20 Month Toddler And Twin Developmental Milestones.
20 Month Toddler And Twin Developmental Milestones.
The big girls are 21 months, 3 weeks, and 4 days old:(
The tree has long since been trimmed, the presents are opened, but the busyness continues on, so let’s proceed with the milestones of month 20! You made it to the big time baby! In only a few short months now, your darling, or darling twins will be..dare I say it? Terrible twos! HOLY SMOKES!
Hold on, 3 might just be worse, ha ha. Nah, life has been an adventure, and not just for you. Your baby or twins have come amazingly far, and you are always wondering what can they or will they possibly do next?
Milestones of month 20:
1) An artist in the making?
Your child if given a marker and some paper, (scary, I know), should scribble to some extent by now. It won’t make much sense, but it is awful cute, regardless. Expect broken crayons, and watch out for marker caps in the mouth.
You may see your budding artist drawing straight lines, possibly even circles. Any writing is a milestone because simply holding a crayon or marker, using it to ride along the paper whether simply a scribble or not, shows that his/her or their motor development is spot on. Things are nicely on track in that arena.
When they draw, you may see these lines and circles, but if not yet.. keep on checking. A good gift this Christmas would be an easel for toddlers. I got one where the twins can sit and draw, then it turns into a picnic table. (Yup, thinking ahead to Summer already.)
2) Strong attachments.
Your tot or twins are as bonded as ever..to you, and to those they love and trust. You will notice a lot of clinging at this age, and wanting to be picked up. Lord help my poor, poor back!
It’s bittersweet because one one hand, you want your arms free sometimes, and want them to gain a little more independence at times. On the other hand soon enough they will be overly independent, and it will be very sad. This I know. So you got to kind of enjoy this.
Every child is different, and some are more attached then others. You can see this even with twins, but bonds that were formed are extremely strong now. Get out a heating pad and enjoy the love while it lasts. (Just kidding.. the love always lasts, but you won’t be able to hold ’em for too much longer.)
Leaving your tot or twins might be hard on them. Make a quick, easy break. Don’t tally. Say good bye, give a kiss, and walk out of the room. Long goodbyes might be easier on you, but harder on them. I know I have been guilty of this.
3) Watch what you say. Vocabularies are BOOMING!
Also, so is mimicking. You don’t want little Sally saying a curse word back at you, or at the park when you are there. They do remember a lot, so just try and watch what you say around your angels, and let them say things that they think, feel, or see. At this age, if they know a word and see something, they may point to it and use the word to describe what they are seeing.
They may be able to utter up to 50 words or MORE! Don’t panic if you aren’t there yet, just keep an eye out for any real delay, in case you need to report it to your doctor for further assessment. 2-3 word baby ‘sentences’ may be mumbled by some at around this age.
Again, don’t be worried if you haven’t gotten there yet. This milestone will start happening overnight, and can start with something as simple as a popular, ‘Oh no.’
4) Stripping & streaking.Toddler undressing himself.
Oh my, this must be one of the most trying things with the twins. Keeping their clothes on! They love the freedom of pulling off their clothing, even zipped up and buttoned sleepers, and even yanking off the diaper to get completely nude. SWEET FREEDOM! If you have twins you well know, if one toddler does this, the other tot will follow. Double the work for poor mom.
I try and divert attention in any ways I possibly can, otherwise my arms and back will hurt from wrestling them time and time again and reapplying their diapers and clothing. It’s an annoyance, but it’s cute in a way to. (Only at this point in life.)
Your child may be trying on your shoes a lot now, and attempting or successfully putting on their own shoes. If they tie laces write me, that may break a Twinpossible record and would need to be shared. But your little one(s) may be able to put on certain articles of clothing, and help you put them into others.
5) Toddlers love pictures. (Face recognition.)
At this age, if you ask them who the familiar people are in a photograph, they likely will be able to point and possibly even say who they see. If not by names, which is still a tad advanced in this respect, they should be able to just point to what you say. ‘Where’s mom? Dad? Sister Betty? Grandma Sue?’ Always give them praise when they get something right, to help build up their confidence levels and self esteem.
6) Fighting & biting habits.
‘Tis the season to get nasty! This may not happen to all right now, and for some it’s short-lived, for others a tad longer. This IS a completely normal part of development. That nasty streak full of bad behaviors. Hitting, biting, scratching, pulling hair, etc. This happens a lot less over here now. My twins started early, but it definitely seems worse between a duo then in a singleton where they don’t have a partner to fight back with.
Have no fear. This does NOT mean that one of your twins or your singleton child will grow up to be a bully, or violent in any way. It’s just a normal phase that will be outgrown. I just make sure to watch my ‘bully twin’ who gets jealous when the other tries to jump into my lap, because she grabs her face and scratches her at times. It’s nice to be wanted, but ladies please!
Like I said, this has been worse and ‘the bully’ changed, so I know it isn’t just ‘their nature.’ As a parent, all you can do is the ride this phase out. You may have mostly passed it, are in it now, or will be there soon unless you get super lucky and bypass it altogether. Just be sure as hard as it is, to NOT over react to this behavior.
If it gets too much attention, it may be repeated simply for that purpose. Remember the old saying that goes, ‘Any attention is good attention.’ Watch how you respond regardless of how you feel, and take heart..this won’t last for long, and your child is not evil or ‘bad’.
7) Climbs like a billy goat, but may not go in reverse.
Your 20 month old may be able to fly up the stairs, but not find his or her way back down again. Going up is always the easier part, and they may need your help. My twins I try and keep off the stairs, but when they do get the chance to bullet, they bullet! (Like at Grandma’s house above.) They do look behind them and put their foot out to feel, and step down very slowly.
Your child may or may not be able to do this at this point. Some may have no desire to explore new heights, much like some adults are simply petrified of them. Toddlers can get scared to, though are seemingly fearless. Always be there because it can be dangerous. What goes up must always come down, so take caution.
Whelp, it’s time for me to get to ready for the busy day ahead. Continue to have a wonderful holiday. I will see you again for another set of milestones in the new year.
Side note: WOW, here is something to think about. Your toddler is not even two yet, but soon he or she will have been living in 4 DIFFERENT YEARS! This just crossed my mind. I was pregnant in 2009, they were here in 2010, 2011, and soon 2012. WEIRD! Just something to ponder as you are passing around the candied yams and pumpkin pie.