65 Year Old German Woman Set To Give Birth To Quadruplets: Is She Crazy? (Take Poll) Her Story & When Is It Too Old To Try To Have Children?
My cute as a button twinkies are 5 years, 1 month, 3 weeks &1 day old.
When are you too old to have a baby? I mean not physically, because nowadays technology makes it possible to defy the aging process and produce a child or more in women well into their 40’s (and obviously beyond). Now I have ZERO problem with women wanting to have a career first and then a child afterwards. And I can’t really figure out in my mind an exact number that I would think women should stop procreating at. I’m 39 and personally would not go passed 40, 41 for myself.. but that’s for me personally. That is not for anybody else.
I have been having children since I was 19 years old, so I feel like I can stop now and be content, even if the thought of never going through labor and holding a newborn and raising one is a bit sad it’s not as sad to me as it once was. I certainly don’t FEEL old, but I do well see how patience and energy does decrease with age and time. And at 19 and newly 21 my back certainly didn’t hurt after a long, busy day. I still play hard though, but there are times I certainly wish my twins came to me when I was a little bit younger. It’s kind of baffling to me why multiples are more common in older women and women that have had kids before. It all should be the opposite, but I do my best to let them keep me young.
I do have a friend who is 49 years old trying to become pregnant naturally. She still gets her period regularly, but I know inwardly without any help at all (which she cannot afford) and doesn’t have a should we say ‘willing’ partner (I know), her odds have got to be pretty slim the old fashioned way. Not impossible, but highly improbable. She has much older children, but she does talk like she has years left to have a couple more kids. She thinks multiples would be cool to, but she likes to take several naps a day and wake when she wants to, which is always late. Not me. You can’t sleep late with babies! I laugh inwardly when I try to think of her with multiples. She loves her couch let’s just say. But alas, she is my friend at the same time – agree or disagree, which for me is the latter, but she doesn’t know it.
Do I think she is pushing it at her age? Yeah. But I more so think that with her very tumultuous and shaky, even unhealthy relationship and severe money issues that makes it more selfish to the child or children much more so then her age alone. Sorry to air her laundry here, but I’m trying to raise a point here that it isn’t just the numeric age but also a person’s life situation as well, HOWEVER, is there ever too old where a woman should no longer have a child? We know there are increasing risks for sure for everybody involved with advancing age. What do you think?
I think one woman has pushed the envelope to where I can clearly say YES, absolutely she has gone too far. A 65 year old who is pregnant right now with quadruplets. The risks to her and the babies just from pregnancy and childbirth alone are FAR greater than it is for a woman of 35. That alone is certainly something to think about. And she already has 13 children. Imagine that?
The same women, Annegret Raunigk, when she was 55 years old with her last daughter.
It certainly is a double standard that we don’t bat our eyes much at older fathers making babies, especially in celebrity-ville. I mean even my husband was 48, 49 when our twins were born and is 53 now. I do worry about him all of the time and wanting to keep him going to the doctor, and being healthy and alive for our children so he can be there to see grandkids etc. But then again, he’s not 65 with quads. He does have less patience and has aches and pains and issues he did not have when we met, and he’s much younger than this woman. Men don’t carry the babies and take on those risks either. Plus, we do more of the hand’s on work (most times).
For me with twins and the thought of FOUR babies?? I can’t even fathom that amount of work 26 years from now. Heck, I can’t imagine that much work NOW! I know nobody can predict how long they are going to live. She might make it to 100, and I could get run over by a truck tomorrow, but odds are that she won’t be able to raise her children the way that she could have 25 or more years ago. Odds are certain that she won’t be able to do as much with her new children and be the exact same mom she was to her older ones when she was much, much younger.
Older people, even if they live long lives, they do slow down, lack patience, get more tired and more fragile. Things definitely DO change, as my parents are both turning 65, and they can barely handle grandchildren already. Their patience is quite thin, my mom doesn’t have the energy, and you can see they both are happy when the day comes to a close, even if it’s just for a holiday and a few short hours. My twins are too much for them to handle. Some grandparents are spry, but let’s think realistically, if we set aside the numbers here.. 4 newborns, 4 children to raise into adulthood… starting off at 65 years old? THAT to me is definitely too much at too old of an age, period.
I don’t really care if anybody disagrees with me here, but I think more people would agree with me. And pawning off the responsibilities of raising small children to other children, since she apparently does have them, I find to be quite selfish. As I always say, you only get one childhood.. enjoy it. I know I didn’t. I never try to put responsibilties for siblings onto my other older child or children. Maybe watch the twins for a second so I can go and grab the laundry from downstairs, but that’s once in awhile and the extent of it. It isn’t my other children’s job to raise my little ones, it is my job. It is now her job x’s 4 with these soon-to-be quads. I just think it’s pretty unfair to them, and I think the doctor who helped this woman should be under fire, much like our dear friend Octomom. Look at the train wreck that she is, and she isn’t old. I bet that 4 at 65 will be just as hard if not harder than 8 in your 20’s or 30’s. I’m fairly sure of it.
Could you (or anybody) honestly give these 4 children all of the attention and motherly energy that you need to for them to lead happy, active lives at 65? Certainly love isn’t an issue for this woman. She very obviously loves children, and I am sure has been a good mom to them. (Though I don’t know her, I am going to assume this.) But there is more to parenting than that, though it is by far most important, there are other things. Being there for the long haul is something we can’t ever really promise at any age, but is more likely (statistic wise) than at this advanced age. She’s a senior citizen already! In this case and ones like it, I completely think there is a reason that women of a certain age, mostly 50+ (sometimes a tad sooner) go into menopause. For young women who go into menopause early, have premature ovarian failure, etc. I am not discussing that at all here. They should be able to still have children in any way they need to, but at THIS age? I say NO!
Annegret Raunigk, who is in her fifth month of pregnancy, said she had decided to get pregnant after her nine-year-old daughter, Lelia, told her she would like a baby sister or brother. “She’s a great kid and I wanted to fulfil her wish,” Raunigk told the German television channel RTL.
Well, that’s a great sole reason at her age to pop out four more, no? She doesn’t mention wanting the kids for herself. I’m sure she loves all 13 she has right now, but come on. I asked for a baby sister or brother. Nobody had a kid just for me 😥 .
Her daughter proclaims that she only wanted her mom to have one child. ”What shall we do with the others” Annegret joked.
Um, my daughter wanted a brother or sister, but I really wanted one more baby to. I got twins, and my now 9 year old daughter still has fierce jealousy issues to this day no matter what I do alone with her, etc. I reckon this child won’t get much attention now. With 17 children in total, I doubt she will get special days out with mom like I do with my own, and the jealousy STILL exists, nonetheless. Her older brothers and sisters will become (if not already) like mini-parents to her and to the next four, wait and see.
Raunigk, who has 13 children and seven grandchildren, was open about the fact that her pregnancy was the result of artificial insemination carried out in a clinic in Ukraine using sperm and eggs from anonymous donors, a practice forbidden in Germany. All four of the fertilized eggs placed in Raunigk’s womb developed into embryos, contrary to her doctors’ expectations. Her oldest child is now 43 years of age. (WOW!)
The quadruplets are due in August but are likely to be born sooner.
Did I mention that this woman has been married 5 times, and she does not have any daddy in her life for these children? She plans to raise them all alone at 65!!! That even makes it more selfish and more like Octomom. Twins are hard enough with a supportive partner. I was a single mom in my early 20’s with two small children and that was hard enough. I did not plan on things being that way. Obviously, this woman is planning this, and for a woman in her younger years wanting a child via IVF who hasn’t found the right partner.. fine. It’s harder, but I see nothing horrible about it. But her? 4 +13 and she bounces around from marriage to marriage? Just the quads at my age alone by myself, no way could I do what she is doing here, nor would I want to. This amps up the story even more. I find it flat out irresponsible on multiple levels. I hope she’s got a ton of money and a lot of support. And I mean support outside of her own older children.
I will put a poll below and see if I am right or wrong here. Is this and like stories a disgrace of the fertility system? Meaning, should this never have been allowed to happen? I am thankful for fertility treatments. They have helped me and many. But i find this unethical practice. 4 implanted embryos into a 65 year old woman. I don’t know, what do you guys think? Or do you think that even at 65.. her body, her right to decide? I would love to know your thoughts.