2 Year Old Gets Kicked Off Of Plane Due To Temper Tantrum
My still sometimes moody gals are 4 years, 7 months & 4 weeks old.
And this is why the twins have never flown before (yet). I don’t want to put myself and the other passengers through that, as my tots are quite boisterous, and for sure at 2 most especially, some tantrums could have easily emerged during a flight. They are still trying at 4. They have their moments. Every child is different, but for me it was just never a thought to fly and go through that headache. Maybe in another year or two.
My girls can get tough on car trips sometimes. In an airplane, you can’t even pull over or turn around, edit your plans 😆 . You are totally trapped. You can’t do anything to help the situation at 30,000 feet, not that there is any true cure for a tantrum, especially at the tender age of 2, which can often be tantrum hell. These parents didn’t even make it that far. (Read on.)
So this young, 2 year old girl named Natalie, causes a bit of a stir before the plane even takes off. A flustering situation for any parents, I know. (The stir part.) Now thousands of comments have poured in all over the Internet about the mother most especially. ”Why didn’t she shut her up?” ”Why didn’t she discipline her.” ”A good mom’s child wouldn’t behave that way.” ”Why can’t she control her own kid. They should get thrown off.” OK, now I don’t think those comments came from people who have a 2 year old child or recently have had one. If they ever did, I don’t think they remember how they were at 2 years old. Think back moms and dads. Was life seamless with a 2 year old in tow 😯 ?
2 years olds are extremely prone to tantrums, due to their headstrong desire to get their way and/or obtain things that they want, however, they are not yet able to fully express themselves in a vocal way so that their needs or wants are met, therefore a tantrum emerges. These can be particularly bad, or even for a lone reason, emerge during times of tiredness. What was this mother or father to do? I’m sure if she was like this every hour of every day they would not have boarded a plane with her. Can’t we have a bit of empathy here? It certainly wasn’t planned, but it does happen.
Toddlers have ups and downs. They don’t call it the terrible two’s for nothing. People imply that there’s some ‘secret mom’s trick’ to stop all ‘bad, yet normal behaviors.’ Um, what are commenters suggesting? Mom or dad should put their hand around her mouth so tight she passes out into quietness 😯 ? NO. Drug her to sleep 😯 ? NO. Discipline her by hitting her 😯 ? Heck NO!!! That just sounds horrible and absolutely ridiculous, but I am just trying to make a point – of course not. The couple couldn’t even do a simple time-out on a plane. How exactly were they supposed to ‘reason with’ this 2 year old to stop? If that makes her a bad mom then I have been a bad mom before several times over. Come now!
Oh, and did I fail to mention that before the plane was even going to leave the ground, mom and dad had this child and her 3 year old sister Cecilia calm and buckled into their seats, yet Jet Blue STILL kicked the family off of the plane. WHY? They were all calmed down. After a tantrum kids usually become tired. Maybe she would have soon fallen asleep. A reoccurence wasn’t a promise anyhow. That rarely happened with my kids. They were always spent after that. The plane likely would have had the child in awe after take-off. Can’t be sure, but we are talking about human kids, not toy dolls!
While I do think the child was a definite distraction to people who did pay good money for the flight, I’d have felt really bad for this mom and dad. I would have been able to relate and would have extended an olive branch, not any harsh judgement. The embarrassment, I remember well. But this mom and dad weren’t criminals. Their child was not a terrorist… just a simple toddler having a tough time that seemingly had passed. The tantrum ended, and they were STILL publicly shamed. That just isn’t fair at all 😥 .
The point is, for those who do not know this, there is no way to discipline a 2 year old to stop their tantrum. There is no way to fully reason with them either. In fact, it is best to ignore the tantrum and allow it so that they calm down faster, not feed into it, especially if you can’t figure out what it is that they want. Maybe she needed a nap and wasn’t able to lie down in the comfort of her crib or bed, who knows? Maybe she was frightened. Maybe she just didn’t know what she wanted. As a passenger, throw some headphones on. To delay the plane’s departure and kick this family off was extremely harsh and unwarranted.
I didn’t see the Today Show episode in which the family appeared, but obviously they wanted to share their story.
Should they have went on a trip with a 2 year old? (And a 3 year old to. Boy they are brave!) I never have for this very reason. Who knows? I guess they had that right, no? But regardless of your opinion there, to be treated like common criminals and now to be dissed for ‘bad’ parenting skills all over the Internet, I think that it is so uncool. When these people have kids they will know. You can’t just ‘shut the kid up.’ And not being able to do so, ESPECIALLY to a 2 year old BABY is not indicative of bad parenting or being a terrible mother, for God’s sake. Have compassion people! Think about being in mom and dad’s shoes. It isn’t easy.
I know when I am out and I see tantrums and crazy spells with kids (not caused by my own 😮 ) I feel bad. I do NOT become judgemental like maybe I did before I had kids. I become sympathetic. This mother and father have feelings, and the situation is a tough one to handle for everyone – parents included. Remember folks, ”Judge not, lest ye be judged!”
Thanks to this rash course of action, this family needed to spend an additional $2,000 to re-book a flight and find a hotel room for the night. Tsk, tsk Jet Blue. I think these people should be reimbursed and publicly apologized to. That is just my personal opinion.
According to NBC News, Natalie’s parents tried to calm her down but were unsuccessful at first. Eventually, they got both Natalie and her 3-year-old sister, Cecilia, seated with their seat belts fastened — the family was asked to leave the plane anyway.
NBC reports that the captain didn’t feel safe taking off with the Vieau family still on board.
A statement from Jet Blue-
“Flight 850 … had customers that did not comply with crew member instructions for a prolonged time period. The Captain elected to remove the customers involved for the safety of all customers and crew members on board.”
Um, I don’t see how anybody’s personal safety was compromised in the least. Maybe it was annoying, yes. But a tantrum certainly wasn’t going to cause injury to others.
I’m curious to hear what you think of this story. Take the poll below. Be honest with your answer.