my case many months, but having been there done that, all I can really say is DON’T let your joy get dampened by it.
It’s a huge regret of mine. Enjoy the movement, your ultrasounds, your babies inside of the womb. No matter how long your shock lasts, when you see your babies, you will never be able to picture yourself as a mother to anything less then 2. It’s beautiful and AMAZING!
Talk to your partner about your feelings, let him express his, and go online for support from other twin moms who have been there or are experiencing twin shock as well at the same time as are you. It really does help to not feel alone, to talk to others and most especially your partner. There are millions just like you, even if you feel alone at the time. Don’t over think, don’t over stress, don’t over read, and don’t over Google. CASE CLOSED. 😀 Enjoy your pregnancy!
#19) People want to know what I NEED. What things do I need the most from the get go?
Here are the biggest, but smallest items, that you can never EVER get enough of. Diapers, wipes, onesies, baby socks, snap side shirts, at least a few SIDS sleep sacks, many bottles if not breastfeeding, and oh….did I mention diapers? Some big ‘ol tubs of desitin don’t hurt either. Hooded towels, bathing essentials, receiving blankets, swaddlers, crib and/or bassinet sheets, washcloths, and outfits that are simple to get baby in or out of.
Two babies =’s a lot of dirty diapers and they need changing, so be real. Ask people for practical things when asked. Worry about the frills later. Hopefully, you will get some good stuff for your shower as twins are more expensive then 1 baby of course, but these little things matter so much to!
#20) Baby names for two. The impossible job. How do you do choose?
Do me a favor please. Talk about this with your partner WELL in advance. Don’t let him shut you out. Buy a baby book and make him read through it with you, or even on the toilet bowel if he has to. Picking two names is very difficult, and naming children is such an important task as it will follow your children for life, so you don’t want any regrets. Open communication is key. Write down lists of your favorites, have him do the same, cross out the no-gos, circle the possibilities, and continuing adding and narrowing down from there.
Remember twins can come early, so don’t wait until the last minute. Talk months before your due date. Right away if your partner is willing. Try and come to a definite conclusion before the birth, not after. It’s harder to name two babies then one, so it’s best to know in advance and if something changes in the hospital after you see your babies…so be it, but plan ahead as best you can. For more info. on the subject and popular twin baby names, click here:
** What I can safely say after NEARLY 7 years *CRY* of being a twin mom? I actually pine for the old days and wish time would move much slower than it has been moving all of this time. It goes by TOO FAST! Don’t blink with twins because you will miss something funny, silly, crazy, exciting.. something worth seeing, believe you me. In the twin shock I was in, and you can read about it during my pregnancy time back in 2009/ 2010, I was WAY WORSE than that even sounded, and now I’d kill to re-live this all over again.
If I didn’t have to be pregnant and give birth to them at my age right now, AND had more money, I would long for another duo! I NEVER THOUGHT I WOULD BE ONE TO EVER SAY THAT!!!!! CRAZY! One would never be the same kind of experience, however, I am getting the baby bug again here at 41 years old, and who would think after 5 kids, twins included, at 41 that would happen?? But my hub is 55 now, so.. only time will tell what happens there, but if I were 30 again, I’d take another set. AGAIN, if financially able, and I knew things would turn out just like my 1st set did. (+++) That is coming from someone who cried for months and months, did NOT EVER want multiples and honestly felt cursed instead of blessed for a long while. How guilty do I feel now? Just wanted to offer a completely HONEST look back, some reflection, having 7 years (next month) of parenting a duo together. And so this means… if we can do it, SO CAN YOU!!!!**
Thanks for reading. I hope this helps with some of your twin moms to be questions. I know these aren’t all of them, but check out my pregnancy and other blog archives for more on twin pregnancy. Congratulations on your double blessings!!
God bless you all x’s 2!
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Twinpossible Holiday Videos For You: Merry Christmas & A Happy New Year
My pretty, little elves are 6 years, 9 months, 3 weeks & 2 days old
I know it has been awhile since I shared photos and videos of the twins with you all. Here in the 1st video, are the girls Christmas pictures from their 1st Christmas in 2010 – now! GOD does time move fast! The second video is a Musical.ly compilation video for the holidays with the family. The last video is a SPOOF video that will definitely leave you laughing! If you want to laugh, don’t forget to click on that video. Enjoy the vids, & happy holidays to all!
The holidays are one of those times that parents who have loved and lost feel bittersweet. You imagine your child sitting by the tree unwrapping gifts, sipping egg nog at the table, playing with their brothers and sisters, singing Christmas carols. You find yourself appreciating what you have yet still grieving for what you have lost. I have been feeling the same way, hence why I am writing this post.
These poems were written by me in the last couple of days. I find writing to be a great outlet for feelings and encourage others to do so as well. They don’t have to be works of art, just feelings from your heart. It helps. Maybe some of my words will touch you in some way. I hope the good Lord helps mend your hearts this special time of the year and the whole year through.
Merry Christmas From Heaven
Merry Christmas from heaven, The happiest time of the year.
I know you are thinking about me, But please partake in the cheer.
I’m the star that sits on your tree top, Shining brightly and proud,
The barely heard whisper in your ear, When you think nobody’s around.
When you sing your favorite carols, I’m the chorus in every song.
When you gaze upon my picture, I’m in the eyes that make you feel warm.
I know every day you are hurting, Sometimes you sneak off and you cry.
I see those tears here in heaven, And I’m the tissue that helps dry your eyes.
It’s Christmas, please don’t pine for me, Heaven is a beautiful place.
There’s no sorrow, no pain and no nightmares, The best dreams are lived while awake.
I know you are missing me greatly, But a part of me never let go,
I’m the smile on my sibling’s faces, I’m the angels they make in the snow.
Please don’t blame God for my passing, Please do not ever blame yourself.
God had this in his plans for me, Though you wish he chose somebody else.
Death couldn’t ever come between us, Your faith, please don’t let it break,
I’m standing right here by your shoulder, In every breath that you take.
So gather around the tree mommy, Let loved ones bring holiday joy.
For I will celebrate with you, I’ll forever be your little boy.
The gifts are neatly wrapped, the tree trimmed all the way.
The food is on the plate, the Christmas music hums, But there’s an empty chair, where there should not be one.
Today should be your day, eyes shining bright with glee, The day for hopes and dreams, and gifts under the tree.
You’d unwrap in a rush, as excited children do, And smile with jubilee from what Santa brought for you.
But this year you’re not here, it’s not such a lovely day, The gifts are here it’s true, but not one that bears your name.
The Christmas in my mind, is just a fantasy, I’ll never get the gift back, the Lord once gave to me.
My greatest gift of all, I was forced to let it go, There’s a hand not here to hold, 2 less footprints in the snow.
Tomorrow on Christmas morn, I will look up to the skies, And tell you, ”Merry Christmas, and I love you, child of mine.”
The world may not be home, to my baby, anymore, But I know he still can hear me, as he stands at heaven’s door.
The brightest Christmas angel, the world has ever known, Illuminates the heavens, such a light I see from home.
You’re in every moonlit evening, and in every mid-day sun, And I know this day and always, to my heart is where you come.
Today I’ll crack a smile and laugh, when no one else knows why, Because I can feel your presence, my sweet angel in the sky.
(We wait for Santa, track him and open gifts on x-mas eve here, to clarify.)
**All poems copyright by Shelly @ Twinpossible 2016. All rights reserved.**
I hope despite your loss or losses, that you can look up to the heavens and smile this Christmas, knowing you have someone watching you and protecting you each and every day. Someone who will remain in your heart until the day that you die, and then you will see your beautiful angel once again. There will be no more good-byes.